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Problem with housemate

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  • #32
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Cateym wrote:
    Thanks for all the advice guys. I just can't believe how a simple request for information got so out of hand!!!

    Neither can I to be honest, are you telling us the whole story? Your text was perfectly acceptable too, was that it verbatim? I find her defensiveness rather strange, I mean it's all a bit Judy Garland flouncing her petticoats and exiting stage left because you asked her about a stain.:rolleyes:


  • #33
    Linoge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,791 ✭✭✭Linoge


    Cateym wrote:
    Bit of a prob there. Her 'solicitor friend' told her she should use her deposit as her last months rent.

    Firstly, her solicitor friend sounds like s/he works in the reception of a solicitors office. Defamation of character? What a joke. Sounds like the kind of crap someone who doesn't have a clue would come out with.

    With regards to the deposit being used as rent, I wouldn't let her. Shes a very strange and irrational person, you don't know what she'll do. A deposit is what it is, and she's in no position to make demands.


  • #34
    Cateym
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 473 ✭✭Cateym


    Miss Fluff wrote:
    Neither can I to be honest, are you telling us the whole story? Your text was perfectly acceptable too, was that it verbatim? I find her defensiveness rather strange, I mean it's all a bit Judy Garland flouncing her petticoats and exiting stage left because you asked her about a stain.:rolleyes:


    The text is verbatim. I didn't leave any bit of it out coz I really wanted to see what ye all thought of it whether maybe I was wrong in what I said.


  • #35
    BaZmO*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,625 ✭✭✭✭BaZmO*


    When you asked her originally did she know what the stain was you should've asked whether she, or any of her friends had any pets over in the house while you weren't there. That way you're not directly accusing her of sh1tting on your sofa.

    Either way, you should give her her marching orders. If you can't ask your housemate a reasonal question without it kicking off is it really worth the hassle?

    Next time you speak to her tell her that you don't appreciate the attitude that she gave you when you sent her the text, especially considering that the other HM was fine with the question. If she goes off on one again tell her that it's probably best for all concerned if she was to move out at the end of the month. It's then up to you whether or not you want to keep her deposit, but the fact that you can't actually prove that she stained the sofa might make that difficult. Probably best to cut your losses.


  • #36
    Cateym
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 473 ✭✭Cateym


    I am steering well clear of her!!! She didn't stay there last night anyway. After she came back and said her bit she left. She's leaving end of may in any case.


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  • #37
    juliuspret
    Closed Accounts Posts: 458 ✭✭juliuspret


    Cateym wrote:
    Bit of a prob there. Her 'solicitor friend' told her she should use her deposit as her last months rent. I hope there isn't a prob with bill payments. The little white stains were got out fairly easily with the cleaner that came with the sofa. Thing is I still have absolutely no proof that she is responsible for the big stain so can't demand she pay for something she is adamant she didn't have anything to do with.

    We have a tenant contract anyway for the next person we get it!

    Do not let her use the deposit as last months rent!!

    You have no idea what type of damage she might do during that month and it will be almost impossible to get payment if you let her off so easily.

    DEMAND a last month of rent payment......what have you got to loose?


  • #38
    BaZmO*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,625 ✭✭✭✭BaZmO*


    Cateym wrote:
    I am steering well clear of her!!! She didn't stay there last night anyway. After she came back and said her bit she left. She's leaving end of may in any case.
    Why can't your boyfriend talk to her? It's his house too.


  • #39
    Stabshauptmann
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,885 ✭✭✭Stabshauptmann


    Two things are extremely obvious.
    1)She does not have a solicitor friend, because the advise is completely bogus.

    Without going into the ins and outs of defamation, you didnt say what the stain was, in fact you explicitly say you dont know what it is. So there was nothing to be insulted about, if I got your text from my flatmate Id presume they meant sour milk (just how niaive I am I guess).

    Secondly, the person who quoted "published" above didnt quite hit the nail on the head, its "published to a third party", which you didnt. Definitly no defamation.


    2)She shat of your couch. The reason this is obvious is because she knew what type of stain it was without you telling her.

    Now how it was caused, who knows. Maybe she was drunk, lost control. Maybe she was temporarily unwell or long term unwell. Ive heard some embarressing stories after anal sex.

    Thats totally irrelevent though, no matter how it happened she should have cleaned it up, especially considering she had time to do so.

    Now about the rent. That would be subject to your contract, or if no contract exists, the norms of these types of contracts (I think I vaguely remember)

    Its just as common to pay the last months rent as a deposit as it is to pay a deposit equal in value to a months rent (though on this Im not too sure as my experience renting is limited). My take would be that if she pays her rent on the first day of every month then its her last months rent, if she pays on the last day of the month its a deposit.

    Either way though, because shes so psycho, Id demand another months rent, just because she may be in a spiteful mood and decide to do damage. Id also probably take the cost of cleaning out of her deposit.


  • #40
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    Cateym wrote:
    Bit of a prob there. Her 'solicitor friend' told her she should use her deposit as her last months rent. I hope there isn't a prob with bill payments. The little white stains were got out fairly easily with the cleaner that came with the sofa. Thing is I still have absolutely no proof that she is responsible for the big stain so can't demand she pay for something she is adamant she didn't have anything to do with.

    We have a tenant contract anyway for the next person we get it!

    First of all- she has no right to withold rent from you- nor does she have the right to assume that it is satisfactory for her to use her deposit in lieu of rent. If she actually asked, she would be told so by her "solicitor friend"..... You are not entitled to withold her deposit at the end of her tenancy- and any deductions you make from it before you return it to her must be justified and obvious in nature.

    This link will give you a few ideas vis-a-vis a tenancy agreement for the rent-a-room scheme.


  • #41
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    She is talking through her hat. She has to pay rent or vacate the room, then she will get the deposit back minus costs for cleaning up her sh1te (pardon the pun). No rent = no keys and I would not give her an inch. She has a nerve. As for the defamation remark - I think her incontinence is verbal as well as *^%£


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