Are YOU a modern man???

RainbowBrite · 06-06-2006 11:43AM #1

Just curious to see the guys take on this.

On Sat myself & better half were shopping (don't get into the I don't do shopping thing, cos neither do I actually:- just had to rush through lots of shops looking for a particular handbag, anyway......back on topic)

We happened to walk past the bra section in Debenhams, & me knowing him lifts this really naughty looking bra, held it up (while others were around, imagine the shock of it, tut tut....:p ), & said "do you like this", "how would this look on me", sort of comments!!!:D Well he nearly died, couldn't get away quick enough. I could even see him putting the head down (well almost, you can imagine what I'm talking about) as if he didn't notice all the bras as we were walking past.

Before that, we were walking past Ann Summers & I tried to get him to go in (knowing he wouldn't):- NOT a hope in hell!!!!!!

Then, the following morning I needed the "DREADED" tampax. As I'd no car I asked him would he go to his local to buy me some. (again I knew there wouldn't be a chance that he would, I just wanted to see his reaction) So we both went (surprise!!) & I descreetly bought them (while he was chatting to someone he knew, pretending he didn't know the girl with the box of tampax in her hand).
If I'd have plonked them on the counter while he was paying for his bottle of water or whatever, he'd have died!!!! (Doesn't even want to know I'm having my period, would almost blush if I mentioned it)

Now, this isn't a rant about my bf. This is just how he feels about those particular issues, & I'm perfectly happy with that, bless his little niave cotton socks!!;)

So, to all the male boardsters out there:- how are you around these subjects?
Are you the epitomy of the modern man, or do you want to run & hide at the mention of "womens issues"

Femelade · 06-06-2006 11:46AM

your meeeeaaaann. poor guy, leave him alone.

are you going out with him long?

RainbowBrite · 06-06-2006 11:48AM

Ah, I wasn't really being mean. We're kind of just like that around each other.
Going with him 7 months, friends for a long time, & it's not like he's an innocent 16 year old who's new to the world of the alien species known as 'Women', he's 26!!!!!! :eek:

GrumPy · 06-06-2006 11:50AM

Wouldn't bother me tbh, well maybe the whole "do you think this bra would look good on me" would be a slight bit weird, but prolly end up finding it funny.

Terry · 06-06-2006 11:52AM

none of that would bother me, if you ever managed to get me into a shop with a woman in the first place.

Dave! · 06-06-2006 11:54AM

I'm the same as your boyfriend tbh... I feel like everyone's watching me if I've to pass through a lingerie section in a shop or somethin.

"Look at the dirty fecker, leerin in the ladies' underwear section... The great big letch!"

OT, your title reminded me of George Carlin's bit on being a 'modern man'... (it has nothing to do with the topic)

I'm a modern man,
A man for the millennium,
Digital and smoke free.

A diversified multicultural postmodern deconstructionist,
Politically anatomically and ecologically incorrect.

I've been uplinked and downloaded.
I've been inputted and outsourced.
I know the upside of downsizing.
I know the downside of upgrading.

I'm a high tech lowlife.
A cutting edge state-of-the-art bicoastal multitasker,
And I can give you a gigabyte in a nanosecond.

I'm new wave but I'm old school,
And my inner child is outward bound.

I'm a hot wired heat seeking warm hearted cool customer,
Voice activated and biodegradable.

I interface from a database,
And my database is in cyberspace,
So I'm interactive,
I'm hyperactive,
And from time-to-time,
I'm radioactive.

Behind the eight ball,
Ahead of the curve,
Riding the wave,
Dodging a bullet,
Pushing the envelope.

I'm on point,
On task,
On message,
And off drugs.
I got no need for coke and speed,
I got no urge to binge and purge.

I'm in the moment,
On the edge,
Over the top,
But under the radar.

A high concept,
Low profile,
Medium range ballistic missionary.
A street-wise smart bomb.
A top gun bottom feeder.

