Would you give back €400-500?

Kintarō Hattori · 16-02-2007 09:59PM #1

Walking through Temple Bar with my girlfriend on the way to the cinema about 20 minutes ago she noticed some money fall from a group of four people. We went over, had a look and she picked it up. It was several hundred Euro's mostly in €50 notes. She asked me should she give it back and I said she should. She said she wasn't going too and I said it was the right thing to do. She thought about it for a second or two and we went around the corner and she handed it back to them.

We walked on a bit and I gave her a kiss and said I was proud of her for doing the right thing. As we continued on our way to the cinema her mood changed drastically and she told me she was annoyed for handing it back and that she shouldn't have done it. The atmosphere changed completely and we hardly spoke to each other on the way to the cinema. When she got there she declared that she wasn't in the humour anymore for the cinema and that she wanted to go home.

So what would you have done? When it's a real person's money like that I believe in handing it back. We're not starving, we have a roof over our head and nice clothes. We're not well off, but we're not poor either. Besides you never know just how much the other person(s) need it.
I'm not one for refusing free money, it just depends on how I get it. When we came back from holidays last year we had some holiday money left over. She went in and changed it and was due to get back roughly €50. The teller in the bank made a mistake and took it back as the wrong currency. We ended up getting back somewhere between €400-600. On that occasion I had no problem in keeping it and not telling the bank. As I said, it just depends on the circumstances.

So what would you have done, and would you have thought I was a gob****e and got into a bad mood as she has obviously done?!

Silverfish · 16-02-2007 10:01PM

Holy crap.

Its not like she just found the money with no-one around, she saw someone drop their money - so she hands it back. Simple as.

How would she feel if it was her money?

Good grief.

Crucifix · 16-02-2007 10:01PM

If I saw them drop it I'd definitely give it back.

Ruu_Old · 16-02-2007 10:03PM

It wouldn't have been my money so I had no right to claim it. The same goes for the bank. I dunno, I just wouldn't feel right spending it, thats an awful lot of money to be finding. You could go by the rule finders versus keepers.

Haven't a Clue · 16-02-2007 10:04PM

Big time. Dunno how you could be upset at handing it back...

Mr. Presentable · 16-02-2007 10:07PM

eo980 wrote:

Walking through Temple Bar with my girlfriend on the way to the cinema about 20 minutes ago she noticed some money fall from a group of four people. We went over, had a look and she picked it up. It was several hundred Euro's mostly in €50 notes. She asked me should she give it back and I said she should. She said she wasn't going too and I said it was the right thing to do. She thought about it for a second or two and we went around the corner and she handed it back to them.

We walked on a bit and I gave her a kiss and said I was proud of her for doing the right thing. As we continued on our way to the cinema her mood changed drastically and she told me she was annoyed for handing it back and that she shouldn't have done it. The atmosphere changed completely and we hardly spoke to each other on the way to the cinema. When she got there she declared that she wasn't in the humour anymore for the cinema and that she wanted to go home.

So what would you have done? When it's a real person's money like that I believe in handing it back. We're not starving, we have a roof over our head and nice clothes. We're not well off, but we're not poor either. Besides you never know just how much the other person(s) need it.
I'm not one for refusing free money, it just depends on how I get it. When we came back from holidays last year we had some holiday money left over. She went in and changed it and was due to get back roughly €50. The teller in the bank made a mistake and took it back as the wrong currency. We ended up getting back somewhere between €400-600. On that occasion I had no problem in keeping it and not telling the bank. As I said, it just depends on the circumstances.

So what would you have done, and would you have thought I was a gob****e and got into a bad mood as she has obviously done?!

I'd say you're well met - both thieves. That's what it is no matter how you try to justify it. You think the bank teller wasn't at a loss for his/her mistake somehow too?

Pythia · 16-02-2007 10:13PM

I'd probably keep it if I found it on its own but not if I saw someone drop it.
I would be annoyed if the person wasn't very grateful about me giving it back though.

