Things to do to make urself feel happy

comewatmay · 25-01-2007 03:58PM #1

hey all,

not feeling the may west(best) at the mo, going through a hard time. Just wondering what people think i should do to help cheer myself up. Ive already bought a new wardrobe, bought some really happy music and been on the batter with the lads. Anyone recomend any activities for a collage student to cheer himself up, take my mind of things

limklad · 25-01-2007 04:17PM

comewatmay wrote:

hey all,

not feeling the may west(best) at the mo, going through a hard time. Just wondering what people think i should do to help cheer myself up. Ive already bought a new wardrobe, bought some really happy music and been on the batter with the lads. Anyone recomend any activities for a collage student to cheer himself up, take my mind of things

To be blunt, What is your problem? What making you unhappy?
I been through collage. There is a ton of things to do, even though every collage is different. Before going to collage, I did not play sports beside kicking the soccer ball around with friends. But i joined other sports with collage friends, even volleyball, Huge hottie recuiting in it. Now you see why I joined. I was very young then. Even though i did not get going with her. I had great fun with her and the others and not because of trying to have sex but playing around doing silly things. That i remember the best. also going away on competiations, losing matches, laughing and singing, drinking and meeting other collages students from various collages. You have a choice, when one door closes another door opens, you just have to look and enter through it.

Nalz · 25-01-2007 04:21PM

collage is spelt college. Sorry just annoyed me!

comewatmay, to make yourself happy again imo means thinking for a little while as to what makes ya smile. Being on the razz with the lads is a start, company and conversation is the key. Ther is only so much quality time with yourself you can have. Whatever the situation may be or how bad it is, your decent mates will understand, and hanging about with them and even your family is the best way to enjoy yourself. If ya find yourself a bit short on the mates side of things...then the gym, sports, clubs etc sceen is prob the solution for you

Rb · 25-01-2007 04:31PM

A holiday perhaps? Get laid?
Btw, if you're feeling down, "happy" music is possibly the worst thing to be listening to.

I second the gym idea.

BoozyBabe · 25-01-2007 04:33PM

Last year I was feeling a bit down too, for no actual reason.

After years away, I moved back home, & had nothing to do in the evenings when I came home from work.
I'm not a real social bunny, so wouldn't call round to friends that often.
I disliked my appearance.

I took up sport. It gets me out of the house several nights of the week, & as part of a team, there are lots of social get togethers too.
I've never looked back. I get great exercise that makes me feel really good about myself & I get to have a laugh with a great bunch of girls who are always pushing you forward & encouraging you.

I lost quite a bit of weight, changed my hair, bought lots of nice clothes, & generally felt alot better about ME.

When I wasn't feeling so down about myself, this allowed me to focus on those around me, & realise just how good I've got it.
Wonderful family, wonderful bf, roof over my head, money in my pocket, healthy, great job etc, etc, etc.

I know you're not about to do the whole make over thing, but how about joining sports teams or the likes, joinging the gym to bulk up, just so you can feel proud of your effort when you look in the mirror.

Try to take up different hobbies so things to do at night aren't the same 2-3 options every time.
Variety is the spice of life as they say!!

Take care.

comewatmay · 25-01-2007 04:36PM

BoozyBabe wrote:

Last year I was feeling a bit down too, for no actual reason.

After years away, I moved back home, & had nothing to do in the evenings when I came home from work.
I'm not a real social bunny, so wouldn't call round to friends that often.
I disliked my appearance.

I took up sport. It gets me out of the house several nights of the week, & as part of a team, there are lots of social get togethers too.
I've never looked back. I get great exercise that makes me feel really good about myself & I get to have a laugh with a great bunch of girls who are always pushing you forward & encouraging you.

I lost quite a bit of weight, changed my hair, bought lots of nice clothes, & generally felt alot better about ME.

When I wasn't feeling so down about myself, this allowed me to focus on those around me, & realise just how good I've got it.
Wonderful family, wonderful bf, roof over my head, money in my pocket, healthy, great job etc, etc, etc.

I know you're not about to do the whole make over thing, but how about joining sports teams or the likes, joinging the gym to bulk up, just so you can feel proud of your effort when you look in the mirror.

Try to take up different hobbies so things to do at night aren't the same 2-3 options every time.
Variety is the spice of life as they say!!

Take care.

i already play sport 3 times a week and go to gym twice a week, i think what my porblem is, is that im bored of the monotony of it all.I mean ive been training this seriously for the last 5 years met loads of ppl through etc.I dont know i think i need to just get out of ireland take a break somewhere nice and warm

imeatingchips · 25-01-2007 04:36PM

yeah, if you're in college you should probably be able to spell 'college'.

may as well put that on

list as well

Ruu_Old · 25-01-2007 04:40PM

A change of scenery might do you some good alright. Realise how good you have it compared to others, try to pick out the best in things. Get better soon.

imeatingchips · 25-01-2007 04:44PM

on the plus side, now you can spell college

imeatingchips · 25-01-2007 04:44PM

but, on the plus side, now you can spell college

comewatmay · 25-01-2007 04:49PM

imeatingchips wrote:

but, on the plus side, now you can spell college

this comment is needless and unhelpful. At least on the plus side i know u r a complete and utter tool

Beruthiel · 25-01-2007 04:54PM

Next one to continue bickering and not stay on topic will be banned

B

Shinners23 · 25-01-2007 04:54PM

Whenever I'm feeling down I always go for an all over body massage, followed by lunch and some pints with a friend.... Ah I feel happy already.

