Girlfriends moustache

LegacyUser · 09-05-2006 5:55pm #1

Im just wondering what is 'appropriate' in these circumstances. My gf has a little moustache, now its not a dark colour (so its possible she's bleaching it already), but im just wondering what the girls here have to say. Would it be offensive if i said something, or bought her some sort of device for removing the hair? Or (assuming she's not doing it already) some sort of moustache bleach? Obviously, someones going to say 'why dont you talk to her about it' but im just wondering is it something girls would be sensitive about (like fatness or ugliness), or is it fair game to mention it to her without giving her a complex?

No joke answers please, at least not till i get a few serious answers fromthe girls here.

LegacyUser · 09-05-2006 7:43pm

This can be resolved easily with u looking great and herself enjoying a day out. Pay for her at a beauty clinic with massages, treatments the works and include a facial. This way her moustache will be taken care off without you ever having to question her . Job done and u will look good in her eyes, and she certainly will look better in yours..

Coconut · 09-05-2006 7:59pm

Would it be offensive if you bought her bleach or wax? Er, yes.

Will mentioning it give her a complex? Quite possibly.

fuzzywiggle · 09-05-2006 8:02pm

Well, I definitely wouldn't like my b/f to come along out of no where with a waxing/lightening kit. That's kind of like saying to her ''hey, I noticed your mustache and I really don't like it, so I went out and bought you something to get rid of it with

'' know what I mean? If you can notice it on her then she's probably already conscious of it and if it's light in colour/looks bleached already then what's the problem? Anyway, I wouldn't say it to her as there's a good chance she wouldn't like it.

Ickle Magoo · 09-05-2006 8:29pm

Is the 'tache really that bad? Bad enought to justify comment? If she were to take umbridge at any of your faults & demand you change a part of your body to satisfy her aesthetic preferences - how would that make you feel? If you haven't got the kind of open, close relationship where you can bring up such a subject without having to resort to tricking her into facials & suchlike then I think you have to put up with the status quo or prepare yourself for a slap & possibly your marching orders!

kittex · 09-05-2006 8:48pm

el_moustaciao wrote:

Obviously, someones going to say 'why dont you talk to her about it'.

Why? Why would you talk to her about it? What has it got to do with you?

I could understand if she had a heavy black fur ala my ancient history teacher in 3rd Year, but the girl has pale hairs on her upper lip.

Most women have pale hairs on their faces and real women have flaws.
It sounds to me like you've not had a long term relationship before? Or at least nothing long enough to get past the superficial stage.

Sorry to rain on your parade but she probably farts too.

Sony · 09-05-2006 9:33pm

talk about the little things-god youre worse than me senior moustachio:rolleyes:

You shoulda just looked for a girl without any little hairs like this before you started a relationship with her;)

Thumper Long · 09-05-2006 9:37pm

Ickle Magoo wrote:

If you haven't got the kind of open, close relationship where you can bring up such a subject

Are you telling us that your relationship would allow you to tell the missus to have a shave and get away with it :eek:

Snake Plisken · 09-05-2006 9:43pm

Ah tell her, maybe start whistling the Magnum PI theme tune she might get the message, not good having your Girl with a Ronnie! If u notice it you can be sure your mates do!

Ickle Magoo · 10-05-2006 5:07am

Thumper Long wrote:

Are you telling us that your relationship would allow you to tell the missus to have a shave and get away with it :eek:

I am a missus.....I think once a relationship reaches a certain point you can discuss anything without it causing hurt as both partners are secure in the knowledge that their partner loves them despite their faults and they know such minute details count for nothing.....my husband jokes about my love handles, I tease him about his dodgy fashion sense - because our relationship has moved well past the superficial "Oh my gad, what will my mates say if they see X" stage neither of us take what the other says to heart but we can still acknowledge that there is a grain or two of truth in the jibe.....:)

nomadchef · 10-05-2006 5:45am

I agree.. if your relationship is already there where you can discuss anything then open up, say it in a constructive way. I would appreciate you more if i am her.

Beruthiel · 10-05-2006 7:29am

do her a favour and dump her
if a few blond hairs are bothering you now, god knows what will happen when the first wrinkle appears.

Bean_Ghrinn · 10-05-2006 7:33am

Seems as if you do not know her very well. Maybe that would be a place to start before you attempt to modify her appearance?

Xterminator · 10-05-2006 9:14am

I know everyone here seems to be taking the p|ss from el_moustachio, but unless youve experienced it, you cant really pass judgemnt.

