Children misbehaving

Ruu wrote: »

Some parents don't seem to give a hoot. I am just back from a busy restaurant and 4 children and about 4 adults were sitting behind us. They were running around the table, hitting into the backs our of chairs and couldn't sit still for one second. Ah back in my day, you could give them a clip on the ear and nothing would be said.

And this is why I feel "ADHD" is on the rise, how great is it for parents to be able to label their child as suffering from a disorder rather than from lack of any parental discipline. While in some cases there may be a genuine neurological basis for "ADHD" I'd put money on it being down to feckless wasters for parents in most cases.
Invent illnesses to blame and throw drugs at all your problems, including your own kids, seems to be the modern way of living.

*FYI when I was quite young a nurse did at one point suggest that I might be "ADHD" but thankfully my parents took no notice. Fact is I just have a really high IQ and was getting bored, a few years later (by about 2nd class) with discipline when needed and I was quite well behaved.

Easy knowing the people giving out about these children have none of their own.

Quick someone reset the "Your opinion doesnt count because you dont have kids" clock.

If your child cannot behave then please dont ruin other people's meals by attempting to socialise them.

I think its hilarious when children run around pubs like lunatics, I have none of my own but watching the little bastards run around and annoy people cheers me up makes me wish I could join in the fun they seem to be having at everyone else's expense.

While kids in any country can & do play up in public, here they seem to act like bloody savages on acid. The parents are guilt-ridden cos they spend so little time with them, so don't want to scold them. Or, and maybe also, they couldn't give a **** about anyone else's enjoyment being spoiled.

have to agree with the lack of parenting skills frequently seen around (not just Ireland though).

Went out the other day, to a cafe, and a child (I'd say she was 7 or 8) was screaming blue murder cause she wanted chocolate. The mum ignored her, and let the kid scream, annoying everyone in the cafe. I made a comment about the screaming child (the kid was definitely old enough to be told to stop, and the mother should have been able to shut her up), and what did I get - a lot of abuse from the mother. So the mother managed to tell me off for asking the kid to shut up, but didn't manage to control her own kid? Nice.

(and I am not a cow - if the kid had been a lot younger, or in pain, or what have you, I would have understood that she was screaming, but an 8 year old screaming for chocolate? I don't think so.)

It's a total lack of consideration by some lax parents that certain kids are let run riot. I don't mind noisy kids having a bit of a laugh, that's what they do, but draw the line at little gurriers running around knocking over waiting staff carrying hot dishes in their hand, slapping off other people's chairs, and generally being little terrors, which the parents either studiously ingore their offspring, or gaze indulgently at how wonderful their little miracles are.

Simple solutions, which were employed by many parents when I was a kid, and are still employed by many parents I know - if you know they are too young to sit still for a long time, either a) make sure you are in and out quickly, leaving no time for them to get overly bored, or pick an establishment that has child friendly areas like a little playarea etc and b) bring material along to occupy them.

A colouring book and some markers will suffice, or if they're past that age, a nintendo DS or such. A large part of the reason kids act up when out, is they're bored out of their trees sitting in a boring room with adults talking rubbish, give them something to occupy themselves with that involves them sitting down and having fun, rather than running round tripping people up and hurting themselves off corners. Not exactly rocket science.

I agree about children in "ford'n climes" being slightly better behaved than our own Irish children in general, the reason for this IMO is that more places are family friendly, and children learn how to behave appropriately when in a restaurant situation at an earlier age.

A lot of it is I am sure down to the parenting of many people - if kids know what is seen as "bold" and that they will see consequences for their actions they will try to remain well behaved (any kids I know do anyway), no point threatening little Cian or Isabella with a "mummy will get angry if you don't stop doing that" if mummy or daddy just keeps repeating that while smiling fondly and never follows through on their promises of consequences. I know I for one would instantly sit down and shut up when I was a young kid if my mother threw me that look that meant - you're in trouble young miss if you don't give that up.

Suzi-Suz....where are kids not allowed exactly, can you enlighten me? Strip Clubs? Not a realistic option. Seriously, WHERE?

Cuz I'm sick of kids whose parent don't parent them. Any child you see running around screaming is doing so because their parents do nothing about it. My 2 cousins are well behaved when they go to places because their parents paid close attention to them growing up, they're 7 and 9, and they know what they can and cannot do in social places like pubs and restaurants.

What REALLY gripes me is parents who bring portable dvd players to retaurants for their kids. I see it a few times a week in the restaurant I work in. I mean...REALLY?! And the parents get snippy with me when there isn't a plug socket near their table! I should tell them to cop the f*ck on and pay attention to their kids or next thing they know their kids are 16 and criminals.

If you don't know how to be a parent, don't become one

Get a babysitter!!!!!!!!!

My god, is it that hard?!

I was babysat, and I've babysat dozens of children!!!

ADHD is a new thing though, or at least the excuse of adhd is new

When I was a kid there was no such thing as adhd and people were the same, I think its a cop out.

I was slapped as a child when I was out of line and I turned out ok, I think that sometimes the only way to get through to a child is a slap. They have to live in fear of something, sounds weird but if their only fear is their xbox disappearing for a week, they won't care...its a week and they're children, they have other things, but a slap is way scarier than that to them.

I'm not saying you should beat your kids obviously, just a slap or two when they deserve it. I've seen kids LAUGH at their parents when they misbehave cuz they know their parents won't hit them, and therefore there is no FEAR!!!

I have no kids and don't want them because well, I'm a big child, I want to spend my money on ME and nice things for ME, like comic books and action figures.

But my little cousins are scared I'll hit them when they misbahave in my house, I haven't slapped them, they're not mine after all, but I threaten it all the time and slap my brothers in front of them to prove the point

Mental torture works

I guess my post was a bit bam, sock and so forth, but thats my tone of voice, I'm a very expressive young man.

If someone's gonna go to a place like a big restaurant then have the decency to try to keep your kids behaved, the parents who let their kids run around deserve to be given dirty looks and even given out to by people. I might start saying things to people, kids have the tendency to run and fall down and restaurants aren't childproof, and next thing little jimmy falls over, loses and eye, cuts himself whatever and the restaurant gets sued because the parents weren't watching their child. It happens all the time