Also as in Father Ted - puppy's and pin cushions

Hope you feel better

triona1 · 25-01-2007 04:57PM

I know how u feel,id suggest a bit of time on your own,look at the achivements you may have had in life,thats it really, get to know your self,a pat on the back a smile always helps,hard times are hard but they do get easier,basically happiness comes from within.

BoozyBabe · 25-01-2007 05:23PM

comewatmay wrote:

i think i need to just get out of ireland take a break somewhere nice and warm

So why don't you?
When will you be finished college?
Why not take a year out after college & travel Oz or the US?
I did a year in Oz & absolutely loved it would recommend it to anyone, but there's a catch:- the year flies & next thing you know you're home!!
That was 6 years ago & I'm still depressed over it!!!!
Have lots of great memories & made lots of great life long friends.

Beelzebub · 25-01-2007 05:26PM

I've heard tell that a weekend in Amsterdam can give one a certain lift

triona1 · 25-01-2007 05:29PM

Yes Beelzebub,works wonders,or just at home on your own

limklad · 25-01-2007 05:30PM

limklad wrote:

To be blunt, What is your problem? What making you unhappy?
I been through collage. There is a ton of things to do, even though every collage is different. Before going to collage, I did not play sports beside kicking the soccer ball around with friends. But i joined other sports with collage friends, even volleyball, Huge hottie recuiting in it. Now you see why I joined. I was very young then. Even though i did not get going with her. I had great fun with her and the others and not because of trying to have sex but playing around doing silly things. That i remember the best. also going away on competiations, losing matches, laughing and singing, drinking and meeting other collages students from various collages. You have a choice, when one door closes another door opens, you just have to look and enter through it.

I found the cause of your problem in the other post. a broken heart. It always difficult to fix. There is no easy solution but move on

Anyway collage is a great way to experience new things, Make the most of it and dont waste this chance, your young once.

BeardyGit · 25-01-2007 07:55PM

You need a hug OP. I'm not offering. But go and find someone you know who will give you a good hug.

I swear, sometimes a hug is the only thing in the world to make me feel okay. And it really works, at least for me.

25-01-2007 07:59PM

Join a SOC with a good mix of females and males that's fun. Study hard, then play hard!

LegacyUser · 26-01-2007 12:10AM

For the last year I've been feeling down about alot of things.

I dont my LC last June, did terrible, didnt get what I wanted, in College now doing a course I like, but I hate the college I'm in.. and I found out theres no other college I can transfer to , which is really pssin me off now!! I dont get to see my close friends anymore cause there in different colleges ( and I wanted to get transfered to a college near them to finish my course but not allowed event though the course is the same )!. So nobody I knw from my younger school days are here and I maybe only see my close friends for an hour or 2 on d weekends! Had my heart broken twice in the last 8 months, and one girl I was REALLY close to is gone off with another guy and she doesnt talk to me anymore... the only sport I do is rallying and I love it but finding the sponsorship to compete is VERY difficult, but I'm on such a high when I do it, love it! I've had such bad luck in everything over the last year I was hoping for a change in 2007 but its gotten off to a poor start! I try to go out here and have fun but I miss my close friends, I knew alot of us would be split up after college when we go our separate ways but I'd like to be with them in college or at least close by so we cud have the 'craic' for the next 4 years!! Thats not happening now. I have a hard time finding a girl who would make me happy, I hate the college I'm in ( as I said ) but enjoy the course content but the lecturers are useless and fustrating cause of their stupidity!

I've been considering counciling but I dont knw, I knw there other people alot worse off than me, but I put alot of effort into things and all I get is disapointment in the end!

Steyr · 26-01-2007 02:30AM

I take flying lessons!

Xavi6 · 26-01-2007 02:53AM

First thing I'll say is that college days are the best of your life, far better than school so it's important you make the most of them. If you hate it so much then get out.

anon626 wrote:

I try to go out here and have fun but I miss my close friends, I knew alot of us would be split up after college when we go our separate ways but I'd like to be with them in college or at least close by so we cud have the 'craic' for the next 4 years!! Thats not happening now.

I went to a college where I knew nobody while the majority of my school friends ended up in the same university. I went in with a positive head and made conversation, got to know people and now the college lads have taken over as my best mates. Off to Australia with them on Sunday! You seem to be too comfortable in your current friend zone at home and this could be causing your negative attitude towards college i.e. "They aren't as great as my other friends".

I have a hard time finding a girl who would make me happy

Why do you think that a girl will make you happy?

I've been considering counciling but I dont knw, I knw there other people alot worse off than me, but I put alot of effort into things and all I get is disapointment in the end!

Well maybe you're putting in too much effort, building things up too high. Just go with the flow and don't get so wrapped up in things.

davyjose · 26-01-2007 03:44AM

Take a year off, travel, come back, do a new course.

Scary decisions, but ones which I guarantee will make you happy!!!

Things to do to make urself feel happy

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