I went on a date or two with a young lady from finglas, who was follicaly challanged. Now she was a very nice person, but we we kissed i culd actually feel the friction of her hairs on my face.

Now its hard to describe, but it was something that i didn't like, and as a result she never go more than a peck on the cheek again! (Didnt last long either.)

My point being it may be more than just 'shallow hal' syndrome here. i would put it more on a par with annoying or unpleasant habits etc.

X

RobertFoster · 10-05-2006 9:35am

Show her a few scenes from Intermission on a loop:

"Would you ever get some immac and get rid o' that ronnie youre cultivatin"

Sally: Have I got a ronnie?
Mick: A what?
Sally: A ronnie, moustache, like?
Mick: Show.
[pause]
Mick: Well you're no Tom Selleck, but ...
Sally: Ah, go **** yourself.

If you can't talk to her about it, then the beauty clinic idea sounds good to me.

luckat · 10-05-2006 9:37am

*gulp*

Would she not be terribly hurt if you said something to her?

Miss Fluff · 10-05-2006 10:06am

el_moustaciao wrote:

Im just wondering what is 'appropriate' in these circumstances. My gf has a little moustache, now its not a dark colour (so its possible she's bleaching it already), but im just wondering what the girls here have to say. Would it be offensive if i said something, or bought her some sort of device for removing the hair? Or (assuming she's not doing it already) some sort of moustache bleach? Obviously, someones going to say 'why dont you talk to her about it' but im just wondering is it something girls would be sensitive about (like fatness or ugliness), or is it fair game to mention it to her without giving her a complex?

No joke answers please, at least not till i get a few serious answers fromthe girls here.

Can't really understand why it would bother you so much (unless you're 15 and have a lot of growing up to do). If she doesn't resemble Tom Selleck just yet (if you ARE actually 15 kindly Google Magnum PI

)

I don't see why it's such an issue for you. It may be a massive shock to your system but nobody's perfect.

Zulu · 10-05-2006 10:15am

Why are the girls getting so irate?
The man doesn't find a moustache attractive on his lady, and is wondering the best approach to handle this topic without offencing her. He should be commended for this. He's got a problem, he's dealing with it, and he's bothering to stop and be considerate while he's at it.

Tut tut ladies, stop and take stock of yourselves.

ianmc38 · 10-05-2006 10:16am

I can fully understand the OPs point of view. In fairness, facial hair on a woman is hardly the most sexually attractive thing.

If you have an open relationship with the person in question and it's affecting how you feel about her, then i'd be inclined to talk about it.

Beruthiel · 10-05-2006 10:30am

Zulu wrote:

The man doesn't find a moustache attractive on his lady

then why is he with her? if she had it on day one, then why is he still with her?

is wondering the best approach to handle this topic without offencing her.

there is no such approach if he has to come on here and ask I'm afraid. There comes a stage in a relationship where absolutely anything can be said, he's not there yet.

Tut tut ladies, stop and take stock of yourselves.

ditto

Zulu · 10-05-2006 10:41am

Beruthiel wrote:

then why is he with her? if she had it on day one, then why is he still with her?

Love is blind, but maybe the moustache is growing?

happydaz · 10-05-2006 11:03am

i don't see why it bothers people. REAL women don't look like the photos in the magazines and i have to say most definitly REAL men don't look perfect either!! if she had a limp would you dump her? would you dump her if she wore glasses or had a few tiny mole son her arm?

hullaballoo · 10-05-2006 11:04am

el_moustaciao wrote:

Im just wondering what is 'appropriate' in these circumstances. My gf has a little moustache, now its not a dark colour (so its possible she's bleaching it already), but im just wondering what the girls here have to say. Would it be offensive if i said something, or bought her some sort of device for removing the hair? Or (assuming she's not doing it already) some sort of moustache bleach? Obviously, someones going to say 'why dont you talk to her about it' but im just wondering is it something girls would be sensitive about (like fatness or ugliness), or is it fair game to mention it to her without giving her a complex?

No joke answers please, at least not till i get a few serious answers fromthe girls here.

I'd say you should just leave it be. It wouldn't bother me too much if I liked the girl. There is a girl I really like who has very dark hair, and as a result, she has a shadow over her mouth, and a bit of a hairy (well, downy) back. It wouldn't put me off her in the least. What puts me off her is the fact that she has a boyfriend(!)

