Grown-ups who cry when they get "in trouble"

Grem · 03-08-2006 08:26AM

I cried in work once. I was only in the job a couple of months and my boss was pretty damn scary and demanding. He had booked for me to go on a training course which i missed the month before (i had forgot).

I rebooked and broke up with my boyfriend the night before i was due to go on it. Cue sleepless night and of course i forgot again. I was actually afraid to tell him because he was bound to ridicule me and i worked myself up into a proper state (mainly about the boyfriend) and ended up bursting into tears.

I was completely mortified. They sent me home but i became 100 times stronger as a result of it and im determined to never let a work collegue see me cry again! 2 years and still going strong!

So it CAN happen - some circumstances just make your emotions a bit wobbly i guess!

BaZmO* · 03-08-2006 09:48AM

I was watching Dylan Moran at the Amnesty Gig in Vicar St. on the Paramount Channel last night. He made a very good point about women that cry all the time or cry to get their way.

"Crying is not proof of greater capacity to feel, it's only proof of a greater capacity to cry"

dbnavan · 03-08-2006 10:05AM

DaveMcG wrote:

, but then she called her mother, who then rang the job to moan at them. She ended up getting the night off I believe.

If I was a manager here I would not give into her emotional blackmail nor would I even entertain a phonecall from her mother!! Your either mature enough to work for someone or your not, I've heard it all now:rolleyes:

Jotter · 03-08-2006 10:49AM

Oh dear Im one of these!! They refer to me at home as Gwyenth Palthrow (big cry at the oscars!) bec I burst into tears at the stupidest of things. It comes over me without warning and before I know it Im a blubbering mess!!

Its happened me in work twice, once bec I came home from hols to find some other girl doign my job, was called into the office and burst into tears bec I thought Id been fired - they kinda laughed and said I wasnt! Morto! Second time was only a few weeks ago, Im preggers and had been for check up told me they needed to check baby and were sending me for scan , foned to tell my boss and balled again - the poor man!

I also was at a funeral a while ago before I got married. It was a great aunt who had died and it was a sad funeral but I didnt cry during the ceremony, oh no I cried when I was speaking to family after ceremony, one of my cousins asked about my upcoming wedding and I burst into tears and they thought the wedding was off and theyd stuck their foot in it!!

I actually hate crying and much prefer to do it alone but it rarely works out that way - I always end up crying and then laughing at myself crying and making myself just look like a total freak so that people start to back away from me slowly !!! totally agree that there are women (in their 50s in my experience!) who cry as a get out of jail free card and yes its really annoying.!

ciaran76 · 03-08-2006 10:56AM

Yesterday I saw a woman in Boots Blanchardstown crying after getting caught robbing something. But she didn't get away with it and 2 security guards caught her.

She started crying and screaming saying "she didn't do anything". Made me laugh

Sleepy · 03-08-2006 11:12AM

Grem wrote:

I cried in work once. I was only in the job a couple of months and my boss was pretty damn scary and demanding. He had booked for me to go on a training course which i missed the month before (i had forgot).

I rebooked and broke up with my boyfriend the night before i was due to go on it. Cue sleepless night and of course i forgot again. I was actually afraid to tell him because he was bound to ridicule me and i worked myself up into a proper state (mainly about the boyfriend) and ended up bursting into tears.

I was completely mortified. They sent me home but i became 100 times stronger as a result of it and im determined to never let a work collegue see me cry again! 2 years and still going strong!

So it CAN happen - some circumstances just make your emotions a bit wobbly i guess!

Grow up ffs. You were clearly incapable of doing any proper job if you managed to forget to turn up for a training course twice. Breaking up with your boyfriend does not give you license to be unprofessional. Maybe you should just find a 'traditional' man to take care of you?

ball ox · 03-08-2006 11:20AM

I see this kind of crap every day. I work In a busy video shop with a large car park which has a clamping system to prevent non-customers from using it. Every day the clamper will get between 2 - 6 cars. The customer always comes into us to find out how to get the clamp off or just to moan at us. Almost every day at least one of these people is a woman bawling her eyes out. I nearly feel bad because at this stage we are so used to it we just fob them off casualy and tell them to phone the clamper (we cant unclamp the cars). Every time the clamper comes out to one of these women he charges them. He was telling me he hears sob stories from "my kid is in hospital" to "I had woman problems" but the guy would never let a crying woman off. And he's dead right IMO

J.R.HARTLEY · 03-08-2006 01:12PM

i used to cry at the end of the littlest hobo , does that count.

pajos55 · 03-08-2006 01:25PM

hands up, i am also a crier. i hate it and genuinely don't use it to try and get out of things, or for attention, quite the opposite, i am always mortified when it happens. i never cry at films/sad stuff but if i am embarrassed/humiliated or angry or frustrated i feel the tears coming and i can't help it. i cannot explain how irritating this is in an argument when you are trying to come across as rational and reasonable and there are tears coming out of your eyes...:o

but please don't think that all girls (and yes i think it is mostly girls...) who do this are putting it on for attention or to try and get out of a situation, if i could stop doing this i genuinely would!

Grown-ups who cry when they get "in trouble"

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