I wear power ties,
I tell power lies,
I take power naps,
I run victory laps.

I'm a totally ongoing bigfoot slam dunk rainmaker with a proactive outreach.
A raging workaholic.
A working ragaholic.
Out of rehab,
And in denial.

I got a personal trainer,
A personal shopper,
A personal assistant,
And a personal agenda.

You can't shut me up,
You can't dumb me down.
'Cause I'm tireless,
And I'm wireless.
I'm an alpha male on beta blockers.

I'm a non-believer and an over-achiever.
Laid back but fashion forward.

Up front,
Down home,
Low rent,
High maintenance.

Super size,
Long lasting,
High definition,
Fast acting,
Oven ready,
And built to last.

I'm a hands on,
Foot loose,
Knee jerk,
Head case.

Prematurely post traumatic,
And I have a love child who sends me hate mail.

But I'm feeling,
I'm caring,
I'm healing,
I'm sharing.
A supportive bonding nurturing primary care giver.

My output is down,
But my income is up.
I take a short position on the long bond,
And my revenue stream has its own cash flow.

I read junk mail,
I eat junk food,
I buy junk bonds,
I watch trash sports.

I'm gender specific,
Capital intensive,
User friendly,
And lactose intolerant.

I like rough sex.
I like rough sex.
I like tough love.
I use the f word in my email,
And the software on my hard drive is hard core, no soft porn.

I bought a microwave at a mini mall.
I bought a mini van in a mega store.
I eat fast food in the slow lane.

I'm toll free,
Bite sized,
Ready to wear,
And I come in all sizes.

A fully equipped,
Factory authorized,
Hospital tested,
Clinically proven,
Scientifically formulated medical miracle.

I've been pre-washed,
Pre-cooked,
Pre-heated,
Pre-screened,
Pre-approved,
Pre-packaged,
Post-dated,
Freeze-dried,
Double-wrapped,
Vacuum-packed,
And I have an unlimited broadband capacity.

I'm a rude dude,
But I'm the real deal.
Lean and mean.
Cocked, locked and ready to rock.
Rough tough and hard to bluff.

I take it slow.
I go with the flow.
I ride with the tide.
I got glide in my stride.

Drivin' and movin',
Sailin' and spinnin',
Jivin' and groovin',
Wailin' and winnin'.

I don't snooze,
So I don't lose.
I keep the pedal to the metal,
And the rubber on the road.

I party hearty,
And lunch time is crunch time.

I'm hanging in,
There ain't no doubt.
And I'm hanging tough,
Over and out.

Nevyn · 06-06-2006 11:55AM

Everyone has different comfort levels and what they consider to be polite behaviour.
Delibratly putting your partner/bf/friend in a public sutuation like that and doing things you know will embarass them is imho an uncivil and awful thing to do to someone esp if you know it is one of thier foibles and you are expoliting it for your own amusement.

One people are more comfortible in those types of situations some are not,
and being able to trawl through the underwear dept of a chain stores does not make a man 'modern'.

RainbowBrite · 06-06-2006 12:01PM

Thaedydal wrote:

Everyone has different comfort levels and what they consider to be polite behaviour.
Delibratly putting your partner/bf/friend in a public sutuation like that and doing things you know will embarass them is imho an uncivil and awful thing to do to someone esp if you know it is one of thier foibles and you are expoliting it for your own amusement.

One people are more comfortible in those types of situations some are not,
and being able to trawl through the underwear dept of a chain stores does not make a man 'modern'.

Ah come on!!!!

There were people in the area, they did not hear me, I did not shout it out. I said it to him & only at a level that he could hear me.
It was a bit of fun, he found it funny (but wanted to move away from the bra section). We've known each other a long time, I know his limits, & this wasn't anything near them, I just know he's a bit shy about the whole thing.

Honestly, I never would do anything to make him feel uncomfortable, nor would he to me.

