Missed opportunities??? (Relationships/Chats)

CodeMonkey · 26-04-2008 01:24AM

Look on the bright side. Maybe she was waiting for an extremely jealous boyfriend outside HMV when you were paying for your stuff. Move on.

Latchy · 26-04-2008 01:28AM

Could be worse. You could have fell for her ,stuck up a relationship for over 6 months or so by which time you would be madly in love with her and then she dumps you for no reason what so ever.

Women can be fickle and the cat doesn't always get the cream

Now ask yourself, did you really want to go out with sombody like that ?

tallaght01 · 26-04-2008 01:31AM

Big stalker head on ya

DanGerMus · 26-04-2008 01:32AM

Look you seem like a nice guy and all but don't feel bad about not being able to find her outside the shop. Fact is you wouldn't have talked to her there either if your story is anything to go by. You had plenty of chances. A glance and a smile happen all the time. God everytime you walk through a door at the same time as someone of the opposite sex you do that. Next time you get a vibe like that just say hi or how's it goin excuse me anything.
This hardly amounts to a real missed opportunity.

When i was 18 i went to my cousins for the weekend. He had this neighbour who was about a year younger than me. Anyway we ended up spending the whole weekend together hanging out (me my cousin her and her friend). I had never before got on so well with a girl so quickly we had a great laugh. We went out that night to the pub, she had a boyfriend at the time so nothin happened there with us. After the pub i drove us all home after i dropped off the cous. i went to drop her off but ended up spending hours talking and ,now don't cringe, singing and playing guitar. I really fancied her but tbh i knew she had a bf so never made a move. We spent the whole next day together alone walking and chatting about just about everything. Again nothing happened.

I had a serious serious crush on this girl for the longest time and we even txted each other a bit but i nvr told her. Even got an occasional e-mail off her over the years.

Anyway one night a few years later i had to call my cousin for whatever reason i don't remember but he was at a party and the girl was there too and she heard it was me on the phone. So she gets on the phone we say hi and exchange all the usual pleasantries and she then proceeds to tell me that she had a serious serious crush on me for a long time after that weekend and had always wanted to meet up again. I didn't really know what to say and she immediately expressed regret because she was drunk and felt embarrassed. We hung up. That was the last time we spoke to each other. Must be 4 years ago now.

I am with a girl now for just over 2 and a half years that i love very very much and wouldn't leave for anything or anyone. But i will always wonder about that girl.

The one that got away eh...? Anyway thats my story

AngryBadger · 26-04-2008 01:35AM

Don't feel too bad. When i was a young nipper I was at the leaving cert celebrations for some kids a year ahead of me.

One of the girls in the group walked up behind my chiar, leaned over me, put her arms around my neck, and whispered in ym ear "I'm a really easy lay". Awesome, right? And what was my response you ask? I turned around and fixed her with a quizical look, head slightly tilted to one side (not unlike many curious dogs), and said

"WHAT are you talking about????"

I **** thee not....:rolleyes:

DanGerMus · 26-04-2008 01:41AM

AngryBadger wrote: »

Don't feel too bad. When i was a young nipper I was at the leaving cert celebrations for some kids a year ahead of me.

One of the girls in the group walked up behind my chiar, leaned over me, put her arms around my neck, and whispered in ym ear "I'm a really easy lay". Awesome, right? And what was my response you ask? I turned around and fixed her with a quizical look, head slightly tilted to one side (not unlike many curious dogs), and said

"WHAT are you talking about????"

I **** thee not....:rolleyes:

Thanks for that man i was actually beginning to get a bit melancholy but thats cheered me up no end. big lolage. Bet it still bites though. When did you realise what you had done... or not done... You know what you had missed.

Latchy · 26-04-2008 01:41AM

+ 1 ,have we not all being there at one time angry ? Full on in the prime of youth is freaky

AngryBadger · 26-04-2008 02:04AM

DanGerMus wrote: »

Thanks for that man i was actually beginning to get a bit melancholy but thats cheered me up no end. big lolage. Bet it still bites though. When did you realise what you had done... or not done... You know what you had missed.

Man I routinely blink and suddenly remember opportunities I missed. let's see.....oh yeah, french college when I was 16! Man....man...geez.....I missed SOOOOO many opportunities there. In particular there was this redhead (god I love redheads) was moseying through the main recreation area at clongowes, and she calls out "oh hey podge!", I look at her, wave, and go "oh hey", I think i may have thrown her "the fonze" too...3 years later i realised she'd been flirting with me for the entire tiem i was at french school

Finally, when i was an undergrad (about 5 years ago i guess), one day I was walking toward the entrance byt eh chapel in UCC. I happened by a girl from my course. now this girl, was stunning, as in model stunning, and she had the body to back it up. So she falls into step next to me and strikes up a conversation. There was something or other on the next day, and everyone was skipping the lecture, so she jokingly mentioned this to me assuming I'd be skipping the lecture and attending whatever it was.

Like a true romantic I looked at her as though she'd jsut told me her secret fetish was gumming homeless guys, raised my eyebrow in disapproval and exclaimed "uhhhh...what?"

