Cursing and swearing.

Archeron · 19-07-2006 09:15AM #1

Just last weekend, I sat outside one of my locals, and a really lovely looking girl came out to have a smoke and make a phone call. I couldnt help overhearing, coz she was one LOUD girl. First time I've heard it in a while, but literally every second word she said was f*ck, or worse, the C word (which I thought women really hated) as well as a nice assortment of brightly colored words. I have to say, that this instantly made her look a lot less attractive as a person to me.

I myself like a good cuss word every now and then, maybe to emphasize a point or an emotion, but I try to be selective in my use, as I do think overuse kind of kills the effect. I particularly make a point of never cussing around kiddies, but the lady above was surrounded by nippers.

Question is, do you cuss like a sailor or are you more selective with your nasty words? What do you think of people who sound like a porn film for the blind?

LadyJ · 19-07-2006 09:23AM

I curse a fair bit. Depends on who I'm talking to though.

Doesn't really bother me if other people do it.

Giruilla · 19-07-2006 09:26AM

I find recently I'm really careful who i curse around. Especially in work, and around women. Some people get quite offended. I don't see it as a big deal if people curse, it's pretty meaningless these days. Around mates i'll curseall the time, but like you said, usually to emphasise a point, i don't curse in every sentence. Only knackers do really because they're so illiterate it helps them move from one word to the next.

Archeron · 19-07-2006 09:27AM

Giruilla wrote:

I find recently I'm really careful who i curse around. Especially in work, and around women. Some people get quite offended. I don't see it as a big deal if people curse, it's pretty meaningless these days. Around mates i'll curseall the time, but like you said, usually to emphasise a point, i don't curse in every sentence. Only knackers do really because they're so illiterate it helps them move from one word to the next.

Good point, maybe I should replace the word attractive with intelligent.

biko · 19-07-2006 09:33AM

Archeron wrote:

I have to say, that this instantly made her look a lot less attractive as a person to me.

You like your women timid and softspoken, is that it?

I don't mind cursing as long as it's appropriate, at the game or in other emotional situations - not at the dinner table with the parents.

Cursing really means that your vocabulary is not adequate and you need to be more eloquent.

LadyJ · 19-07-2006 09:34AM

Archeron wrote:

Good point, maybe I should replace the word attractive with intelligent.

Apparently mimicing people's gestures and tone of voice/general way of speaking is something that happens subconsciously. It helps the other person feel comfortable.

I know if I'm around a person who curses an awful lot,then I will start to curse that little bit more.

Maybe she was just talking to someone who curses in every sentence....

Her old emotional intelligence could be fairly good!

Archeron · 19-07-2006 09:36AM

LadyJ wrote:

Maybe she was just talking to someone who curses in every sentence....

Her old emotional intelligence could be fairly good!

good point.

biko · 19-07-2006 10:00AM

LadyJ wrote:

I know if I'm around a person who curses an awful lot,then I will start to curse that little bit more.

Do you know if they curse less around you? If people mimick each other you both will meet halfway.

Archeron · 19-07-2006 10:04AM

biko wrote:

Do you know if they curse less around you? If people mimick each other you both will meet halfway.

So when Sweary Mary meets up with Holy Joe, theres fun to be had.

Dave! · 19-07-2006 10:04AM

biko wrote:

Cursing really means that your vocabulary is not adequate and you need to be more eloquent.

That's bullsh*t... Take a look at Patrick Kavanagh! He swore like a pirate but wrote some of the best Irish poetry.

Maybe it means you're lazy, although I don't really think it does. People can switch swearing on and off, and know when it's inappropriate, so refrain from doing it then.

I think it's a choice... I could have said "That's nonsense", but I chose to say "That's bullsh*t" (and I woulda done the same in a vocal conversation more than likely). Same syllables, etc., but I said "bullsh*t" for a reason... don't know what reason that is though!!!

hmmm... maybe some psychologist should get cracking on some research into this

LadyJ · 19-07-2006 10:07AM

biko wrote:

Do you know if they curse less around you? If people mimick each other you both will meet halfway.

True but not everyone does it.

I mean,if you hang around with a person for long enough,you pick up their mannerisms etc. as I'm sure you know.

The mimicking thing is just a basic psychological fact.

