so how long WOULD you wait?

Seraphina · 25-02-2004 06:05PM #1

sparked by the other thread and the many replies from men saying they wouldn't bother waiting, i pose the question.

so you really really like this girl/guy but for whatever reason, they just aren't putting out yet.

honestly, long would you wait before you kicked them to the kerb in favour of an easy lay?

azezil · 25-02-2004 06:34PM

If i cared for and thrusted the person I wouldn't care if we never done it.

Seraphina · 25-02-2004 06:36PM

thrusted

oh what a freudian slip...

echomadman · 25-02-2004 06:40PM

thrusted

ooo-er

If I was really into them I'd wait till they were comfortable

Dr Pepper · 25-02-2004 06:42PM

Yeh.. that was a good one!! Thrusted.. whe whe whe

Depends on the person and how much you feel they are worth the wait.. Generally a couple of weeks (or a month) is fair enough..

Amz · 25-02-2004 07:15PM

If I really liked the person and it was a relationship I believed in then obviously sex wouldn't matter. I'd have no problem waiting. It's got to be better than a relationship based solely on sex. God knows once that becomes boring or is boring from the beginning you're doomed!

Oh and az *snigger*

Zascar · 25-02-2004 07:53PM

It depends on what else your getting

! If a girl was very cagy, and would not do anything other that kissing, then probably not very long... A good physical relationship is important. But if you like this person, and like spending time with them etc, then yes you'd wait. However, the longer it last, the greater the possibility of you settling for an easy lay...

azezil · 25-02-2004 10:14PM

ooh fine yes i've sex on my mind 24x7 i'd break up after 2 weeks :P lol

edit typo i was being distracted by sexy thoughts of sex related activities.

secret_squirrel · 25-02-2004 10:20PM

Originally posted by echomadman
If I was really into them I'd wait till they were comfortable

Or even wait until they are comfortable before getting into them???

Depends on how interesting they can make not putting out.......Lets face it there's more than one way to make a man roll over, fall asleep and snore

Victor · 25-02-2004 10:22PM

Originally posted by azezil
27x7

???

Ste.phen · 25-02-2004 10:27PM

i think they meant 24/7?

Sleepy · 25-02-2004 10:34PM

As long as it was a relationship I was into: however long it takes...

For a fling: as long as other things are being done, I've no problems... tbh I'm more into some other things than straight forward intercourse

Guy:Incognito · 25-02-2004 10:39PM

Personally I'd be willing to wait till the girl is ready. Theres no point in someone doing something just cos they feel pressured into, it just wont mean as much. Its not the most important part of a meaningfull relationshipand if the person feels they are not being pressured they will trust you a lot more and feel more comfortable with the situation when they do feel they are ready.

hedgetrimmer · 26-02-2004 09:02AM

If it was a real relationship, and there was emotional involvement, it wouldn't be a reason for breaking up with the person at all. Tis all, IMO, and matter of open communication and "thrust"

swiss · 26-02-2004 09:20AM

Hard to say. It really would depend on how much I liked the person in question. If I really liked him then I could probably hold out for a few months, but not indefinitely. One has to have a sexual as well as a romantic relationship on some level. It would also depend a little on how well disposed he would be towards "other" activities.

][cEMAN** · 26-02-2004 10:52AM

Hmmm. Well it depends if the person is shy or just generally sexually unresponsive. I'm not going to be happy at all in a relationship where the person is cold or unresponsive in bed. But if I think that the person is just waiting for the right time and will be happy to work with me and not against me, then i'd say either a few weeks (if they're completely unresponsive and unwilling to do anything to relieve the tension). That or i'd be happy to wait a couple of months if they're happy to help out :P. I doubt I could wait any longer than that due to urges.

I would have to admit that if I wasn't happy where I was in that situation, my eye would wander when i'm in a bar or club. Would purely be hormones taking over and I doubt I could be held responsible for that. Same in any long term relationship. If the sex is bad or non existant, you're going to go looking for it somewhere else.

Normally talking to someone about problems in the relationship helps, but like I said, if they're completely unresponsive and you're not happy then move on. Love isn't always enough in a relationship.