Dave! · 16-02-2007 10:13PM

Your girlfriend sounds... not nice

AdMMM · 16-02-2007 10:14PM

The bank would at the very least have insurance on that money. An individual would not.

Kintarō Hattori · 16-02-2007 10:18PM

nipplenuts wrote:

I'd say you're well met - both thieves. That's what it is no matter how you try to justify it. You think the bank teller wasn't at a loss for his/her mistake somehow too?

I didn't try to justify the incident with the bank, I merely gave my opinion on it. BUT, they are different incidents. A multi-million euro bank, and some ordinary people. I had no problem keeping the bank's money, normal folks however I would have an issue holding onto it.

cornbb · 16-02-2007 10:21PM

I'd agree with you, regarding both the Temple Bar incident and the bank incident. Walking away with a pile of cash you saw someone drop is plain wrong. Taking money from the bank like that is also somewhat wrong but a little more justifiable.

rsynnott · 16-02-2007 10:23PM

Yep, inexcusable. That might be to pay someone's rent or similar. I'm glad you managed to do the right thing between you.

copacetic · 16-02-2007 10:27PM

dump her.

Ghost Train · 16-02-2007 10:28PM

Keeping it would definitely be the wrong thing to do. For the bank, if it's more than a few quid extra and I thought it was too much I'd question it. I presume the teller would get into some trouble for a mistake like that. Do banks have insurance for mistakingly giving out money?

Call Me Jimmy · 16-02-2007 10:30PM

jesus I wouldn't even have to think about it. If I saw someone drop 500 euro I would give it straight back to them, no question about it. As for your girlfriend, jesus.

dory · 16-02-2007 10:32PM

You definitely did the right thing! How could she think about keeping someone elses money? Is she nice in other ways??

Kintarō Hattori · 16-02-2007 10:32PM

daveym wrote:

dump her.

That's not going to happen. She's a lovely girl and I do love her to bits, we've been with each other for 2 years. I don't want to generalise but she's Eastern European and well I guess they have a different view on things.
Regardless of the bank incident, the one I was looking for your opinion on is what happened tonight.

Catsmokinpot · 16-02-2007 10:34PM

If i saw them drop it definitely, if i just found it, i would wait for a while and see if anyone came back for it, and if they did i would give it back, if not? Finders keepers...

I remember i went into town a couple of years ago to get an ******** ticket, had £120 and £40 worth of bookshop vouchers in my wallet, i sat down to eat my subway sandwich

and put it down on the bench beside me like an idiot because it was in my back pocket and hurt me when i sat on it....

I got up for a second to go over and speak to a friend who i saw in the square realised i had forgotten it and it was gone

so no ******** ticket for me

i was fúcking gutted and i would never have someone else go through that like i did

is_that_so · 16-02-2007 10:36PM

Personally I would have given it back under any circumstances.
There is no gain from someone else's loss.
TBH the bank scenario can't really be justified if you are going to hand back personal cash. You came into the possesion of money that wasn't yours. Making something faceless doe not make it OK.

copacetic · 16-02-2007 10:40PM

eo980 wrote:

That's not going to happen. She's a lovely girl and I do love her to bits, we've been with each other for 2 years. I don't want to generalise but she's Eastern European and well I guess they have a different view on things.
Regardless of the bank incident, the one I was looking for your opinion on is what happened tonight.

but she basically wanted to steal their money. would she take someones bag if they left it at their table while they went to the jacks?

2 years is a long time, so you are right, work it out. but you had to make her give the money back and then she gets thick about it afterwards? in my opinion she isn't a keeper...

Haven't a Clue · 16-02-2007 10:47PM

Woah, woah, woah. Nobody should be telling this bloke that he should dump his girlfriend. None of us know her, and are basing our opinions of her over one incident (allbeit a bad one).

