To make one last try?

LegacyUser · 20-01-2007 01:06PM #1

Going unreg for this, just in case

I've been trying to get with an admittedly great girl for the past few months, however we're both in college and most times I've tried to ask her out or meet up a deadline has come up, so it was put of. Now I feel a bit like I'm being strung along here, but I think I believe her about the deadlines because my course is the same(e.g. I've had no social life at all of late)

At pne stage I thought she had a boyfriend, and was going to walk away until she made it pretty obvious she was single about a week ago. We were supposed to meet up this weekend, but because of exams she cancelled and I haven't heard form her since.

Now I'm pretty fed up of all this uncertainty, so what I want to do is simply come clean that I like her, explain that I'm feeling strung along and see what happens. I really like the girl, but chasing her for this long has worn really thin!

Any opinions or other ideas? Honestly I'm not sure if this will blow up in my face or not, so before I leap I'd like some ideas!!

Ruu_Old · 20-01-2007 11:14PM

You should make your feelings known as it is obviously bothering you, maybe then she will take a bit more notice. Best of luck.

LegacyUser · 20-01-2007 11:30PM

'I was in a similar situation, told the girl. Didnt work out. Rejection stings and I dont see her at all much anymore (probably for the best) but hey at least I had the stones to tell her and I have no regrets. You might think I'm trying to put you off but on the contrary I advocate taking that leap, you may fall flat on your face but at least you you'll go down swinging or you'll get the girl. Nothing if worse than wondering "what if ?". Best of luck man.'

Sparky · 20-01-2007 11:47PM

What you should do is organise to go somewhere together again since the previous outing was cancelled. This will give you time to show her what you feel about her.
No point lingering in the thought of what can happen unless you try and do something about it.
Best of luck too.

Rb · 21-01-2007 12:43AM

As Ruu said, make your feelings on the whole thing known to her, then sit back and let her put in a bit of effort. If she doesn't, then shes stringing you along and only wants you around to make her feel good about herself.

Good luck.

Fabio · 21-01-2007 02:10AM

I'd say just come clean....it has been a few months like and I'd say at this stage that she needs to know as much as you do...

Perhaps she's thinking the same as you, i.e. "will I tell him I like him?"...

py2006 · 21-01-2007 01:02PM

Well it seems to me she already knows your interested! You have already arranged to meet her a few times!

I'd say cool it. Back off a little! Let her make the next move! If her reasons for cancelling dates are genuine and she is interested she will make contact as soon as she is available!

Sometimes if you come accross too keen with women they get put off!

LegacyUser · 21-01-2007 03:35PM

'Do you know if she likes you or not?

You may think she knows you like her, but she mightn't, so you should tell her that straight.

As you said, you know yourself what it's like in college. Once you know you have a deadline, there aren't enough hours in the day to get it done. So, chances are, she's being genuine with that.

Give it a try, come out and tell her you like her and that you'd like to meet up for a drink or whatever. Be straight and get a straight answer. I don't think you should mention anything about feeling strung along, it'll put a dampner on things before they've started.'

LegacyUser · 21-01-2007 03:50PM

'I tried to arrange another meeting there last night saying it was importamt, and she hasn't replied. I think thats that really!'

comewatmay · 25-01-2007 03:55PM

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'I tried to arrange another meeting there last night saying it was importamt, and she hasn't replied. I think thats that really!'

id say leave it man, some of these women take pleasure stringing guys along they love to be loved if u understand what im trying to say.

25-01-2007 09:13PM

Try baby steps. Instead of planning an outing or impressive date, just invite her for coffee or tea. Or lunch. She has to eat, right? Why not with you? And do it face-to-face with good timing, like right before lunch. See where it goes from there...

McSween · 25-01-2007 10:45PM

nothing wrong with a bird knowing you like her

when we all hear someone likes us it's a great feeling, but they can play games mate

fobster · 26-01-2007 03:00AM

In a boat that was built by the same company mate, here's my advice. You like her, you want to tell her this, better to tell her than keep it to yourself. Of course because you're giving her all this attention unless she's completely spaced out she probably has a fairly good idea that you like her so better to remove all doubt then to let a 'what if...' scenario pass you by.

It can be frustrating of course when you can't even meet up to actually tell her face-to-face, but I think it's really the only way you can go about it. I contemplated texting this girl I like to tell her because I missed an opportunity to tell her face-to-face before Christmas and haven't got an opportunity since then, but instead I have been texting her over the exams seeing how she is getting on etc. because texting is what a person in desperation would do and you don't want to come across as being desperate.

Also, early on in the new term there will usually be less deadlines to scupper your plans so just wait until the exams are completely finished and college has started back to put your plan in motion.

Good luck!

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