so how long WOULD you wait?

Seraphina

sparked by the other thread and the many replies from men saying they wouldn't bother waiting, i pose the question.

so you really really like this girl/guy but for whatever reason, they just aren't putting out yet.

honestly, long would you wait before you kicked them to the kerb in favour of an easy lay?

azezil

If i cared for and thrusted the person I wouldn't care if we never done it.

Seraphina

thrusted

oh what a freudian slip...

echomadman

thrusted

ooo-er

If I was really into them I'd wait till they were comfortable

Dr Pepper

Yeh.. that was a good one!! Thrusted.. whe whe whe

Depends on the person and how much you feel they are worth the wait.. Generally a couple of weeks (or a month) is fair enough..

Amz

If I really liked the person and it was a relationship I believed in then obviously sex wouldn't matter. I'd have no problem waiting. It's got to be better than a relationship based solely on sex. God knows once that becomes boring or is boring from the beginning you're doomed!


Oh and az *snigger*

Zascar

It depends on what else your getting ! If a girl was very cagy, and would not do anything other that kissing, then probably not very long... A good physical relationship is important. But if you like this person, and like spending time with them etc, then yes you'd wait. However, the longer it last, the greater the possibility of you settling for an easy lay...

azezil

ooh fine yes i've sex on my mind 24x7 i'd break up after 2 weeks :P lol







edit typo i was being distracted by sexy thoughts of sex related activities.

secret_squirrel

Originally posted by echomadman
If I was really into them I'd wait till they were comfortable

Or even wait until they are comfortable before getting into them???

Depends on how interesting they can make not putting out.......Lets face it there's more than one way to make a man roll over, fall asleep and snore

Victor

Originally posted by azezil
27x7

???

Ste.phen

i think they meant 24/7?

Sleepy

As long as it was a relationship I was into: however long it takes...

For a fling: as long as other things are being done, I've no problems... tbh I'm more into some other things than straight forward intercourse

Guy:Incognito

Personally I'd be willing to wait till the girl is ready. Theres no point in someone doing something just cos they feel pressured into, it just wont mean as much. Its not the most important part of a meaningfull relationshipand if the person feels they are not being pressured they will trust you a lot more and feel more comfortable with the situation when they do feel they are ready.

hedgetrimmer

If it was a real relationship, and there was emotional involvement, it wouldn't be a reason for breaking up with the person at all. Tis all, IMO, and matter of open communication and "thrust"

swiss

Hard to say. It really would depend on how much I liked the person in question. If I really liked him then I could probably hold out for a few months, but not indefinitely. One has to have a sexual as well as a romantic relationship on some level. It would also depend a little on how well disposed he would be towards "other" activities.

][cEMAN**

Hmmm. Well it depends if the person is shy or just generally sexually unresponsive. I'm not going to be happy at all in a relationship where the person is cold or unresponsive in bed. But if I think that the person is just waiting for the right time and will be happy to work with me and not against me, then i'd say either a few weeks (if they're completely unresponsive and unwilling to do anything to relieve the tension). That or i'd be happy to wait a couple of months if they're happy to help out :P. I doubt I could wait any longer than that due to urges.

I would have to admit that if I wasn't happy where I was in that situation, my eye would wander when i'm in a bar or club. Would purely be hormones taking over and I doubt I could be held responsible for that. Same in any long term relationship. If the sex is bad or non existant, you're going to go looking for it somewhere else.

Normally talking to someone about problems in the relationship helps, but like I said, if they're completely unresponsive and you're not happy then move on. Love isn't always enough in a relationship.

DapperGent

As long as I'd be getting good head I could hold out for ages.

Wrestlemania

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm battys

Sarky

What Azezil said. Except for the bit about thrusting.

There's far more to relationships than sex. There's trust, a feeling of security just by having that someone nearby, you have someone to confide in, someone who makes you laugh, or even cry, and a whole "best friend in the whole world EVER" feel to a decent relationship. Getting your rocks off doesn't even have to come into it. It certainly didn't for the longest relationship I ever had, and 2.5 years is a LONG relationship...

Tee hee hee, thrusted...

][cEMAN**

But you can't go that long without anything. You're going to start getting frustrated at some point. I mean it's hardly that sex is a bad word. It's something natural and our sex drives are there for a reason. Saying that "yes love can be all roses and we'll never talk about that awful S word" (paraphrasing) is just trying to deny natural biological needs.

Though if you're happy enough loving someone and then spending time alone giving yourself pleasure that's a personal choice. Though if you really LOVE them and they LOVE you, then it's something to be shared, not ignored. That's why they call it the act of "making love". Some people just f*ck (which is getting your rocks off) but when it's with someone that makes your heart jump it's always going to be something special.

Hey i'll admit that sometimes with people i've loved we;ve just gotten totally intertwined and then just held each other tightly embracing the moment. You don't even have to do anything. Just being that close, inside someone, or around someone, is a wonderfull thing/feeling. Embrace it...

Doodee

I find it a bit weird that people feel the need to Have to have sex. I mean, its not as if its gonna hurt you. Sure its nice/whatever, but then again so is being in a relationship. If you really want the person you will hold off, and feel better for doing so as you know you had the will power / whatever to hold off for them.

Then again, different folks different strokes :cool:

][cEMAN**

Originally posted by Doodee
I find it a bit weird that people feel the need to Have to have sex. I mean, its not as if its gonna hurt you.

Actually it does hurt some people if they don't. Can be quite painful from what I hear.

