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Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 06:51PM #1

there is not much to do in dublin without alcohol is there? i've been drinking for 2 - 3 hours, my friends are busy.

what else can i do but drink?

dar83 · 22-07-2006 06:53PM

Pleasure yourself?

Oh and video it for the rest of us that have nothing to do....

(why do topics like this exist?

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Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 06:55PM

i'm single, friends are busy, nothing to do tonight except get drunk.

life in dublin?

or just lonely life?

i'm interesting, different, nice, funny!!!

why is life so unfair?

JackKelly · 22-07-2006 06:57PM

You need a hobby. I recommend photography, it's the perfect excuse to go wandering on your own.

The Free Man · 22-07-2006 07:00PM

go to isaac butts tonight, ill cya there. look out for a tall red guy

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 07:02PM

TimAy wrote:

You need a hobby. I recommend photography, it's the perfect excuse to go wandering on your own.

i like this idea. can you recommend a camera / technique / school / book?

Ruu_Old · 22-07-2006 07:04PM

Check out the Photography forum under Arts, OP. Theres lots of resources there if you want to get into photography.

22-07-2006 07:05PM

OP create a post under Arts/photography to get your question answered by those really into it.

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 07:16PM

but what about now?

i really miss my friends. i remember listening to a tape - beatles, mercury rev, lots of beautiful music, in a dark room, smoking grass, drinking, 3, 4, 5 am, in their house, happy.

somehow i've lost all this - people moving away etc - and now i'm left with my empty house and no one.

when you lose friends you life really changes.

qwytre · 22-07-2006 07:19PM

Aoife-FM104 wrote:

but what about now?

i really miss my friends. i remember listening to a tape - beatles, mercury rev, lots of beautiful music, in a dark room, smoking grass, drinking, 3, 4, 5 am, in their house, happy.

somehow i've lost all this - people moving away etc - and now i'm left with my empty house and no one.

when you lose friends you life really changes.

Yep,join the club. I guess you are probably around 27 years old?

It just happens slowly over time without you realising it. I look back now and am not sure at what point it happened, friends move, college friends move etc etc.

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 07:23PM

qwytre wrote:

Yep,join the club. I guess you are probably around 27 years old?

It just happens slowly over time without you realising it. I look back now and am not sure at what point it happened, friends move, college friends move etc etc.

that's very funny i am 27

is it normal for things to "change" at this age?

i preferred it before. i don't want to "grow up" just because i have to. people shouldn't have to buy houses and move away because they think it's normal.

qwytre · 22-07-2006 07:31PM

Aoife-FM104 wrote:

that's very funny i am 27

is it normal for things to "change" at this age?

i preferred it before. i don't want to "grow up" just because i have to. people shouldn't have to buy houses and move away because they think it's normal.

I think it happens a lot around that age to people. I mean your college friends have moved on, some of your close friends are probably in serious relationships and it just doesnt happen as much now when big groups of friends just casually do things together like drinking in house parties and the likes.

People start to get different priorities, some of them want a house and therefore are more careful on how much they spend, others what a family and take their relationships very seriously.

For me anyways when I think about my friends they are all in relationships, just dont go out as much as they did, or have moved to another part of the country. And I end up in my house a bit like yourself.

A lot of people tend to rely on their work collegues for friendship, I find that difficult, I wouldnt really make close friends easily (not really interested in having 20 or 30 friends who arent really close friends) and therefore that adds to the problem.

Heyes · 22-07-2006 07:35PM

Think its a stage in our life that most dont really like.. a lot move on, married, houses etc to some extent, however one thing you can do is keep in touch with your friends, meet up for a few pints during the week, really make an effort to keep in touch with them. you probable wont have the nights you had before but its always important to keep in touch with those close to you.

A lot of my friends are thinking houses, further commitment with boyf etc, so there not really able to go out as much anymore, and im similar age to you (im 26). I really make an effort to keep in touch with them, arrange a few pints, even meet for lunch , natter whatever.. one things i realLy try to do and really enjoy is just meeting new people. I think its important, and something you should really try and do, be it socialising more in work, attending class's of intrest like the lads said about doing photography etc.

You struck me that your not really too happy at the moment, what you need to do is get up go out and have some fun, try not to let it bug you because if you do then you ll get stuck in a rut.

Good luck, and get up and go

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 07:38PM

i work in computers and can't relate to my work friends. they are clever but so close minded, but they think they're so open (confusing intelligence with open minds), do you know what i mean?

i think a big problem for me is that my friends hav abondanded ireland! yes, it;s the age where they feel they have to make decisions.

i'm just not ready for that yet.

it makes me sad. alcohol is my best frind on nights like this! i will go to a gay bar later, alone, knowing i won't be bothered, but secretly i'll be very sad wishing i had company.

qwytre · 22-07-2006 07:44PM

Hmm,maybe there is a trend here, I am a systems programmer. Seems IT jobs can only result in people ending up wondering where it all went wrong

Seriously though, if you can go to a bar by yourself (nothing wrong with that) there is a good chance you will start meeting more new people. I would say going and joining a club that interests you is the way to go.

Thinking about it there that last close friend I made was back in college 6 years ago, still a good close friend though but has just left Dublin. Myabe I need to start being a bit more social and start doing the usual social events in work.

Are all your close friends now gone?

gerire · 22-07-2006 07:44PM

Then why go somewhere no-one will talk to you, go somewhere to meet people. No ofence but feeling sorry for yourself here isn't going to make you feel any better, it will only increase the feeling and alcohol, a deressant, will accelerate this too.