DapperGent · 26-02-2004 11:44AM

As long as I'd be getting good head I could hold out for ages.

Wrestlemania · 26-02-2004 11:46AM

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm battys

Sarky · 26-02-2004 03:31PM

What Azezil said. Except for the bit about thrusting.

There's far more to relationships than sex. There's trust, a feeling of security just by having that someone nearby, you have someone to confide in, someone who makes you laugh, or even cry, and a whole "best friend in the whole world EVER" feel to a decent relationship. Getting your rocks off doesn't even have to come into it. It certainly didn't for the longest relationship I ever had, and 2.5 years is a LONG relationship...

Tee hee hee, thrusted...

][cEMAN** · 26-02-2004 05:51PM

But you can't go that long without anything. You're going to start getting frustrated at some point. I mean it's hardly that sex is a bad word. It's something natural and our sex drives are there for a reason. Saying that "yes love can be all roses and we'll never talk about that awful S word" (paraphrasing) is just trying to deny natural biological needs.

Though if you're happy enough loving someone and then spending time alone giving yourself pleasure that's a personal choice. Though if you really LOVE them and they LOVE you, then it's something to be shared, not ignored. That's why they call it the act of "making love". Some people just f*ck (which is getting your rocks off) but when it's with someone that makes your heart jump it's always going to be something special.

Hey i'll admit that sometimes with people i've loved we;ve just gotten totally intertwined and then just held each other tightly embracing the moment. You don't even have to do anything. Just being that close, inside someone, or around someone, is a wonderfull thing/feeling. Embrace it...

Doodee · 26-02-2004 07:34PM

I find it a bit weird that people feel the need to Have to have sex. I mean, its not as if its gonna hurt you. Sure its nice/whatever, but then again so is being in a relationship. If you really want the person you will hold off, and feel better for doing so as you know you had the will power / whatever to hold off for them.

Then again, different folks different strokes :cool:

][cEMAN** · 26-02-2004 07:45PM

Originally posted by Doodee
I find it a bit weird that people feel the need to Have to have sex. I mean, its not as if its gonna hurt you.

Actually it does hurt some people if they don't. Can be quite painful from what I hear.

Doodee · 26-02-2004 08:10PM

I cant understand how.

its really just instinct more than anything else.

uberwolf · 26-02-2004 08:12PM

Originally posted by Doodee

its really just instinct more than anything else.

thats what people are arguing though, if its instinct why deny it? Personally I have waited for a long time. ANd she is still worth it

Conorisco · 26-02-2004 08:44PM

Ok Don't wait
If you're waiting a long time they are Gay. And don't love you...Bitch

Ryaner · 26-02-2004 08:54PM

I agree with some of the earlier posts. While sex is natural and needed (as such) when you find a relationship in which sex isnt an issue as in isnt needed to make you happy, it will be alot more forfilling when it does happen.

If you cant spend time around them and enjoy it even though your not getting any then the relationship aint worth much then anyway.

Caesar_Bojangle · 26-02-2004 11:43PM

Its kind of a catch 22 situation. Too early, i.e. by the third date, she’s a slapper and I'd want nothing to do with her after I had my fun, as she has probably done it with countless other guys. Too late, well lets just say that she'd want to have a magnificent body and a great personality and a set of lips similar to those of Angelina Jolie.

jerenaugrim · 26-02-2004 11:50PM

One month.

Selik · 27-02-2004 12:58AM

3-4 weeks tops these days... Did wait over 6 months with a previous girlfriend :eek:

Although in fairness that was nearly 5 years ago!

simu · 27-02-2004 01:02AM

Me, I think it's better to have sex straight away or in the first few days - otherwise it becomes a "serious issue". I'd be annoyed if sb who was willing to kiss me didn't want to have sex with me. This has never happened to me though, apart from with guys with strong religious beliefs and in those cases, I was glad to find out about their beliefs straight away as religion is a big no-no for me in a boyfriend.

Senor_Fudge · 27-02-2004 01:42AM

id wait a good while if she was worth it
no doubt it she was foreign and fine

so how long WOULD you wait?

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