I mean, I actually DID need to buy a strapless bra (& that was my best opportunity to buy one), but I didn't even look because he was with me & it wouldn't be fair

Dirk Gently · 06-06-2006 12:05PM

Never mind modern man, you sound like a good modern woman undermining your man slave at every opportunity.

Dragan · 06-06-2006 12:07PM

RainbowBrite wrote:

So, to all the male boardsters out there:- how are you around these subjects?
Are you the epitomy of the modern man, or do you want to run & hide at the mention of "womens issues"

To be honest, none of it would bother me in the slightest and never has.

Besides, any query along the lines of "would this bra look good on me" should be met with "why don't we sneak into the dressing room and find out?". He's your boyfriend after all, no need to be getting shy about such issues.

Giblet · 06-06-2006 12:08PM

You dirty dirty girls.

el rabitos · 06-06-2006 12:09PM

Thaedydal wrote:

Everyone has different comfort levels and what they consider to be polite behaviour.
Delibratly putting your partner/bf/friend in a public sutuation like that and doing things you know will embarass them is imho an uncivil and awful thing to do to someone esp if you know it is one of thier foibles and you are expoliting it for your own amusement.

One people are more comfortible in those types of situations some are not,
and being able to trawl through the underwear dept of a chain stores does not make a man 'modern'.

someone needs a personality transplant methinks

humbert · 06-06-2006 12:11PM

Yea thats just funny, I'd rather be able to have a joke with someone than be sensitive and politically correct all the time even if some people have "personal issues" with it.I'm not that easily embarrassed and often find it funny when people sneer at me in those sort of situations, especially if I've company. Though on the tampax front I'm afraid you'd be buying your own, womens issues are womens issues!!

Dragan · 06-06-2006 12:15PM

el rabitos wrote:

someone needs a personality transplant methinks

Why? Grand Master T ( sorry Thaedydal, i just keep referring to you as that! ) has a very valid point. Often times people think that making slight fun of something between girlfriend and boyfriend is all a bit of fun, but someone is taking it seriously and just not able to say so.

You think your having a laugh, but they think your a bully. Eventually things like this can chip away at a relationship, and a persons self confidence.

People seem to think that being in a relationship with someone leads to them being able to get away with more, or maybe says things they might not say to others.

It's important to remember that being in a relationship is a lot about helping, comforting and nurturing that person as well. And not doing anything that might make them feel bad because you find it a little funny.

I'm sure the OP wouldn't have meant to genuinely hurt her fella, which is good, but the simple fact is that she can't know what he's thinking, or how it's getting to him.

chamlis · 06-06-2006 12:16PM

I've learned NOT to go shopping with girls. No good can ever come from it.

Girls also have the feeling they can tell me anything, and I mean ANYTHING. So I'm well used to the tampax talk etc. No more deifying beautiful girls for me! Oh no! They're all filthy little minxes. Woof

ambro25 · 06-06-2006 12:18PM

Quite pathetic, tbh :rolleyes:

You mean to say (as many others have apparently done in-thread) that your man:
(i) couldn't go out on his own and buy you nice underwear for a special occasion?
(ii) couldn't go out to do the weekly shopping, including tampax or serviettes as and when required?

A quick (cheap

) one: does he buy his own condoms?

Or is it a maturity thing: how old is your BF?

Not wanting to derail the thread, but I think catholic goody-goody 'values' and the transplanting organ (aka 'The Church') still have a lot to answer for in 'Modern' Ireland...

Dermington · 06-06-2006 12:18PM

Being honest my view of "modern" men is footballer/designer haircuts, designer sunglasses and randomly coloured shirts.

Being honest modern men look gay.

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

I dont think I am like a "modern" man as you have described it and I definitely am not a "modern" man as I have described it.

Dragan · 06-06-2006 12:22PM

Dermington wrote:

Being honest my view of "modern" men is footballer/designer haircuts, designer sunglasses and randomly coloured shirts.

Being honest modern men look gay.

