spanking

The Bollox · 11-10-2005 08:01PM #1

I'm not sure if a poll like this has ever been posted before, but anyway I was just curious, how many of you were disiplined by spanking? and how many of you are in favour/opposed to it.

I personally was spanked as a child and I will not spank my kids, (if I have any, please God) because I believe it teaches children at a young age that violence is the answer to all your problems. I for one was quite a violent bastard as a child and am not proud of it

LadyJ · 11-10-2005 08:03PM

Teached?

The Bollox · 11-10-2005 08:06PM

no

LadyJ wrote:

Teached?

ha ha, thanx, the 'd' is too close to the 's'

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:07PM

no

my parent hit me when i was younger and it did me absolutly no harm at all it helped me if anything...I don't have kids but i'm sure they would wreck your head to a point were u would have to give them a slap to show your authority at some point...

if it were a poll i'd vote yes but nothing extreme just a smack on thearse or whatever not physical abuse !

secret_squirrel · 11-10-2005 08:09PM

no

Im going to beat my kids senseless if they are unlucky enough to get me as a parent. I've been waiting 15 years to pass on the beating my parents gave me. Didnt do me any harm etc etc...

LadyJ · 11-10-2005 08:10PM

I think violence is just an ignorant way of handling your children. It shows that you really don't know how to deal with them at all. It's a quick fix if you will. Clockwork orange style.

11-10-2005 08:14PM

no

like this?

I'm totally against spanking any kids at all. There is alternatives

Pighead · 11-10-2005 08:27PM

no

Ah lads c'mon,there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving a smack to a bold child
Pighead has never, ever ever ever heard of someone who has problems from spanking and most of the people I know realized its benefits and accepted its use on them even if they don’t use it themselves. Personally I had to spank a little brat cousin of mine once and he behaved great every time I babysitted him from then on. Of course I’m against abuse and that should be discouraged but the line isn’t as fine as most of you think. Use a open, not closed fist; don’t hit hard enough to leave a bruise, stick to the legs or the arse, and stop when they’ve learned their lesson. It isn’t hard but its very effective and 9 times out of 10 they will thank you for it.

biko · 11-10-2005 08:27PM

If you spank your child you teach them that violence is an OK method in an argument. I would never spank my child (if I had one).

Nothing wrong with a good spanking between consenting adults of course

LadyJ · 11-10-2005 08:32PM

All children learn from being spanked is that doing bad things will get them a thump.
That's just like saying that the only reason you shouldn't murder someone is because you'll end up in jail.
Children should be taught why something that they do is bad,not just be told it's wrong because if they get caught they'll get a beating.

The Bollox · 11-10-2005 08:32PM

no

Pighead wrote:

Use a open, not closed fist

so that's where my parents went wrong :rolleyes:

faceman · 11-10-2005 08:35PM

I often get a good slappin from me missus in the bedroom! Shes a rite kinky rabbit!

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:36PM

no

i disagree i think a smack on the bum (not the head or torso or anything) teaches children that u (the parent) are in charge and teches them a certain level of discipline and respect that reason just cannot do...i will explain everthing to my children and do my best to teach them right from wrong but i wouldn't expect them not to do bad things a second time because they are only kids like

super_furry · 11-10-2005 08:40PM

no

Don't think a slap on the arse ever did anyone any harm - I'd view it as a short sharp shock to a misbehaving child. It wouldn't always be the answer but would be a valid way of disciplining a child in certain circumstances.

LadyJ · 11-10-2005 08:41PM

jcoote wrote:

i disagree i think a smack on the bum (not the head or torso or anything) teaches children that u (the parent) are in charge and teches them a certain level of discipline and respect that reason just cannot do...i will explain everthing to my children and do my best to teach them right from wrong but i wouldn't expect them not to do bad things a second time because they are only kids like

But again,you should give your children a reason to respect you rather than extracting respect through hitting them. Resent is the best you could hope for.

faceman · 11-10-2005 08:42PM

super_furry wrote:

Don't think a slap on the arse ever did anyone any harm - I'd view it as a short sharp shock to a misbehaving child. It wouldn't always be the answer but would be a valid way of disciplining a child in certain circumstances.

unless the child has brittle bones....

if slappin a child does no harm then why dont we slap adults when they do something wrong??????

super_furry · 11-10-2005 08:44PM

no

faceman wrote:

unless the child has brittle bones....

if slappin a child does no harm then why dont we slap adults when they do something wrong??????

