Looks VS Personality

AngryBadger · 05-04-2005 09:19AM

Keyzer wrote:

Bah, just figured out your a bloke....

lmfao

If a guy sees a beautiful woman he's instantly interested, and if she turns out to be a nice person that's great, but honestly the absolute first thing every guy notices is how a woman looks.

However at this point I should ....point out....there's a phenomenal amount to be revealed insomeone's personality by the way they look. I've met women who, all other things being equal, wouldn't be the absolute most beautiful women on the planet, but beause of the their personality they carry themselves, and present themselves in a way that makes them so much more attractive than even the most physically appealing of people.

So I guess in summary, guys always respond to booty, but a confident woman can override our Booty-radar and snag us easy by just impressing us with her lack of muppetry....however since that is so often an endemic genetic character of most people.....

WizZard · 05-04-2005 09:37AM

Case in point: Jessica Simpson

Sleepy · 05-04-2005 10:27AM

You'd fúck her but only for bragging rights/the story to sell.

Tobias Greeshman · 05-04-2005 10:48AM

Sleepy wrote:

You'd fúck her but only for bragging rights/the story to sell.

Damn Yeah, and blond jokes would take on a new meaning forever more.

moridin · 05-04-2005 10:55AM

azezil wrote:

well i'm not going to settle for second best, why should I!?

Damn... um... straight!

wilkins · 05-04-2005 10:59AM

When you mention looks, I always just think of the face. I think you get the face you deserve and your personality shines through. Really. Maybe it's just a sixth sense or something, but often I would be told by someone 'oh David Beckham is a ride' for example, but I think he looks thick and vain and a bit of a red red wreck-the-head, therfore he is unattractive.

I think that Ricky Gervais is attractive because he looks like good craic and he's funny before he opens his mouth.

AngryBadger · 05-04-2005 02:25PM

wilkins wrote:

I think that Ricky Gervais is attractive because he looks like good craic and he's funny before he opens his mouth.

....we're not talking "ha ha" funny though are we?

Pigman II · 05-04-2005 02:36PM

They are both equally important!

I wouldn't go out with an attractive woman who had a bad personality just as I wouldn't go out with an unattractive woman with a great personality.

But if you don't fall into the above category then don't fret! On the plus side ugly women with good personality make great friends and beautiful women with bad personalities make great prostitutes.

As for ugly women with bad personalities? Hmm I guess future leader of the PD's is the only route for you.

Tar.Aldarion · 05-04-2005 04:03PM

it happens that i am not attracted to some1,get to know them and think they are gorgeous.

personality counts.

there are not that many people that are too unattractive to date.

Hugh Hefner · 05-04-2005 04:30PM

I think both matter alot. Personality more though. It's about 3:2 in favour of personality. Looks do matter, even in the long term, but having said that, good personality can override questionable looks but good looks can't override bad personality, for me anyway.

At the drop of a hat I'd go for a good looking girl. That would be if I knew none of them. But, as has been said, good looks are subjective. For instance, I've mentioned before that I think Audrey Tautou is possibly the hottest woman in the world but I know that many would say she only has above average looks.

P.S. I'm sure I saw Caprice on Grafton St. on Sunday. HOTNESS!

Iago · 05-04-2005 04:32PM

Looks are only important for when you're walking down the street and you want others to notice.

I like attractive women, for me attractiveness is on many levels, a hint of a smile, intelligence and humour in her eyes, the ability to hold a conversation and speak her mind.

Looks will make you introduce yourself, personality will get you to ask for her number

WhiteWashMan · 05-04-2005 07:58PM

actually, i wouldnt go out with anyone who wasnt good looking, and didnt have a personality.

maybe im just more choosey

Sleepy · 05-04-2005 10:13PM

Looks do play a large part of it but it has to be said, sexiness isn't necessarily a physical thing. I've known drop dead gorgeous girls that I wouldn't consider sexy at all and girls that aren't quite as aesthetically attractive but I'd find them incredibly sexy because of their personality.

TerrorFirmer · 05-04-2005 10:44PM

Looks do play a large part of it but it has to be said, sexiness isn't necessarily a physical thing. I've known drop dead gorgeous girls that I wouldn't consider sexy at all and girls that aren't quite as aesthetically attractive but I'd find them incredibly sexy because of their personality.

I think generally people need an initial attraction, but that personality is what matters most once you accept them as....well....acceptable!

Is it very true though, that they get better looking as you get more and more of their personality....

Red Alert · 05-04-2005 10:52PM

personality more than looks for relationship, but for scoring then all bets are off

/me wonders where beer goggles fit in to all this?