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

I dont think I am like a "modern" man as you have described it and I definitely am not a "modern" man as I have described it.

To be honest, most guys are pretty much crippling themselves doing one extreme or the other, and it's hugely entertaining.

Just be yourself guys.:)

humbert · 06-06-2006 12:28PM

In my opinion a modern man is someone who is unbiased, not sexist etc etc, and comfortable with himself, doesn't freak out around lingerie, gay people, other things men are stereotypically uncomfortable around. The problem is that it's a very subjective matter as to what sort of man this defines, some people seem to think this means one who discards all traces of manliness(fancy hair, face cream, tanning beds, etc etc) is a modern man, I think it's just a normal guy who has discarded those few traits. I wonder how long it will be before we can expect modern women?:D

el rabitos · 06-06-2006 12:28PM

Dragan wrote:

You think your having a laugh, but they think your a bully. Eventually things like this can chip away at a relationship, and a persons self confidence.

It's important to remember that being in a relationship is a lot about helping, comforting and nurturing that person as well. And not doing anything that might make them feel bad because you find it a little funny. .

you make it sound like the guy is a new pup or a hamster :eek:

the whole tampon thing i can understand, i'm the same. but the rest seems a bit odd, maybe i'm not modern enough?

i can certainly see how a girl who i'm assuming this guy likes, what with him being with her 7 months and all, holding up a bra and asking if he thinks it would look good on her would chip away at his confidence. poor lamb

Charm Offensive · 06-06-2006 12:30PM

Just curious to see the girls' take on this.

Last Saturday my girlfriend and I were shopping, and whilst in the women's clothing section of Debenhams a nice skirt caught my eye. Me being the joking type, I sauntered over to aforementioned skirt and picked a size 14 off the rack before holding it up against myself to see if it roughly fit, much to the horror of my girlfriend. Imagine her disgust when I took the skirt into the dressing rooms and emerged moments later to ascertain her opinion on how it looked. She nearly died - couldn't get away quick enough. I could even see her put her head down and turn away as if she didn't know me.

Then, the following morning I needed a packet of condoms and some lubricant (we'd run out). As I'd spent all night pleasuring her to the point of ecstasy I was fairly exhausted, so I asked her if she'd pop down to Boots and do the honours. I knew she wouldn't though. So we both went and I discreetly bought them while she pretended to be looking at shampoo. If I'd have plonked the items on the counter while she was paying for her Tampax or whatever, she'd have died!

Now, this isn't a rant about my girlfriend. This is just how she feels about those particular issues, and I'm perfectly happy with that, bless her naive little cotton socks.

So, to all the female boardsters out there: how are you around these subjects?
Are you the epitome of the MODERN FEMALE, or do you want to run and hide at the mention of "men's issues"?

eiretamicha · 06-06-2006 12:33PM

Back when my husband and I were still a fairly new couple but living together, we'd go grocery shopping every Friday at the local Super Value. Well, that time would come and I'd need to buy some pads or whatnot, and I kid you not...my love would not even push the cart if there were pads in it!! I was in shock, and kind of embarassed to be honest. It just seemed weird that he was so worried about what others would think. We were living in a pretty small town where absolutley everyone knew everyone's business. I remember one time I bought this knitted hat with kitty cat ears, and he begged me not to wear it outside of the house! Now...I'm a yank, and I've been brought up not to give two ****s what others think of me. But for the seven months that I was living in his town...I actually started to get self-conscious because he was so worried about what others thought of me. Which truly was wrong.

So I dragged his ass to Florida and taught him how to be his own person and have fun without worrying about the rest of the world and their whispers.

And when we go back in a year...you can bet your ass I'll be wearing that cat hat in public.

_Kaiser_ · 06-06-2006 12:34PM

Dragan wrote:

TBesides, any query along the lines of "would this bra look good on me" should be met with "why don't we sneak into the dressing room and find out?". He's your boyfriend after all, no need to be getting shy about such issues.