Because it wouldn't be a legitimate form of discipline. Obviously.

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:45PM

no

i'm not sayin hit them every time or every day or whatever but i think that u can tell a child a thousand times and be as assetive as possible and they won't stop doing what they are doin but an occasional slap will send the message much more clearly that what they are doing is wrong...also if u hit a child constantly(which was never my point) they'll just get used to it and either hate u or hurt someone else as u said above ladyj

Kernel · 11-10-2005 08:46PM

no

LadyJ wrote:

All children learn from being spanked is that doing bad things will get them a thump.
That's just like saying that the only reason you shouldn't murder someone is because you'll end up in jail.
Children should be taught why something that they do is bad,not just be told it's wrong because if they get caught they'll get a beating.

I agree, but within moderation it is an acceptable and effective way of instilling discipline. I was whacked a few times by my folks, and by the teachers in the Christian Brothers school I went to. Most of the time I deserved it, sometimes I got a little too much, but overall, it made me the man I am today, rather than a little scumbag/joyrider/junkie/criminal which is where a lot of my peers ended up.

It shouldn't be the only method used, I agree with teaching the reasoning and logic behind things, but sometimes kids dont get that, or are past that stage, so you need to take another weapon out of the arsenal and go to defcon 1!

Within a relationship, it is fine all the time.

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:47PM

no

faceman wrote:

unless the child has brittle bones....

if slappin a child does no harm then why dont we slap adults when they do something wrong??????

because adults are (for the most part) reasonable characters wwhere as children haven't yet developed that sense of right and wrong

faceman · 11-10-2005 08:48PM

jcoote wrote:

because adults are (for the most part) reasonable characters wwhere as children haven't yet developed that sense of right and wrong

either have young pups but we dont smack them when they piss on the carpet!!

Somnus · 11-10-2005 08:50PM

no

super_furry wrote:

Don't think a slap on the arse ever did anyone any harm - I'd view it as a short sharp shock to a misbehaving child. It wouldn't always be the answer but would be a valid way of disciplining a child in certain circumstances.

I agree with that but i dont think you should hit a child in the body or head.

LadyJ · 11-10-2005 08:51PM

jcoote wrote:

i'm not sayin hit them every time or every day or whatever but i think that u can tell a child a thousand times and be as assetive as possible and they won't stop doing what they are doin but an occasional slap will send the message much more clearly that what they are doing is wrong...also if u hit a child constantly(which was never my point) they'll just get used to it and either hate u or hurt someone else as u said above ladyj

I realise that children can be persistent in their wrong-doings and I know that telling them is usually not enough. However,there are alternatives to spanking.

If your child keeps cursing or(insert "bold" deed of your choice) then punish them by taking away something that they like and reward them with it's return when they are good.

CerebralCortex · 11-10-2005 08:52PM

no

Pighead wrote:

Ah lads c'mon,there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving a smack to a bold child
Pighead has never, ever ever ever heard of someone who has problems from spanking

You have now. Me!!

Kernel · 11-10-2005 08:53PM

no

faceman wrote:

either have young pups but we dont smack them when they piss on the carpet!!

No, but you shove their noses in their own piss and then chuck them outside into the cold................

Kernel · 11-10-2005 08:54PM

no

CerebralCortex wrote:

You have now. Me!!

How have you problems from being spanked?

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:54PM

no

yeah that is a way but lets say there is a situation where they are walking down they street and are *insert wrong doing* what is the plan of action there

CerebralCortex · 11-10-2005 08:54PM

no

LadyJ wrote:

I think violence is just an ignorant way of handling your children. It shows that you really don't know how to deal with them at all. It's a quick fix if you will. Clockwork orange style.

I like the way this lady thinks.

Two consecutive teachers I had hit me more than once stupid bitchs.

jcoote · 11-10-2005 08:55PM

no

Kernel wrote:

No, but you shove their noses in their own piss and then chuck them outside into the cold................

i was just gonna say something along them lines...put them out in the cold is worse than say a slap on the nose imo

CerebralCortex · 11-10-2005 08:56PM

no

Kernel wrote:

How have you problems from being spanked?

The resentment and ill feeling. It was belittling and it made me intraverted and afraid of stepping out of bounds made me afraid of life.

secret_squirrel · 11-10-2005 08:56PM

no

faceman wrote:

either have young pups but we dont smack them when they piss on the carpet!!

actually they can get a whack on the nose with a rolled up paper - then have their noses rubbed in it.

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