Guys even today I completely miss women flirting with me. And I've had some....interesting adventures with some interesting ladies, so it's not like I don't know what the cues are.

Chalk it up to experience and lash yoruself no more

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 02:26AM

rb_ie wrote: »

I very much doubt you'd have struck up a conversation with her when she was standing outside. You had your chance and you blew it (sounds like she gave you many opportunities), get over it.

Sounds like you did most of the following though, you big stalker.

are you stupid? if you read the previous posts you would see that the following was 50/50 and that stalking is 1 person following another NOT 2 people following each other....why on earth am I repeating myself so many times

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 02:29AM

oleras wrote: »

After much re-reading(ok, 1 real read, not a skim through) Take it to PI, there you will get people that feel sorry for you and agree with your weekness and maybe offer such advice as "join a club" or such, dont go there myself as i know i would be beaten with a stick if i offered any adive to the people that post there. Attention whores ftw !

Are you sure you read it?? I was not looking for people to feel sorry for me or to agree to my weaknes.. All I asked was:

"Anyone else have something like this happen to them?? If so what did you do???"

I did not ask anyone to comment on my own situation.

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 02:32AM

DanGerMus wrote: »

Fact is you wouldn't have talked to her there either if your story is anything to go by.

yes I would have spoken to her if I saw her again!

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 02:34AM

tallaght01 wrote: »

Big stalker head on ya

if you read the previous posts you would see that the following was 50/50 and that stalking is 1 person following another NOT 2 people following each other....why on earth am I repeating myself so many times

Rb · 26-04-2008 02:37AM

pinkmonkey wrote: »

are you stupid? if you read the previous posts you would see that the following was 50/50 and that stalking is 1 person following another NOT 2 people following each other....why on earth am I repeating myself so many times

Doesn't sound like it was 50/50 from the way you described it. "I followed her to the till" etc etc.

pinkmonkey wrote: »

yes I would have spoken to her if I saw her again!

But you wouldn't have really. You think you might have, but in reality you'd have bottled it like you did with your other chances. Just accept that and forget about it.

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 02:42AM

rb_ie wrote: »

Doesn't sound like it was 50/50 from the way you described it. "I followed her to the till" etc etc.

But you wouldn't have really. You think you might have, but in reality you'd have bottled it like you did with your other chances. Just accept that and forget about it.

did you miss when I said in my original post that "she came over to where I went and stood right beside me....I moved away from her a little bit and she moved over beside me"........so it was defo 50/50

I certainly would have spoken to her if I saw her outside that is a fact.

Rb · 26-04-2008 02:45AM

pinkmonkey wrote: »

did you miss when I said in my original post that "she came over to where I went and stood right beside me....I moved away from her a little bit and she moved over beside me"........so it was defo 50/50

The Gardaí would think differently.

pinkmonkey wrote:

I certainly would have spoken to her if I saw her outside that is a fact.

Lol, what makes you think this? You followed her around a shop for 20 minutes and couldn't muster up the courage to say Hi to her, why would it be any different outside? If anything, at least you had something to open with inside the store whereas outside all you could really talk about is your stalking.

DanGerMus · 26-04-2008 02:50AM

pinkmonkey wrote: »

yes I would have spoken to her if I saw her again!

Come on man be honest with yourself, you had a lot of chances you think one more would have made a differance.
If you really really look deep inside and think very very hard about all your actions can you truely say without any shadow of a doubt you would have said something given one more chance.
Look man don't take me the wrong way either i'm not judging you and i'm not taking the piss either ok, seriously i'm not.
I've had similar experiences jees i have em everyday right now there is this girl in work who i exchange glances and smiles with every day and i'm convinced if i cracked up some conversation with soon we'd be makin sweet love in the storage closet for months before we both leave our respective partners and ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. Fact is it's fantasy. Everyone fantasises every day about everything they've ever done and how they'ed change it all if only the could go do or say tat one thing they wish they had. As you get older you realise more and more that it is just a dream and it's normal to have these thoughts and feelings all the time it's part of being human. I see girls every other day on the street and on tv that i conjur up entire new lives with in a heartbeat falling in and instantly out of love in the blink of an eye. Fantasys that materialise and fissle out as quickly as an interested glance accross a room a pub or a dvd shelf.
'Happens all the time and you know what the more you realise how often these fleeting fancies occur the more you can enjoy them and life as you learn not to dwell on things.

Cianos · 26-04-2008 03:05AM

rb_ie wrote: »

The Gardaí would think differently.

Lol, what makes you think this? You followed her around a shop for 20 minutes and couldn't muster up the courage to say Hi to her, why would it be any different outside? If anything, at least you had something to open with inside the store whereas outside all you could really talk about is your stalking.

Do you know how ridiculous your posts sound?