Hammer. Nail. Head. Beat her at her own game I say

bealbocht · 06-06-2006 12:34PM

well if he is embarrased by womens under'things', the tampax thing is probably a bridge too far.

If it was me, I would of course have asked you to try the bra on, to conpensate for the indignity of actually being in the frilly section. (very unmanly area to be wandering around... up there with holding a handbag )

as for the tampax.. I'd have no issue with that, other than "what exactly" am I looking for, (maybe , god help me, to the point of bringing the empty box with me)

eiretamicha · 06-06-2006 12:35PM

Charm Offensive wrote:

Just curious to see the girls' take on this.

Last Saturday my girlfriend and I were shopping, and whilst in the women's clothing section of Debenhams a nice skirt caught my eye. Me being the joking type, I sauntered over to aforementioned skirt and picked a size 14 off the rack before holding it up against myself to see if it roughly fit, much to the horror of my girlfriend. Imagine her disgust when I took the skirt into the dressing rooms and emerged moments later to ascertain her opinion on how it looked. She nearly died - couldn't get away quick enough. I could even see her put her head down and turn away as if she didn't know me.

Then, the following morning I needed a packet of condoms and some lubricant (we'd run out). As I'd spent all night pleasuring her to the point of ecstasy I was fairly exhausted, so I asked her if she'd pop down to Boots and do the honours. I knew she wouldn't though. So we both went and I discreetly bought them while she pretended to be looking at shampoo. If I'd have plonked the items on the counter while she was paying for her Tampax or whatever, she'd have died!

Now, this isn't a rant about my girlfriend. This is just how she feels about those particular issues, and I'm perfectly happy with that, bless her naive little cotton socks.

So, to all the female boardsters out there: how are you around these subjects?
Are you the epitome of the MODERN FEMALE, or do you want to run and hide at the mention of "men's issues"?

Actually, I've bought plenty of lube for me and my husband. It's kinky. :cool:

Dragan · 06-06-2006 12:38PM

el rabitos wrote:

you make it sound like the guy is a new pup or a hamster :eek:

the whole tampon thing i can understand, i'm the same. but the rest seems a bit odd, maybe i'm not modern enough?

i can certainly see how a girl who i'm assuming this guy likes, what with him being with her 7 months and all, holding up a bra and asking if he thinks it would look good on her would chip away at his confidence. poor lamb

I'm making a generally reference to relationships with this as an example.

Simple fact is that i know very few guys who have not had, at some point, a girlfriend who they felt ( whether she meant to or not ) was chipping away at their confidence over things, especailly by playing on what they may have been uncomfortable with.

Like i said, just putting that out there, some guys do get worked over by that sort of thing dude.

azezil · 06-06-2006 12:42PM

Try going shopping for womens clothes with a guy for him to wear... now that pushed my comfort level to its limits and little beyond.

eiretamicha · 06-06-2006 12:43PM

bealbocht wrote:

If it was me, I would of course have asked you to try the bra on, to conpensate for the indignity of actually being in the frilly section. (very unmanly area to be wandering around... up there with holding a handbag )

as for the tampax.. I'd have no issue with that, other than "what exactly" am I looking for, (maybe , god help me, to the point of bringing the empty box with me)

I like your style.

Rcuomo · 06-06-2006 12:44PM

i never get why some men think its embarassing to go into anne summers with the g/f? i have no prob with it....now if only she'd wear some of the stuff in there...

Willymuncher · 06-06-2006 12:51PM

I don't understand the men that feel odd when buying tampax or anything like that, its not like its going to bite. Toilet roll is for shítty arses, do they get embarrassed buying that too?

humbert · 06-06-2006 12:55PM

Willymuncher wrote:

I don't understand the men that feel odd when buying tampax or anything like that, its not like its going to bite. Toilet roll is for shítty arses, do they get embarrassed buying that too?

toilet rool is for wiping off makeup, go away you:p

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