Ease of him, yeah?

rsynnott · 16-02-2007 10:50PM

eo980 wrote:

That's not going to happen. She's a lovely girl and I do love her to bits, we've been with each other for 2 years. I don't want to generalise but she's Eastern European and well I guess they have a different view on things.

You know, I'd hazard a guess that not everyone from Eastern Europe is an unethical thief. Just a hunch, here.

Raiser · 16-02-2007 10:55PM

To keep the banks money - now that was just Robin Hood territory - perfectly acceptable behaviour........Thieving cnuts.

.......Your girlfriend needs to realise that spending another persons cash on trinkets and baubles while the true owner is forced to borrow money from friends in order to scrape their rent is pretty fcukin' low.

.......To ruin her honest, decent partners night at the movies simply becuase they discouraged them from being a scabby, dishonest scumbag would be beyond my forgiveness levels.

- I suggest that you empty her bank account tomorrow and buy a truly stunning pair of gentlemans leather trousers - when she cries, wails and asks you pleadingly, desperately where you suppose the money may have gone - just shrug blankly and pat your pants.

But seriously - she owes you a grovelling apology mate........Well done on your honesty - you're a decent man and I believe such folk get luck back for these things.......

copacetic · 16-02-2007 11:03PM

Haven't a Clue wrote:

Woah, woah, woah. Nobody should be telling this bloke that he should dump his girlfriend. None of us know her, and are basing our opinions of her over one incident (allbeit a bad one).

Ease of him, yeah?

why not?

Haven't a Clue · 16-02-2007 11:08PM

daveym wrote:

why not?

Cause it's his own bloody business, not one of ours. He wanted our opinion on the incident, not the girlfriend...

Kintarō Hattori · 16-02-2007 11:14PM

rsynnott wrote:

You know, I'd hazard a guess that not everyone from Eastern Europe is an unethical thief. Just a hunch, here.

Ray I'm not saying that everyone from Eastern Europe is a thief, please don't take that from what I said.
She comes from a society that doesn't have things as easy as we do. A monthly wage from there is less than what we'd earn in a week here. To suddenly find a pile of money that wasn't yours perhaps it's harder to let go because it's harder for the majority of Eastern Europeans to come across in the first place? Harder To Get - Harder To Let Go? Do you know what I mean?

rsynnott · 16-02-2007 11:14PM

Haven't a Clue wrote:

Cause it's his own bloody business, not one of ours. He wanted our opinion on the incident, not the girlfriend...

People are entitled to their opinions, nonetheless.

copacetic · 16-02-2007 11:14PM

Haven't a Clue wrote:

Cause it's his own bloody business, not one of ours. He wanted our opinion on the incident, not the girlfriend...

i'm afraid it is all our business now. Welcome to the internet my friend.

(tbh I seriously thought about starting a poll about whether he should dump her or not)

Kintarō Hattori · 16-02-2007 11:16PM

Haven't a Clue wrote:

Woah, woah, woah. Nobody should be telling this bloke that he should dump his girlfriend. None of us know her, and are basing our opinions of her over one incident (allbeit a bad one).

Ease of him, yeah?

Thanks Man. She is a lovely lovely lady and I can see many great qualities about her. She's a popular well liked person, and I could see marraige being a possibility.
This is one isolated incident and hardly grounds for people to make a call on our relationship. I'm not so sore that she had to think twice about it, just that she got into such a strop over it.

connundrum · 16-02-2007 11:17PM

Pythia wrote:

I'd probably keep it if I found it on its own but not if I saw someone drop it.
I would be annoyed if the person wasn't very grateful about me giving it back though.

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It wasn't her money to begin with, so how could she get upset when she gave it back?

Don't ever let her into a casino if this is what she's like now. Start with a tenner, win 200, then lose your way back down to a tenner. You feel like you've lost 200 but in fact you've lost nowt. But so many people get angry about the 'potential' money they'd lost :rolleyes:

Zillah · 16-02-2007 11:25PM

How wealthy did the people who dropped it look?

Would you give back €400-500?

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