Doodee

I cant understand how.

its really just instinct more than anything else.

uberwolf

Originally posted by Doodee


its really just instinct more than anything else.

thats what people are arguing though, if its instinct why deny it? Personally I have waited for a long time. ANd she is still worth it

Conorisco

Ok Don't wait
If you're waiting a long time they are Gay. And don't love you...Bitch

Ryaner

I agree with some of the earlier posts. While sex is natural and needed (as such) when you find a relationship in which sex isnt an issue as in isnt needed to make you happy, it will be alot more forfilling when it does happen.

If you cant spend time around them and enjoy it even though your not getting any then the relationship aint worth much then anyway.

Caesar_Bojangle

Its kind of a catch 22 situation. Too early, i.e. by the third date, she’s a slapper and I'd want nothing to do with her after I had my fun, as she has probably done it with countless other guys. Too late, well lets just say that she'd want to have a magnificent body and a great personality and a set of lips similar to those of Angelina Jolie.

jerenaugrim

One month.

Selik

3-4 weeks tops these days... Did wait over 6 months with a previous girlfriend :eek:

Although in fairness that was nearly 5 years ago!

simu

Me, I think it's better to have sex straight away or in the first few days - otherwise it becomes a "serious issue". I'd be annoyed if sb who was willing to kiss me didn't want to have sex with me. This has never happened to me though, apart from with guys with strong religious beliefs and in those cases, I was glad to find out about their beliefs straight away as religion is a big no-no for me in a boyfriend.

Senor_Fudge

id wait a good while if she was worth it
no doubt it she was foreign and fine

soma

Originally posted by DapperGent
As long as I'd be getting good head I could hold out for ages.

*LOL* I second this motion

Draupnir

I waited a year once, that was no joke, but hey, ya fall in love you will pretty much eat your own **** to be with the girl wont ya.

Turner

I have waited a few months alright, that was a few years back.. dont think i'd wait that long now. I was young back then 18 or 19 and still in college.


Its never really an issue these days I find. If you meet a girl on a night out and end up back in somebodys house its kinda par for the course to sleep together. Most times sex would come in to it but if not and you meet the person the next week its probably gaurenteed to happen then.

If a girl said she would like to get to know me better that would indicate to me that she wants to have a relationship which isnt what im looking for at the moment.

Just my situation and opinion

Chief.

Kell

How long would you wait is really quite a broad generalisation. If you really really really liked the lass/lad in question then for me a month mebbe so long as there was a sufficient amount of "heavy petting" going on.

If it turned into some long term debated thing, then I think I would head for the hills and get my jollies elsewhere. As I said in the other post, why should it be a case of deciding on timing? If it feels like the best option for someone to go for at that time, then why deny the urge?

All a bit strange methinks. Oh, and then theres the whole virgin question. How long before you sleep with one of those. Usually, a bit longer than a month I would say but exactly how long my patience would last, dunno.

K-

Doodee

The point i made about instinct meant that as humans we have control over our primal instincts.

ITs the treasure of being top of the food chain.

I think it all boils down to just how much you are seeing someone.

If you are only seeing them once or twice a week then waiting anything upto 2 months is ok, however, if you are seeing them everyday or every second day then i think it would be a bit sooner simply because you have gotten to know em better than in the proir situation.

Then again, the other factor is just what are you looking for from the girl. if its sex then move on, if its a relationship then wait. If you dont know then ride the wave and after you know then make your decision.

The POWER IS YOURS!

Captain Planet, na na naaa naaa

xx

As long as I got to molest them occassionally, I'd be sorted for tops a month and a half. Anything more than that is deemed to be frigid.

Draupnir

Hey xx, any chance you will come with me to my ex's brothers house and help me explain frigid to him so he stops threatening to kill me?

Apparently, you call you girlfriend a frigid in public, you get dumped and added to a gang hit list

smiles

This is not a personal issues thread. Moved.

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Johnny Versace

I would stay faithful for two weeks. If I'm getting none after that I'm going to statr shagging other girls while "continuing to wait."

xx

Originally posted by Draupnir
Hey xx, any chance you will come with me to my ex's brothers house and help me explain frigid to him so he stops threatening to kill me?

Apparently, you call you girlfriend a frigid in public, you get dumped and added to a gang hit list

Yeah, no sweat, when and where? You called your girlfriend a frigid in public, eh? Ouch, that was a verbal bitchslap dude

DapperGent

Originally posted by smiles
This is not a personal issues thread. Moved.

You can tell she's serious 'cos of the bold text.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

so does that mean you're not being serious now?
what about me?

DapperGent

When I'm serious I use italics.

Wolf

Tbh iv never put any real pressure on a girl. As has been said wait till the time is right.

However.............................

There was this one girl and she said to me " I dont want to have sex before marrage", I said "fair enough but I want as much sex as possible before marrage".

So at the end of the day is that not fair enough :dunno:

Soz for speeling

User45701

Depends on your own standerds if you have VERY high standerds then you are better off waiting because someone who is good enough for you isent easy to find.

ClareBear

I made my last boyfriend wait 3 months.

Jesus that makes me sound like an american teenager! I didn't "make" him....it just didn't happen for 3 months.

Oh I'm going to shut up now.....:rolleyes:

AL][EN

I pretty much agree with wolf, there's time enough for sex in a relationship when it happens it happens,I usually dont care how long before i hop in the sack so long as its not years or anything.

as fun a sex is its not the BIG BIG important factor in a relationship with me, dont get me wrong its a great part when your going out with someone, hell im the anytime anywhere kinda guy its just i wouldnt pressure anyone i was dating into it,