If she's self-conscious about it, just give it time, and eventually she'll remove it herself (either by plucking or electrolysis or whatever). Really though, you shouldn't let it bother you.

Zulu · 10-05-2006 11:12am

happydaz wrote:

if she had a limp would you dump her? would you dump her if she wore glasses or had a few tiny mole son her arm?

...thats a bit of a leap! Did he say anything about dumping her? Did I miss something?

SimpleSam06 · 10-05-2006 11:19am

Beruthiel wrote:

do her a favour and dump her
if a few blond hairs are bothering you now, god knows what will happen when the first wrinkle appears.

lol:D ..i love that..

BC · 10-05-2006 1:10pm

Whatever you do don't go an buy her something to get rid of it!

Also taking her for a facial won't work either. A facial does not involve the removal of facial hair, you would have to ask for a wax or something for that.

As others said most women have a moustache but use various ways of removing it (immac for me!). I do feel for you, its an awkward situation but if its something you really feel strongly about then you'll have to find some gentle way of bringing it up. How long have you been together? Has she always had it or is it getting worse?

daRobot · 10-05-2006 1:47pm

Jesus, just stop all this REAL WOMEN talk ffs.It's the biggest minger cop-out ever, usually spouted by some mouthy heifer while banging down the second packet of jaffa cakes for the day.

She's got a grooming problem that effects you so tell her (gently), that you'd like her to wax it.

She'd tell you if you had a cheesy dick or bad breath so go for it.

Recently I had a one nighter girl with a few darkish hairs around the nipples- nasty,and there's no excuse for it.

Pigman II · 10-05-2006 2:37pm

I think you should come out and tell her. Presumably she hardly has the ronnie on purpose and since it is a problem that can actually be solved I reckon she'd be grateful if you told her.

fuzzywiggle · 10-05-2006 2:50pm

She'd be grateful if he told her? Do you not think she knows about it already?!

Nevyn · 10-05-2006 4:01pm

daRobot wrote:

Jesus, just stop all this REAL WOMEN talk ffs.It's the biggest minger cop-out ever, usually spouted by some mouthy heifer while banging down the second packet of jaffa cakes for the day.

Wrong!

She's got a grooming problem that effects you so tell her (gently), that you'd like her to wax it.

Maybe she does not care for that level of grooming onc you start waxing it
it goes thicker and you have to wait until it pretty long to wax it again.

She'd tell you if you had a cheesy dick or bad breath so go for it.

Those are health related isssues and would impact to her as he would be kissing her and enguaging in differing types of sexual activites.

Recently I had a one nighter girl with a few darkish hairs around the nipples- nasty,and there's no excuse for it.

Maybe it doesn't bother her, not all women want to look like the airbrush images that are protrayed in the media, some do not want to invest the time and money to do so.

simu · 10-05-2006 4:02pm

Well, it can't be all that bad if you didn't notice it before ye got together. Or has it uh... grown in the past while?

el rabitos · 10-05-2006 4:12pm

Maybe it doesn't bother her, not all women want to look like the airbrush images that are protrayed in the media, some do not want to invest the time and money to do so.

Thats crazy talk, its nothing to do with what the media wants, i know of no man thats thinking right now, "oh hey, i think i'll go out tonight, and if all things go well i'll score a girl with some hairy nipples and a soup strainer on her lip".

me, personally, i'm not attracted to air brushed blonde girls or whatever it is "the media" thinks is good looking, but at the same time i'm not attracted to women with hairy lips and nipples.

i think it would be fair to say there would be an el rabitos shaped hole in the bedroom door upon discovering the hairy nipples.

back on topic, you just need to bring it up somehow, i dunno, like "hey, u know who i wouldnt marry, a girl with a hairy upper lip". buying her wax strips or whatever will just get you the raised eyebrow look and your marching orders.

10-05-2006 4:15pm

el rabitos wrote:

back on topic, you just need to bring it up somehow, i dunno, like "hey, u know who i wouldnt marry, a girl with a hairy upper lip". buying her wax strips or whatever will just get you the raised eyebrow look and your marching orders.

...