AFAIK,you are more likely to do it if you are good with people. It's a means of helping them to relax.

petes · 19-07-2006 10:11AM

I curse a lot but never in front of my parents.

dabbler2004 · 19-07-2006 10:12AM

I think it's part of everyday conversation these days from grannys to schoolkids. I think it's ok that people swear once they're not being nasty with it, you know?
I always thought that I wasn't a big user of swear words myself but was at a stag party recently where we had a 'swear box' and it cost you a couple of quid every time you swore. I ended up being bloody broke by the end of the night, f**k!

biko · 19-07-2006 10:21AM

I like "See you next tuesday"

dabbler2004 · 19-07-2006 10:26AM

biko wrote:

I like "See you next tuesday"

I prefered the guy from Scrubs at the end, most eloquent!

ThrownAway · 19-07-2006 10:52AM

I only curse when I'm angry or get a shock regardless of who's around me...

TerrorFirmer · 19-07-2006 12:17PM

I don't mind a curse here or there but I really dislike people who use it completely pointlessly and blatantly - my girlfriends cousin was giving me a lift home, she's nice and all, but every second word was a totally OTT not to mention completely unnecessary swear word - "Get off the ****ing road you ****ing ****", "Learn to ****ing drive you ****in ****" etc...

It makes me feel somewhat uncomfortable, some people seem to find it amusing but I just plain don't like it.

Ruu_Old · 19-07-2006 12:31PM

The odd curse would come out of me when I'm working on the computer. Agree with the above post.

RandomOne · 19-07-2006 12:35PM

LadyJ wrote:

True but not everyone does it.

I mean,if you hang around with a person for long enough,you pick up their mannerisms etc. as I'm sure you know.

Totally. I swear less here than in England - maybe I'm hanging around the wrong folk.

Edit: Thinking about it, I still swear less when on the phone talking to folk in England, but as soon as I actually go there.........!

19-07-2006 12:40PM

I say the c word a lot because the lady at the vagina monolougues told me its a word i should be proud to say!

rofl... I dont curse I'm a lady!

Siogfinsceal · 19-07-2006 01:18PM

i curse a good bit- try not to in front of kids - always have its just how i am nothing wrong with the F or C word as far as im concerned- seems to be an irish thing. Cant tolerate peopl esp men telling me off for swearing im not a child if you dont like how I speak then go away from me.

Zapp Brannigan · 19-07-2006 02:01PM

I think the Irish are the only nation who can succesfully use the C word.

I don't think I curse alot but one time at BK a woman tapped me on the shoulder and asked me to not curse cos her child was with her. I duly obliged.

L31mr0d · 19-07-2006 02:29PM

I try not to curse at all, but in a moment of exasperation everyone does it. Saying "Fiddle-dee-dee. That will require a tetanus shot" some times just doesn't cut it. My usual rant at my computer when it BSODs or freezes up is FFS MF. I never use the C word, it grates on my ears like chalk on a blackboard. I can't stand people who curse just in everyday speech also, as a replacement of "like", "um", "eh" or "watchamacallit", I rather any of the former to people filling in the gaps in the their conversation by curseing.

Also about whether or not someone who doesn't curse will curse more around people who do or vice versa, I remember hearing an addage before: "If you rub a clean sheet against dirt, the dirt doesn't get cleaner, the sheet gets dirtier" Someone who doesn't curse will inevitable start cursing if their peer group does so also.

Ickle Magoo · 19-07-2006 03:12PM

If I'm angry I swear quite a lot...:o

Try not to use bad language infront of the kids....just kind of mutter profanities under my breath

Giblet · 19-07-2006 03:16PM

I swear a hell of a lot and use racist slurs for fun.

Blisterman · 19-07-2006 03:26PM

Is there a difference between cursing and swearing?

The Bollox · 19-07-2006 03:29PM

I find I sometimes curse at the dinner table, but apologise instantly. I find it very ****ing hard to make a point without swearing. But then again I don't curse all the time

Archeron · 19-07-2006 03:40PM

Blisterman wrote:

Is there a difference between cursing and swearing?

Not as far I know. I just put both in case people though "cursing" as in like "I put a curse on you" and "swearing" as in making an oath.

delly · 19-07-2006 03:42PM

I love a good **** now and again, my other favs are ****, ****, ****** and not forgetting ********, that has to be the best.

Dave! · 19-07-2006 03:50PM

coolsmileygirl wrote:

I say the c word a lot because the lady at the vagina monolougues told me its a word i should be proud to say!

rofl... I dont curse I'm a lady!

Degsy · 19-07-2006 04:00PM

Swearing can be creative and eloquent when used with a bit of style,delivery is important and so is context.I like swearing,i'm good at it and can vary its meaning depending on the situation.:)

Cursing and swearing.

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