I know how you feel but aside from going out and making an effort to meet new people and talk/laugh etc with them you will continue to feel unhappy.

LOL'd at the "confusing intelligence with open minds" its so true of the guys in computer department I work with too

Heyes · 22-07-2006 07:44PM

Ah try not to let it get you down, your still young there is absolutaly no pressure for you to be doing what there doing. You say they have all moved on, is there any friends that you may have lost touch with over time that you could maybe catch up and get in touch with them again ?

Giblet · 22-07-2006 07:45PM

do you want sex?

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 07:53PM

my close friends have all loft ireland. yeah there are 1 or 2 people who i cab meet tonight, but they are my desperation friends, and they prob see me as the same!

likely i will stay alone tonight, get drunk (am already nearly there!) and write a story about being alone (i write stories about my life...)

i wish there were a badge people wore who feel like me so we wouldn't have to pretend we are so confident and happy with our lives

Heyes · 22-07-2006 07:55PM

Most people feel like that at some point in there life, however they try not to let it get them down. Dwealing and overthinking about this kinda thing will just get you miserable. There is absolutaly no point in that as it will do absolutaly nothing for you. So dont go writing how you feel on this, just get up and make some changes in your life so things are more positive.

qwytre · 22-07-2006 07:59PM

When you feel like that you should realise that things are not nearly as bad as you think they are.

A person I knew reasonably well in college (a lovely girl, would be about 28-ish) for some reason decided to end her life yesterday morning. I mean can you imagine what her family is going through and will go through for the rest of their own lives. Any problems I have pale into insignificance compared to that.

Try to be positive, in fact you'll probably meet more nice new people that way.

Aoife-FM104 · 22-07-2006 08:04PM

thanks for the replies

yeah i know my life is ok. good job, good imagination, good open mind, good attitude to the real world.

i just miss being with people who understand me. i'm so tired of being around small minded arrogant fools!!!

i said earlier people confuse intelligence with being open minded, well a lot of people confuse intelligence with ubnderstanding life. i don't say i have all the answers, but i respect being different and having different priorities and opinions is the beauty of life.

i guess i jjst feel alone and misunderstaood.

i know i control my life. but everyone keeps leaving...

it's not from lack of trying...

Heyes · 22-07-2006 08:09PM

Qwytre Sorry to hear about that, it is always a horrible thing to experience

Aoife tbh your not alone, there is so many of us that feel exactly the same, but we just need to get out there have a laugh, keep in touch with friends. ya know just cause there in a relationship doesnt mean you cant / wont see them, it just takes someone to sort it, i nominate you

Terry · 22-07-2006 08:11PM

most of my friends have moved away and are in relationships, but they all come back to Leixlip on the sunday of a long weekend and we all go on the piss.
perhaps you could arrange something like that with your friends.

qwytre · 22-07-2006 08:16PM

Heyes wrote:

Qwytre Sorry to hear about that, it is always a horrible thing to experience

Thanks Heyes.

Well Aoife-FM104, the consensus seems to be that this happens a lot to people and it will change. Just keep trying to make new friends\keep in touch with old ones.

Good luck ,you know it well all work out in the end

Wertz · 22-07-2006 08:27PM

Rest assured that it doesn't any easier over the coming years.

But enough of the negative vibes, just do yourself a favour and don't try and fill the void with alcohol...that's a long and winding road and it only leads to one place.

i wish there were a badge people wore who feel like me so we wouldn't have to pretend we are so confident and happy with our lives

You should patent that idea, you'd make yourself a lot of money.

So Glad · 22-07-2006 08:46PM

Aoife-FM104 wrote:

thanks for the replies

yeah i know my life is ok. good job, good imagination, good open mind, good attitude to the real world.

i just miss being with people who understand me. i'm so tired of being around small minded arrogant fools!!!

i said earlier people confuse intelligence with being open minded, well a lot of people confuse intelligence with ubnderstanding life. i don't say i have all the answers, but i respect being different and having different priorities and opinions is the beauty of life.

i guess i jjst feel alone and misunderstaood.

i know i control my life. but everyone keeps leaving...

it's not from lack of trying...

Yeah. I felt like that at an early stage of my life and couldn't see over the horizon and thought it was all bad. Not true of course, you just have to apply yourself.

I understand about friends who are closed minded and sometimes just vain and how hard it is to find people who are really open minded and intellegent. I used to have many friends like that but in a period of a few day I lost them all. It happened so I moved on. Out of all the friends I know I selectively hang arround the intellengent ones because they are the ones most close to you.

theTinker · 22-07-2006 09:18PM

wrote:

i wish there were a badge people wore who feel like me so we wouldn't have to pretend we are so confident and happy with our lives

i second the patent idea, a type of "looking to make friends badge",or a less desperate note: "Available to get to know badge"

it would certainly help alot of people.

AngryBadger · 22-07-2006 09:54PM

Aoife-FM104 wrote:

they are my desperation friends, and they prob see me as the same!

wtf? if I wasn't stoned and laughing my nuts off at the venture bros. I'd persue this....but I am, and I am....so i won't

Dave! · 23-07-2006 10:27AM

Giblet wrote:

do you want sex?

Yes please.

faceman · 23-07-2006 01:18PM

Aoife-FM104 wrote:

there is not much to do in dublin without alcohol is there? i've been drinking for 2 - 3 hours, my friends are busy.

what else can i do but drink?

you suck, read a book. go for a walk. Pay a member of the eldery community a visit.

fitter, happier more productive....

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