How to cope

LegacyUser · 10-01-2007 01:17PM #1

I'd rather not get into all the little details, I'll just give the basic story.
My father has been having an affair. My mum found out. They had a huge fight last night and stuff was said. I don't want to choose sides cos I get on well with both but probably with my dad better. I dont know what to think right now

Beruthiel · 10-01-2007 01:30PM

You do not state your age, but I'm presuming young enough to still be living at home?
Are you of an age to move out and give them space?

My best advice is, as you said, do not get involved and do not take sides.
If either of them try to discuss the subject, tell them you cannot get involved for obvious reasons.
Remember, no matter what happens, they both love you.

Sleepy · 10-01-2007 01:56PM

Been through the whole messy thing myself and in my parents case it lead to their divorce. I'm not trying to scare you by saying that but you should start dealing with the fact that it's going to be a distinct possibility and preparing for it.

The best advice I can give you is not to get involved and make it clear to both your parents that you love them both and will not allow yourself to be dragged into any of this, that it's something for them to work out between themselves.

If you have friends/ a partner you trust, I'd recommend talking to them about how you're feeling about all this. My own answer at the time was to hit the bottle pretty hard. Luckily I was in college at the time so it wasn't that abnormal for someone in my position to be drinking a lot but I wouldn't recommend it as sooner or later you end up having to deal with things.

This is going to be a tough time for you. I hope it all works itself out and if you ever need to vent, PI is always here and my PM inbox is always open.

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