Does sexual past have an affect on how you percieve your partner??

gabgab · 23-11-2007 01:21PM

Thanks a million for all the replies lads, I threw it up cos it seemed to be getting a very one sided reaction over on that lads thread,

Insecure, deal with it, self esteem issues, etc etc,

I just wanted to get a general concensus on it from a few people,

Hopefully a lot more people will vote, but its panning out sortof the way I expected it to,

Hobbes · 23-11-2007 01:42PM

*Page* wrote: »

I love chasing amy!

It is pretty much the gospel on these sort of things.

RoyalMarine · 23-11-2007 02:10PM

SheroN wrote: »

How could it be a turn on to hear that your GF has been rooted from behind while she was sucking another guy's c*ck?

ah the old spittle roasting. i know many a girl who's done it, and since it happened, they cant find a long term boyfriend. mainly due to other people telling them what they did.

its a small country.
if your gonna do something like that, at least go abroad. not down the road.

Dudess · 23-11-2007 02:37PM

Many of those guys who get upset about their girlfriends' past would have no problem being part of a threesome if they were single and would have no problem shagging a "slut" either. Some consistency would be nice.

But as Silent Bob points out, it's not because they're disgusted at the behaviour, rather it's because they feel sexually inadequate.

Also, "spit-roasting", literally comparing a woman to a piece of meat, is a vile term.
"Fingercuffing" is better!

stovelid · 23-11-2007 02:41PM

SheroN wrote: »

How could it be a turn on to hear that your GF has been rooted from behind while she was sucking another guy's c*ck?

Could well be.

Strap-on or genuine root?

RoyalMarine · 23-11-2007 02:53PM

Dudess wrote: »

Also, "spit-roasting", literally comparing a woman to a piece of meat, is a vile term.
"Fingercuffing" is better!

vile term it might be, but what respect should a girl that has done it deserve?

fingercuffing

lolled

humbert · 23-11-2007 03:04PM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

vile term it might be, but what respect should a girl that has done it deserve?

Or indeed any slut that has had sex outside of matrimony :rolleyes:

gabgab · 23-11-2007 03:41PM

A few more votes would not go astray,

Earthhorse · 23-11-2007 03:55PM

I'm not gonna vote because I don't think there's an option there that reflects my opinion. It's all contextual anyway and no one can really say how they'd act until it happened to them.

ScumLord · 23-11-2007 03:55PM

I don't know, if I found out my girlfriend got spit roasted on two separate occasions I don't think I could look at her the same way ever again I'd just be thinking in the back of my mind "you dirty whore". It could have something to do with the type of men that would get into bed together to spit roast one girl as well. God knows what else they've been up to and passed onto her.

If she was with two girls I'd be thinking "you dirty whore" but in a good way.

Andy-Pandy · 23-11-2007 04:41PM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

vile term it might be, but what respect should a girl that has done it deserve.

Why would you respect someless for it?

Group sex is fun, i've done it before and everyone who has been involved has had a great time with no hangups later on. Im single at them moment but if i had a girlfriend id have no problems doing it again with her, if of course, she approved. Differant strokes for differant folkes i suppose (excuse the pun).

Rob_l · 23-11-2007 04:45PM

The only problem I would have with sexual history is possible diseased former mates or if she wanst to talk about it neither of those are kosher

RoyalMarine · 23-11-2007 04:48PM

Andy-Pandy wrote: »

Why would you respect someless for it?

Group sex is fun, i've done it before and everyone who has been involved has had a great time with no hangups later on. Im single at them moment but if i had a girlfriend id have no problems doing it again with her, if of course, she approved. Differant strokes for differant folkes i suppose (excuse the pun).

ok, sounds great as long as both of you agree to it.

how would you feel if you found out a girl you were really into did it in her past.
would you really want to know?

MattKid · 23-11-2007 04:49PM

Past experience makes us who we are today, so if I fell in love with a girl then her past no matter what it is has helped mould her into the girl I am in love with.

That being said I probably not want to know the details from her unless it was likely someone else would tell me, then I'd rather she explained things to me.

Ph3n0m · 23-11-2007 04:53PM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

ok, sounds great as long as both of you agree to it.

how would you feel if you found out a girl you were really into did it in her past.
would you really want to know?

I think that has been answered - why would you need to know?

But tbh, for me, and with my current gf, I dont give a **** what she did before she met me. Why get worked up over something you werent involved in? Or could possibly even change.

Andy-Pandy · 23-11-2007 04:54PM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

ok, sounds great as long as both of you agree to it.

how would you feel if you found out a girl you were really into did it in her past.
would you really want to know?

Yea ,why not. I cant very well have done something in my past and then get upset if i found out my girlfriend had done the same. TBH id find it a turn on, im not a prude when it comes to sex.

SheroN · 23-11-2007 05:09PM

But tbh, for me, and with my current gf, I dont give a **** what she did before she met me. Why get worked up over something you werent involved in? Or could possibly even change.

I don't know how you can say that.

