A rant about cork with respect to nights out.

Eh. Ok. Technically I could put this in PI but I'd like a cork specific opinion to it.

I'm an alternative minded kind of guy, I'm into rock/metal and as such am very limited in Cork as to pubs where I like the music. I go out with an old group of friends usually, but with random people I've met out on other nights on occasion. My old friends have a varied music taste, so we do work our way through our fair share of different pubs every weekend. Usually end up in the Brog, as tonight.

My rant is about women. Not that I can't pull, tbh pulling has never been a problem. It's with meeting a woman I'd actually consider being in a relationship with. In 2.5 years of wandering around single in this city I have not met a single woman that I wanted to be with in a relationship.

Maybe I'm too picky. But I've learned from a few past bad relationships that I can't just start a relationship with random girl x that I pull in a club. I'm a complicated guy and I have a lot of things about me that are not normal. I can't just randomly go out with a woman and go, hmmm, lets give this a go. My taste in women is very alternative to say the least. I'm attracted to the oddest women.

It's odd. If it was a problem with pulling I'd accept it, but tbh after 5-10 minutes of chatting to a woman in this city I get bored with them. Not that I've not pulled for the sake of pulling, I am human, but I know when I pull that it isn't going anywhere.

I crave intelligence, grace and tbh geekiness. I had a long relationship with someone that wasn't geek friendly and I still feel the reprecussions of that today, I lost touch with quite a few people in that time. I'd be lying if I said looks aren't a factor, but tbh when are they ever not? For me to like a girl she does not have to be stunning, she just has to click with me.

My friends routinely tell me that they can't think of a single person to set me up with. I'm strange like that.

Maybe my standards are too high? Maybe I'm just being way too picky, it's been suggested to me before. I'm not a good looking guy, I can't really afford to be as picky as I am. Sure I've pulled a few stunners in my time, but i've found that the more attractive a girl is, the less likely it is for me to like her. Or she is perfect, and I back away and worship at a safe distance, don't have the confidence to try and pull a girl who is both stunning and has a great personality (in my eyes).

Eh. Maybe I'm odd. But tonight when I was in the Brog, I looked around and there was plenty of attractive women. But I wasn't attracted to a single one of them. Maybe it was the way they laughed or something, I don't know, it was really just that I looked at them and I could tell that I didn't. Shallow eh?

I'm not sure if I'm just not giving anyone the chance or what it is. It's a bit strange.

It's been suggested to me that Cork is too small a city for me to find the right woman. It's a common suggestion actually. Is this a good or bad sign? Am I searching for some unatainable ideal woman while I'm ignoring all the potential around me?

Or should I just accept that I'm not going to find a woman that I'm genuinely attracted to, and just go out with the next woman I pull in a pub or club? I'm sorry, but I really do not feel that way is good for me. I'm just not like that and never have been.

If I was picky about looks I could understand it. But I've gone out with women who were, to be blunt, plain. Looks are definitely not the top priority for me. I'm attracted to a certain kind of personality.

And to be honest, getting to know someone on a personal level is nigh impossible in Cork where it's dominated by a pub pulling atmosphere. What I'd give to an alternative to a pub.

Eh **** it. Could be worse eh? Still, have to ask... Any advice?