Crania · 05-04-2005 11:05PM

I go for personality even if she is ugly

But it helps if she is good-looking

wilkins · 07-04-2005 10:39AM

AngryBadger wrote:

....we're not talking "ha ha" funny though are we?

Absolutemont!!!

Bottle_of_Smoke · 07-04-2005 11:05AM

Confidence is really important, probably much more important than someone being nice. And looks *generally* breed confidence.

Hard to say. Wouldn't go out with someone i wasn't attracted too I suppose. Once they're not overweight it's usually easy enough to be attracted though.

wilkins wrote:

Maybe it's just a sixth sense or something, but often I would be told by someone 'oh David Beckham is a ride' for example, but I think he looks thick and vain and a bit of a red red wreck-the-head, therfore he is unattractive.

Was gonna make this point, (not about ricky and dave hehe), Jessica Simpson; horrendously pretty but I just wouldn't fancy her

MrScruff · 07-04-2005 03:19PM

Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder...

Altheus · 07-04-2005 03:30PM

I don't think I could be a with a woman who is "ugly". Now before I get flamed out of it I'm talking about nastiness, absolute lack of personal grooming or general deformaties... Like teeth for instance, I dont mind a snaggletooth, but huge gaps and yellowing.... no way... skin, acne is fine, so long as I'm not staring at a giant bulbous boil instead of your eyes. As for size, 14 is my upper limit, after that I think it can look unhealthy, and I'm not attracted....

If you pass that criteria, then it's all personality baby.

The_B_Man · 07-04-2005 03:35PM

also, if a girl is hot but has no personality, I will (as a favour to her) take her on as a project and improve her personality by enforcing mine on hers. hehe.

nah but seriously, some girls wont be the most attractive but have potential. all they need is a good fella to bring them out of their shell and fill them with confidence and before u know it, they'll be very attractive!

Loco · 07-04-2005 04:00PM

slap the fat and ride the waves

SoupyNorman · 07-04-2005 04:19PM

cant work without both for me, im really energetic and constantly on the look out for a laugh. my previous g'friend was a size 12 when we met, really nice looking and a energetic personality. after about 5 months i noticed her putting on a little weight which didnt bother me what so ever, i think its totally healthy. after the 8 month mark she had gone up to a size 16, at this point it did bother me the reason being she stopped playing rugby and hurling while we were going out, gotten lazy,chain smoked ,cried on my shoulder evey day about her weight without doing anything about it....i brought her to the gym(bring a horse to water but cant make drink...etc), i changed my diet with her, i was 100% supportive but she wanted to lose the weight as fast as the weight was gained and wasnt prepared to work for it(many an arguement ensued!)

the most distressing of the lot was near the end, i got the impression she had us married off (we were both 20 then), she was talking about kids alot and the day she told me she could be pregnant i nearly lost me life, oh and apparently four weeks previous she had gone off the pill (without telling me) cos it was "the reason" why she had put on all the weight. thankfully twas a false alarm, i'd like to believe she had'nt planned to "trap" me with a gossen but i didnt stick around to find out.

with my current g/f nearly 2 fantastic years, it must be a perfect personality match or something cos it just works (helps that i think she is super-stunning in my eyes, probably just regular old stunning to every1 else!)

in all i think its hit n miss alot of the time.

SoupyNorman · 07-04-2005 04:24PM

The_B_Man wrote:

nah but seriously, some girls wont be the most attractive but have potential. all they need is a good fella to bring them out of their shell and fill them with confidence and before u know it, they'll be very attractive!

true enough, some girls and fellas just have no sense how to dress or act when they go out which can disadvantage them in the courtship ritual straight away.

taby · 07-04-2005 06:16PM

Hmmm well i'd say personality beats looks hands down. But than again you do have to be attrcated to the person. Like if there's no chemistry that way than why are you with them? But what i find attractive someone else might not find attractive and thus looks depends on who's looking. Personality tho means that when looks goes ( like when they're 80 or so or more) u still have someone to talk to. My mum also always said that they could be the best looking guy in the world but if they aren't your friend first than after the 'heat' is gone you'll have nothing to hold onto.

Hugh Hefner · 07-04-2005 06:29PM

taby wrote:

My mum also always said that they could be the best looking guy in the world but if they aren't your friend first than after the 'heat' is gone you'll have nothing to hold onto.

Ah, motherly advice. Don't ya just love it?

Christ.

CathyMoran · 07-04-2005 06:48PM

One thing that I realised that is very important to me is that the person is intelligent and witty, I get very bored if I can not hold a decent conversation with them on wide ranging issues. I do not think that looks are important if the person has a sexy voice but otherwise I do need them to have both on mature reflection.

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