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Le Rack · 10-07-2005 07:36PM #1

this isn't a PI its just something I was thinking about recently...
When you've broken up with someone, and your thinking about it after do you ever feel somewhat violated, so to speak, as if your saying to yourself "I cant believe I let him do that to me" sort of thing?

TerrorFirmer · 10-07-2005 09:16PM

Sometimes I think...Man, I cant believe she let ME do that to her.....!

Le Rack · 10-07-2005 09:17PM

dumbass, thats just kinda sick since you probably get a thrill out of it! I dunno its happened me an dits kinda scary...

TerrorFirmer · 10-07-2005 09:21PM

Le Rack wrote:

dumbass, thats just kinda sick since you probably get a thrill out of it! I dunno its happened me an dits kinda scary...

Eek, take a joke. On a serious note, I never do anything we arent both mutally agreed on. Would never pressure anyone to do anything!

Le Rack · 10-07-2005 09:27PM

i laughed at first, then typed then laughed some more, but yeah I'm always okay with it and he is but just when you've broken up having been in quite a serious relationship... I dunno maybe its cuz I'm young...

aidan_dunne · 11-07-2005 01:25AM

Le Rack wrote:

this isn't a PI its just something I was thinking about recently...
When you've broken up with someone, and your thinking about it after do you ever feel somewhat violated, so to speak, as if your saying to yourself "I cant believe I let him do that to me" sort of thing?

I'm really surprised nobody else has asked this question yet but what exactly did he/they do to you that has you thinking about all this lately and leaving you feeling "violated" as you put it? It sounds like it must have been pretty bad. What happened, did he have his way with you in a bath full of cold beans and chopped-up liver or something?

monkeyfudge · 11-07-2005 01:29AM

My moneys on a rim job.

Mr.Nice Guy · 11-07-2005 01:56AM

I think he was wearing her clothes and she found out about it...

Selik · 11-07-2005 05:44AM

My money's on anal!

Oriel · 11-07-2005 10:07AM

Giles wrote:

My money's on anal!

Touche...

Oriel · 11-07-2005 10:09AM

Giles wrote:

anal!

Actually, that's kinda a disturbing combination...

monkeyfudge · 11-07-2005 10:26AM

anal + rim job = felching

Töpher · 11-07-2005 10:43AM

Only if you succeed in extracting it all...

simu · 11-07-2005 12:56PM

Le Rack wrote:

this isn't a PI its just something I was thinking about recently...
When you've broken up with someone, and your thinking about it after do you ever feel somewhat violated, so to speak, as if your saying to yourself "I cant believe I let him do that to me" sort of thing?

It's possible for this to happen alright but it's not fair to claim you feel violated after having consented to doing something. Mark it off as something you might want to avoid repeating instead and also, in future cases, don't do things unless you really want to.

ven0m · 11-07-2005 12:59PM

Yeah but I'll bet it's not as scary as when some chick actually asked me to "choke" her while we were doing it.... my response was WHHHHAAAAATTTTT!!!! :eek: ............ Did it anyways LOL

::: ven0mous :::

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:00PM

Le Rack wrote:

When you've broken up with someone, and your thinking about it after do you ever feel somewhat violated, so to speak, as if your saying to yourself "I cant believe I let him do that to me" sort of thing?

Yes i've felt like that with 2 ex bf's. Its coz the 2 of them slept with someone else on me and i felt horrible after i found out. Not a good feeling at all and i think its made me very hard towards men now. Took about 9 months to let my bf now get close to me.

jor el · 11-07-2005 01:00PM

You can't really feel violated if you agreed to do it in the first place, just because you're no longer together. You can feel contempt for yourself or him because of what you did or let him do. You can also feel regret and shame too.

All this has me wondering what it was though. Was it just sex and now you feel bad because you realise what an ar$e he is? Or was it freaky stuff like is being suggested above. Oh and if you don't know what felching is then I'd advise that you don't look it up, if you couldn't guess what it was already that is.

It wasn't a cleveland steamer was it?

simu · 11-07-2005 01:05PM

Kiera wrote:

Yes i've felt like that with 2 ex bf's. Its coz the 2 of them slept with someone else on me and i felt horrible after i found out. Not a good feeling at all and i think its made me very hard towards men now. Took about 9 months to let my bf now get close to me.

Well, this would only be relevant if you had requested that they sleep with other people.

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:09PM

How do you work that out, Simu?

simu · 11-07-2005 01:14PM

When you've broken up with someone, and your thinking about it after do you ever feel somewhat violated, so to speak, as if your saying to yourself "I cant believe I let him do that to me" sort of thing?

The above suggests that the op regrets some taking part in some sexual act or some such thing with her ex. If a guy cheats on you, it's not something you let him do, it's something he does behind your back. Unless you're going to go the way of "if only I had done x, he wouldn't have gone off with somebody else" but that is not a healthy or realistic way of thinking imo.

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:22PM

simu wrote:

The above suggests that the op regrets some taking part in some sexual act or some such thing with her ex. If a guy cheats on you, it's not something you let him do, it's something he does behind your back. Unless you're going to go the way of "if only I had done x, he wouldn't have gone off with somebody else" but that is not a healthy or realistic way of thinking imo.

Well she didn’t say it was sexual! Why are you having a go at me for saying my piece? Now if Le Rack had of said about feeling violated “sexually” Then you would have a point but she didn’t in her first post!

jor el · 11-07-2005 01:26PM

Ah yes, but if Kiera let him have sex with her then found out he was shagging someone else she would feel violated or used because she trusted a no good cheater.

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:27PM

jor el wrote:

Ah yes, but if Kiera let him have sex with her then found out he was shagging someone else she would feel violated or used because she trusted a no good cheater.

EXCATLY!!! Thank you, Jor x

simu · 11-07-2005 01:33PM

Kiera wrote:

Well she didn’t say it was sexual! Why are you having a go at me for saying my piece? Now if Le Rack had of said about feeling violated “sexually” Then you would have a point but she didn’t in her first post!

I didn't say it was necessarily sexual but it was implied that consent was given to something.

Kevin_rc_ie · 11-07-2005 01:35PM

he used her phone to call home to Nigeria

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:37PM

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

he used her phone to call home to Nigeria

There you go, Simu! Nothing sexual at all!

simu · 11-07-2005 01:40PM

Kiera wrote:

There you go, Simu! Nothing sexual at all!

Do you do this on purpose?

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:41PM

Do I do what?

simu · 11-07-2005 01:45PM

Do that thing you do dooby doo.

Kiera · 11-07-2005 01:47PM

I do

Le Rack · 13-07-2005 05:21PM

it wasn't freaky-ass sexual ****, joer el darling I know my stuff, snowballing, felching, with follow through, its just I dunno, I'm saying violated for want of a better word but, its just that ya know when you break up with someone under bad terms everythin that you did together in seeming acts of "love" becomes kinda void and wasteful, not that I'm one of those "no sex before marraige" types, I'd never survive but neh...

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