If you discovered your 'girlfriend' was a man.

S/he should have told the fella straight out. You can't be pulling that sort of stunt and not be expecting something along those lines.

Depends on how far you went before s/he told you, but yeah. I'd be fairly disgusted and angry. Probably just leg it though.

Would you still consider them men after they have had everything changed etc? I wouldn't.

Having said that I am in no way attracted to women so I would never date a female to male transexual because they always look like women with a beard. Plus I still don't think they can construct proper willies and that is the best part of a man.

sunnyjim wrote: »

I'm not linking because I don't think the poster will want the attention. He/she will post when they want.

LadyJ, I thought it was 3 weeks, my mistake. Apologies to the poster.

Lux, the person is still a man. Will there be a clitoris? How about milk ducts to feed a baby? Womb? All gender defining organs IMO.

They will have a clitoris, a far more sensitive one than real ladies apparently but none of the other stuff. But I do really believe that some people were born in the wrong body and that their brain doesn't match their biological gender.

You'd have to look at it from the other side of the equation. The transgender person feels that they have always been a "she" and now have gotten the female body that they want, so in their mind they are a woman, no different from any other (with the exception of the missing organs).

While every male would want such a person to walk around with "I used to be a man" tattooed on their forehead, from their POV declaring their history up front is simply going to freak people out. No-one else is obligated to declare their history up front, so why should they?

It's something that should probably be brought up fairly quickly though. Not least because the issue of kids is there, most people have fairly strong feelings on the subject, so the other person in the relationship should be given the opportunity to ditch if they have that feeling about it, but after they've taken the time to get to know the transgender person.

Can't see why on earth the situation would call for violence, that's pretty god damn shameful.

Denial. Like those Westboro Baptist people. If you were always shaky about your sexuality and then discovered that the person you'd fallen in love with over the past three years used to be a man, you'd be forced to face up to what you never wanted to face up to.

I'd agree with the other poster who says that after three years, you'd have to already know but were happy to not broach the subject.

SimpleSam06 wrote: »

Apparently the gent in question had been tucking his purple love bison into the pelvic cavity, thus disguising it.

What the....... Now that's a party trick.

Sleepy wrote: »

While I get that a transgendered person feels that they were born in the wrong body I don't think I could ever consider them to have become the sex they've been reassigned to. For want of a better analogy a kit car porsche is not a porsche even if it looks exactly like one.

This is why I reckon it needs to be brought up early on, but not immediately.

To take your porsche analogy, the person should be given the opportunity to test drive the car and get to know what it's like. Then before they hand over their cash, they're told it's actually a kit car. Some people will immediately say no and walk away, others (who may have initially said no) may decide that they're happy to continue.

Imagine a former convict (for something like armed robbery) declaring to every potential partner that they had a criminal conviction. They'd get very few takers. After a period of getting to know the person though, the potential partner may overlook the conviction, when revealed.