Either you
a) have no idea what it feels like to be attracted by the opposite sex
b) do have an idea but are too afraid to do anything about it
c) are jealous of the fact that other people can have flirty little moments without shunning it off as "omg I'm SUCH a stalker"
or
d)just like trolling

The OP was giving an account of his experience of a nice little encounter he had with a girl who seemed to feel the same way. Maaaaybe the girl didn't feel the same way and just so happened to be interested in the same CD or DVD section as the OP twice, enough so that even though this "weird" guy was giving her looks all the time she'd vulnerably position herself right by him in order to shuffle through the stack of CDs she was interested in but which was oh so inconveniently in the same section as same weird guy.

Get out of your arse and stop trying to buzz-kill the OP for the sake of buzz-kill.

Rb · 26-04-2008 03:16AM

Cianos wrote: »

Do you know how ridiculous your posts sound?

Either you
a) have no idea what it feels like to be attracted by the opposite sex
b) do have an idea but are too afraid to do anything about it
c) are jealous of the fact that other people can have flirty little moments without shunning it off as "omg I'm SUCH a stalker"
or
d)just like trolling

The OP was giving an account of his experience of a nice little encounter he had with a girl who seemed to feel the same way. Maaaaybe the girl didn't feel the same way and just so happened to be interested in the same CD or DVD section as the OP twice, enough so that even though this "weird" guy was giving her looks all the time she'd vulnerably position herself right by him in order to shuffle through the stack of CDs she was interested in but which was oh so inconveniently in the same section as same weird guy.

Get out of your arse and stop trying to buzz-kill the OP for the sake of buzz-kill.

Lol lighten up.

Cianos · 26-04-2008 04:00AM

rb_ie wrote: »

Lol lighten up.

You pushed your point on OP 3 or 4 times throughout the thread. I don't think sentiments are levelled here for some reason?

flanum · 26-04-2008 04:19AM

back on topic..
fcuck yeah, lock of years ago a lassie i was gettin fairly friendly with in the slieve russell nightclub in cavan, chattin away to her, almost definitely would have got off with her, but was havin too much craic with mates so didnt really grab the chance.., didnt realise who she was(tho at the time probably wouldnt have made much diffrence) till the next day when one of the lads told me i shud hav gone for it,low and behold,it was sean quinns daughter!!
id now be typing this on a gold plated keyboard if id have gone for it maybe, saw her wedding a couple of months ago in all the papers... aaaaaaH missed opportunities indeed!

Gummy Panda · 26-04-2008 11:16AM

pinkmonkey wrote: »

"she came over to where I went and stood right beside me....I moved away from her a little bit and she moved over beside me"........so it was defo 50/50

You sure you weren't blocking a section of DVD/CD she wanted to have a look at?

SantryRed · 26-04-2008 11:27AM

pinkmonkey wrote: »

if you read the previous posts you would see that the following was 50/50 and that stalking is 1 person following another NOT 2 people following each other....why on earth am I repeating myself so many times

OH I get you now, yous are both stalkers;):D

Sherifu · 26-04-2008 11:36AM

SantryRed wrote: »

OH I get you now, yous are both stalkers;):D

A match made in the bushes.

togster · 26-04-2008 11:50AM

LOL at angry badger. OP you sound like a stalker tbh. Running around town looking for her. Thats wierd man.

Cianos · 26-04-2008 12:10PM

Bah I give up. Ah well OP, at least you know that the only time you've to compete with people like this is when they're locked enough to pluck up the courage to approach a girl and in turn will more likely make a fool out of themselves while doing so:pac:

SantryRed · 26-04-2008 12:31PM

Is this not a personal issue anyways?

You didn't seriously think you'd get proper replies to your questions in After Hours?

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 01:24PM

Ok I think I need to clarify a few things seeing as most people have not bothered understanding my original post but thank you to those who have and have posted genuine replies.

1) I did not ask for anyone to comment on what happened to me! I asked people if it had happened to them and what did they do. So to anyone who commented on my situation why did you?? I never asked you to.

2) I did not follow her around the shop. WE WERE FOLLOWING EACH OTHER! It was not just me following her. My post makes that obvious

3) I am not a stalker. She was also following me so I can't be a stalker unless you think we were stalking each other which makes no sense.

4) The Gardai are not going to care about 2 people looking at each other in a shop and following EACH OTHER.

5) Read the original post before commenting.

6) This does not need to be in PI. It is not a PI, simply one guy asking if anyone had the same experience and not me looking for advice. Did I once say "What should I do"?????? NO!!!

7) If I saw her again then I would talk to her! That is a fact.

Case closed.

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 01:27PM

Cianos wrote: »

Bah I give up. Ah well OP, at least you know that the only time you've to compete with people like this is when they're locked enough to pluck up the courage to approach a girl and in turn will more likely make a fool out of themselves while doing so:pac:

Thanks Cianos! There are a few people on boards who know what they are talking about. Thanks for being one of the people who actually read my post before jumping in with random comments. It's weird that in this day and age people dont have a clue what a stalker is and that 2 people following each other does not mean one of them is a stalker. As im sure you know yourself a stalker is one person following another and not 2 people following each other.

Sherifu · 26-04-2008 01:29PM

You're a stalker young fella.

pinkmonkey · 26-04-2008 01:44PM

and you are too stupid to know what a stalker means

Missed opportunities??? (Relationships/Chats)

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