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We all make mistakes

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  • #32
    killeoin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 154 ✭✭killeoin


    Ok I hate to say it but first....
    It was stupid to sleep with a girl at work! I know it was a mistake and drink was involved but if you're gonna do it do it well AWAY from home.

    It does sound aswell that you're not telling the full story...One drunken shag? I think not. Judging by this girls reaction It sounds like shes hurt. And after 2 years to start all this? If you tell the full story then we might be able to help you a bit more!

    Ok now some advice...
    NEVER tell your girlfriend. Its not worth it.
    NEVER bring your girlfriend to a worknight out. Is it worth the risk?
    Deny Deny Deny to everyone! Including your best friends/buds etc...
    Get it into your head that it never happened. Truely believe it, thus even if you get very drunk you will continue to deny it to everyone.
    Make a decision, If this is still going on why are you still working with her? You made the mistake so its up to you to leave the firm if your relationship means that much to you. Get out of the situation.

    Nd chillax! It was only a mistake, we're not perfect. There a lot bigger things in life to be worried about. Chances are that even no matter how blindly you believe it your girlfriend has cheated on you aswell. Girls are just better at hiding it!

    Remember....
    Deny Deny Deny to everyone!!


  • #33
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Unreg145896 wrote:
    So heres the story. Going out with my GF for 8 years and bout 2 years ago slipped and slept with a person at work. Now not looking to get ate about what I did, I realise the error but here is the thing.

    This girl is still working with me and on occaision we all go out drinking as a staff and she gets drunk and abusive mainly towards me.

    At this years Christmas party she gets flaming drunk falls down in the toilets I try and help and she roars out exactly what happened 2 years ago to all my colleagues and friends. Then she proceeds to accuse another workmate of trying to seduce her the lad would never even think of it.

    Anyway how do you deal with a person like this. I am just afraid she will arrive at my door some night langered dragging up the past and screwing my relationship that I have now.

    Any and all help appreciated

    I think your gf deserves to know tbh - why should she be living a lie while you get your cake & eat it. How increddibly greedy & selfish is that?! Anyway, moral tirade over...:)

    I would change jobs tbh....

    As long as she is still in contact with you, she is going to keep pulling this stunt. You slept with her & now you are having to endure the consequences. I think the only way to A) give the lass closure to move on because the way she is drinking & obsessing is not healthy B) cut all ties with her & C) put more distance between your gf & finding out - is to move jobs & get away from that girl. Oh what a web we weave....;)


  • #34
    Heinrich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,576 ✭✭✭Heinrich


    Dear oh dear! I used to wonder why *loving* relationships break up as they do and now I have some insight! You have a fling, cheat, lie, deceive and then have us all wondering.

    Honesty is really the best policy. Run the risk of getting found out and the "Hell hath no fury" cliché will befall you as you well deserve.

    Hormones are the modern excuse for weak willed persons. ;)

    If you really love someone why go elsewhere to satisfy your natural needs?


  • #35
    hmmmm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭hmmmm


    Miss Fluff wrote:
    Just reading through your posts there hmmmm it must be fabulous to be as perfect as you are hmmmm???????????;)
    It doesn't take perfection to not lie and cheat on the your girlfriend/boyfriend.;)
    killeoin wrote:
    It does sound aswell that you're not telling the full story...One drunken shag? I think not. Judging by this girls reaction It sounds like shes hurt. And after 2 years to start all this? If you tell the full story then we might be able to help you a bit more!
    This sounds about right to me.


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