Imagine some lad standing behind her huffing and puffing away all the while she's sucking on some lad's co*k before he blows his load on her face.

Thinking about that doesn't bother you in the slightest?

Andy-Pandy · 23-11-2007 05:14PM

SheroN wrote: »

I don't know how you can say that.

Imagine some lad standing behind her huffing and puffing away all the while she's sucking on some lad's co*k before he blows his load on her face.

Thinking about that doesn't bother you in the slightest?

TBH I think scenes like that are purely imaginary, and only happen in the realm of pornos.

humbert · 23-11-2007 05:16PM

SheroN wrote: »

I don't know how you can say that.

Imagine some lad standing behind her huffing and puffing away all the while she's sucking on some lad's co*k before he blows his load on her face.

Thinking about that doesn't bother you in the slightest?

Ok, assuming you're a guy, say it comes up in conversation that one of your friends jerks off, do you start imagining him at it in such detail? Or if a friend says he or she's going for a dump? Not very pleasant. So why, when a gf says she's had a threesome, would you torture yourself imagining it in such detail?

SheroN · 23-11-2007 05:18PM

Because I'm not going out with my friends.

Ph3n0m · 23-11-2007 05:25PM

SheroN wrote: »

I don't know how you can say that.

Imagine some lad standing behind her huffing and puffing away all the while she's sucking on some lad's co*k before he blows his load on her face.

Thinking about that doesn't bother you in the slightest?

Nope - because to be bothered about that, means being bothered that , shock, horror, she had sex before me. As I said before, anyone I have been with has their own sexual and other experiences, yes it made them who they are, but realisticly, I dont give a damn what they did before me.

ScumLord · 23-11-2007 05:26PM

I suppose if you make a joke about it, it's not so bad. Thinking about it now the fun that could be had with that information, like bringing it up in polite conversation with her parents.

l3LoWnA · 23-11-2007 05:29PM

I've no problems with a guys past and any guys I've had have never had a problem with mine. An old boyfriend of mine (RIP now) was VERY open with me and told me he'd had group s*x AND gay s*x in his past. It didn't change the way I viewed him although I have to admit to respecting him MORE for being such an open person willing to experience new things, for not being a prude etc.....oh and his skills in the bedroom were out of this world too

RIP B

Marksie · 23-11-2007 05:32PM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

ok, sounds great as long as both of you agree to it.

how would you feel if you found out a girl you were really into did it in her past.
would you really want to know?

I wouldn't turn a hair TBH. It would for a start be hypocritical of me.

But it really doesnt matter at all same with in the infamous how many?
That particular question seems to be always asked by those who can't handle the answer.

Catari Jaguar · 23-11-2007 05:32PM

SheroN wrote: »

I don't know how you can say that.

Imagine some lad standing behind her huffing and puffing away all the while she's sucking on some lad's co*k before he blows his load on her face.

Thinking about that doesn't bother you in the slightest?

Most girls would have given a lad a blow job or had doggy style sex. Big deal. If they do it in a long term relationship does it make them a slut or is it disrespectful?

You'd don't think maybe your ex did that with her ex partner? Or do those sexual acts only happen in threesomes, in your mind, therefore being wrong/ bad/ slutty/ bothersome?

From your crude language it seems like you really disrespect this kind of behaviour. Everyone has an ex, and have probably performed these sexual acts and more (not all with 2 guys at same time but same old same old). Deal with it.

*Page* · 23-11-2007 05:32PM

why is it that some guys they are fine with a girl having fun with other girls but not if there were guys involved...

what if it was 1 guy and 2 girls does that still make the girls "whore's"?

Sex is sex and it is done by different people in different forms and amounts...

what is wrong with certain combinations... nothing!

what is wrong is the green little monster in your chest goes some other person got to do that to my girl/boy!!!!

get over it, that experience is part of them and you liked them for them prior to knowing what was done so why be so petty

SheroN · 23-11-2007 05:39PM

Most girls would have given a lad a blow job or had doggy style sex. Big deal. If they do it in a long term relationship does it make them a slut or is it disrespectful?

You'd don't think maybe your ex did that with her ex partner? Or do those sexual acts only happen in threesomes, in your mind, therefore being wrong/ bad/ slutty/ bothersome?

From your crude language it seems like you really disrespect this kind of behaviour. Everyone has an ex, and have probably performed these sexual acts and more (not all with 2 guys at same time but same old same old). Deal with it.

Have you ever had a threesome?

*Page* · 23-11-2007 05:41PM

SheroN wrote: »

Have you ever had a threesome?

what has that got to do with it?

MagicMarker · 23-11-2007 05:42PM

I'm not particularly happy with my gf's past. But that is due to my insecurities and i don't judge her because of it.

HOWEVER, i have every right to feel the way i do, and so does every man. It's not pleasant picturing your gf with other men, ESPECIALLY when you know what those men look like. Over time i have learned to deal with it, but it crops up every now and again.

SheroN · 23-11-2007 05:47PM

If it's such common and acceptable behaviour. What's there to hide?

Does sexual past have an affect on how you percieve your partner??

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