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LegacyUser · 05-02-2007 09:37PM #1

sorry i know theres hundreds of these sort of posts already

i met a guy on tuesday night in a nightclub (yeah i know..) , hes a friend of a friend, anyway we got talking, he kissed me, i invited him back to mine (nothing happened just spent the night talking), he asked me for my number, and he also gave me his. now i thought we clicked pretty well and i'd like to meet up with him again. anyway a few days pass and i hear nothing from him, i thought maybe he's kinda shy because it took him ages to actually make a move on me in the club. i texted him on friday night and you know we did the stupid small talk text messaging crap. so todays monday and i havent heard from him since friday.

i'd like to meet up with him again this week but i dont want to come across as needy or clingy or whatever, should i just ring him and ask him out, or wait to see if he'll contact me or just forget about it?? The thing is I just dont know if hes interested?

Nevyn · 05-02-2007 10:46PM

Ring him and see if he will meet you for coffee during the week
he either will or will not.

ELLIEJ · 05-02-2007 10:52PM

I would leave him. He has your number and hasnt used it so far. You texted him and gave him the opening to ask you out. Maybe he does like you and maybe he is shy but its up to him to make an effort now.

LegacyUser · 05-02-2007 11:22PM

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ELLIEJ wrote:

I would leave him. He has your number and hasnt used it so far. You texted him and gave him the opening to ask you out. Maybe he does like you and maybe he is shy but its up to him to make an effort now.

yeah thats what my heads telling me, if he did actually like me surely he'd make the effort to get in contact?'

_Kaiser_ · 06-02-2007 12:00AM

I'm with Thaed on this one.. just ring the guy.

Txt messages are great, but there's no substitute for talking to someone. And so what that you rang him? Just be cool (not cold) about it and suggest a coffee. Worst thing that happens is you don't meet up again and move on, but is it not better to know either way?

Fabio · 06-02-2007 12:50AM

Give him call or a text and arrange to meet up over the week.

Maybe just say "would you like to meet up?" and alow him to take it from there...

When you do meet up, you'll get a better idea of where you stand.

Caliden · 06-02-2007 10:26AM

With a phone call you know you're going to get a response, give it a go!

Femelade · 06-02-2007 10:31AM

i'd have to go with ELLIEJ on this one, dont ring him...you contacted him on friday, let him do the contacting this time, he must know you are interested as you txted him...
Dont make a fool of yourself by ringing him. If he is interested he will contact you.

Miss Fluff · 06-02-2007 10:40AM

confussed wrote:

anyway we got talking, he kissed me, i invited him back to mine (nothing happened just spent the night talking

Did he try anything on when you were back in yours?

Oriel · 06-02-2007 10:48AM

Femmy wrote:

dont ring him...you contacted him on friday, let him do the contacting this time

Feckin' moronic girls and their games. :rolleyes:
Look, you want to know something, just phone him and find out the answer.
Stop playing games, this will just send him packing even more.

Petey2006 · 06-02-2007 11:01AM

I'd say give him a ring. Believe it or not, some guys LIKE to be pursued! Besides, what have you to lose? If he turns you down, so what? It's his loss. If he doesn't, well it could be the beginning of something wonderful.

Evzer · 06-02-2007 11:09AM

ELLIEJ wrote:

I would leave him. He has your number and hasnt used it so far. You texted him and gave him the opening to ask you out. Maybe he does like you and maybe he is shy but its up to him to make an effort now.

Don't wanna sound like a prick..but cant ya make the effort yourself..why is it always up to the bloke?

LegacyUser · 06-02-2007 11:43AM

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Miss Fluff wrote:

Did he try anything on when you were back in yours?

no nothing, we 'made out' a bit, but pretty much just spent about 3 hours talking

Don't wanna sound like a prick..but cant ya make the effort yourself..why is it always up to the bloke?

Believe it or not, some guys LIKE to be pursued!

thats the thing im a pretty forward person i generally have no problem chatting guys up asking them out etc. but it always seems to end up a disaster, so i'm presuming i just come on too strong. i'd rather not mess this one up i do genuinely like the guy.'

biko · 06-02-2007 12:42PM

I would agree with everone here that says "You should make contact".
Why should always the men have to chase and chase? Does my head in sometimes... You know, we can be unsure too and not wanting to seem to be "stalking" you girls.

Anyway, if you don't make contact you might miss a great thing!
If you feel awkward just ring him and say that a group of yous are going out in the weekend and it'd be nice if he wanted to join in.
Then move in for the kill (snog)

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