And you seriously think the former wouldn't have the same effect?
It's about as subtle as a sledgehammer to the nuts.

el rabitos · 10-05-2006 4:26pm

well i never said it was subtle. i just mean like bring up the issue in a deflective kind of way. of course theres more sublte ways of bringing it up. it would just require alot of thinking.

it really depends on how much hair is there, if we're talking about the type that requires extreme sunshine to see then its probably not even worth thinking about

david · 10-05-2006 4:35pm

Is it really bad? Post pics tbh

Crash · 10-05-2006 4:44pm

I'm going to find a thread on this in relation to a guy with a monobrow or a hairy back from a girl, and i really hope its one of the women who posted on this thread going mad. The same ones who will willingly give advice on male issues of grooming are going mad when the tables are turned, interestingly enough.

on topic - I've been where you are before and while it can be a bit of a turnoff you kinda forget it after a bit. at least she is making an effort (you said its lightened) which is better than nothing like.

Tobias Greeshman · 10-05-2006 4:47pm

Reading this thread reminds me of the film Intermission.

Anyways before I get banned, OP how long have you noticed your gf's moustache? If it's only in the last while then what's changed that it's suddenly become an issue for you. If you've suddenly noticed it and it's causing you some issues, then you can rest assurred that your gf knows about it and is probably very conscious about it, bringing it up may make her feel more self-conscious.

I'm sure there's plenty of things about you that she wishes were different, but she doesn't go bringing them up. If you love her as much as you do, then why can't you look past it or break up with her and let her find someone who'll love and appreciate her, because I doubt that you do.

ferdi · 10-05-2006 5:00pm

OP, spend an evening of sweet cuddling with your missus. The next day before she's up, some how irritate the skin around your face/mouth area so it looks a bit red and sore. when she asks whats the matter with your skin, your answer should be - "its beard rash, love."

chump · 10-05-2006 5:04pm

Beruthiel wrote:

do her a favour and dump her
if a few blond hairs are bothering you now, god knows what will happen when the first wrinkle appears.

....

then why is he with her? if she had it on day one, then why is he still with her?

is wondering the best approach to handle this topic without offencing her.

there is no such approach if he has to come on here and ask I'm afraid. There comes a stage in a relationship where absolutely anything can be said, he's not there yet.

Tut tut ladies, stop and take stock of yourselves.

ditto

Such an amount of nonsense advice IMO
So he doesn't like that his girlfriend has a hairy lip? Just like some people wouldn't like if their girlfriend had hairy armpits, or a hairy back, or hairy nipples... especially if they are 'new arrivals'...
Just like some women like their man to shave, or love some stubble, or hate hary backs, or don't like overgrown pubes or don't like the monobrow look...

People talk about this things, some minor remedies might be called upon, or the person involved might choose to ignore the opinion of their partner and life might go on...

Of course speak to her about your issue would be my advice.
And of course thread lightly...

My advice would be to get her a Ronnie mug, or some afternoon suggest that you both draw portraits of each other

po0k · 10-05-2006 5:04pm

The OP's question was answered in the first reply.

Hagar · 10-05-2006 5:07pm

If I can shave mine off, so can she.

LegacyUser · 10-05-2006 5:08pm

Thanks for the replies folks

From the reaction of the (presumably hairy) women here, i see that the old third eyebrow syndrome is a bit of a touchy subject, which is pretty much the point of my thread.

I'll get some photos up asap. If i can, ill get some before and after shots, so the hairy women here can see just what a difference it can make.

metrovelvet · 10-05-2006 5:34pm

Ladies,

Lets face it. Facial hair does not look good on women. Just as long fingernails look disgusting on men. Someone needs to let her know!

But how do you without being the bad guy? Get someone else to do it.

Incidentally OP, I presume you take care of yourself?

Hagar · 10-05-2006 5:43pm

el_moustaciou wrote:

I'll get some photos up asap.

Dead man walking...

meowCat · 10-05-2006 7:42pm

Please don't take offense now OP, but it seems you are indeed very young. I presume your g/f had the moustache already when the two of you got together.

Why did it start to bother you now?

I agree with previous posts on the fact that if you love someone, you will look beyond little imperfections. And a moustache is indeed just a little one!!

If you want to make a really dismissive statement to check how she reacts to your dominance, then go ahead OP and tell her! If you want to try to be clever, take metrovelvet's advice and get someone else to tell her.

On a little side note to the guys: the face is a very sensitive area. Many girls simply cannot shave it off or use a depilatory cream, as it irritates their skin too much (please don't forget that our skin is much thinner than a guy's). Bleaching for many is the most they can do. And of course, depending on the light, you can still see a bleached moustache.

I'd say, she already knows that she has a moustache. She looks into the mirror every now and then, right?
Leave it be and be a good b/f if you really love her!

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