When is the last time you cried, and why?

Last night, I broke up with someone recently and it's fcuking killing me I've even stopped taking my hormones for a while to try stablize my moods

3 weeks ago for a ban on my fav forum!

I hope that woman didn't make her decision based on what she read in that PI thread because to me it seemed to be nothing short of a few posters attempting to guilt her into keeping it with "lovely" stories. Sincerely hope they've seen a professional and talked it through, considered the huge consequences attached to it.

Last time I cried, can't recall. Got destroyed by the death of my dog a few years back and that was probably the only time in the last 14/15 years I've really broken down.

Dudess wrote: »

I'd say it was more a case of the posters convincing the OP that a person with Down's Syndrome can have a decent quality of life, unlike a person who is deaf, blind, paralysed and brain-dead. And despite the fact that some might view Down's Syndrome as being on a par with the latter, it's actually not the case at all, more to do with society's fear of "monologoid" features. We're so obsessed with appearance that it can cloud things. E.g. a child with Down's Syndrome doesn't have the difficulties a child with autism/aspergers faces - often, complete detachment from the world around them - but that's kinda considered less problematic because they look normal.
If all the aspects of Down's Syndrome were there except for the facial features I really don't think people would have such a terror of it.
And being worried about hurtful comments from others... well people who even think of making such cruel comments directed at a person with Down's Syndrome and/or their parent(s) must have something wrong with them, let alone people who say such things. So they're really not worth bothering with.

Oh I'm aware that some can have a good quality of life. There's some kind of center which provides those with down syndrome with work in Tallaght, I used to get the bus every day and there'd be a few of them on it. They seemed happy, we're obviously able to get around by themselves, have their own lives etc. Don't know where they went i.e to a home communal home, to their parents home etc after that, but from what I could see they had a good quality of life/were enjoying themselves.

However, some aren't able to have such lives due to it. We've elderly neighbours, they've two kids with downsyndrome and two "normal" kids. The kids with downsyndrome used to live with them until a few years ago, which meant their parents still had to fully look after them well into their 70s. You'd sometimes hear one of the "kids" (I say kids because they acted like them having fits, screaming etc. The other would do it too, I'm not too sure how often those with down syndrome have them, but it's a huge problem for their parents given their age.

Now the kids live in a communal home. They're in their 40s afaik, and they get brought to see their parents on the weekend, and then back to the home they go.

I also know two families who've had a child with down syndrome, only for them to die before birth/a few months after birth.

It's a massive responsibility to continue with a child who has down syndrome, although there's better care/support than ever, you're still going to be taking care of them for many, many more years than you would a "normal" child, not to mention the massive financial costs of rearing such a child.

It's up to the couple at the end of the day if they're happy enough to accept such a responsibility (emuch greater than that of a "normal" child) but what got to me in that thread was people who are quite obviously anti-abortion posting such things as "At X weeks, the child can hear its mothers voice" etc etc. It's blatantly attempting to send the OP on a guilt trip into keeping the child, or those saying "I terminated a pregnancy and I'll regret it to the day I'll die", sure, it's first hand experience but it's still an attempt to sway the OPs opinion. There was a lot of that going on in that thread.