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Women's rights under attack

  • 18-02-2026 05:21PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there

    This is a bit of a message in a bottle thing, as I've no idea how active this forum is for starters.

    I've been posting in IMHO about the conflict between trans demands and women's rights, and got a couple of bans at various times for "misgendering" - but my basic position is that as women, we have to be able to say if we don't believe that men can ever become women without being sanctioned, ie "misgender" trans women when that is relevant to an issue, because otherwise, the claim that trans women are women, means that wanting to exclude a trans woman from the female category can be portrayed as being equivalent to wanting to exclude black women, when in fact it's not - or not IMO anyway.

    In sport for example, a teenager was sexually assaulted recently by a male opponent in a wrestling competition when she believed she was wrestling a girl. Initially she and her parents had great difficulty in getting even her own coach to complain. Because "trans".

    It was only after two months, when it started to go viral on social media, raised (of course) by rightwing outlets such as Brandi Cruse, that the sports authorities came under enough pressure to investigate.

    As someone who has always voted on the left, I have to say that this issue has been a complete eye opener for me. Women's rights are under attack by men, and just because those men like to think of themselves as women doesn't make that any less true.

    And insisting that the transgender wrestler who sexually assaulted this 16 year old girl is also a girl misses the point dramatically IMO.

    There are a number of other issues: the fact that two mass shooters recently have been transgender means that to the exact contrary of women, who are FAR more likely to be killed in a mass shooting than to commit one, it turns out that trans women are FAR more likely to commit a mass shooting than to be killed in one. In Canada for example they're 0.3% of the whole population, but over 8% of all the mass shootings in Canada in the 21st century.

    If we're really not allowed to discuss whether that might be something other than a bizarre coincidence, then IMO that's just censorship of awkward subjects.

    I'm not saying that all transidentifying males - still less all transgender people including women who identify as men - are dangerous. I'm simply suggesting that a not-insignificant number of males who identify as women have pre-existing mental health issues, and that their trans identity is more likely to be a symptom of these problems, not the solution to them. And that, for those people, affirming their delusions won't cure them, it only leads to them escalating.

    And - what's more important from my point of view - that by affirming them as women, society is dismissing the very existence of women, and turning us into just an idea in a man's head. "If a man says he's a woman then he is" - well IMO no he's not. You can't change sex.

    Off we go: here's my message thrown into the water - let's see if I get a ban for daring to say this on here same as I did in IMHO!

    If not, then I'm keen to hear what others think about this? I'm perfectly happy to discuss it politely with anyone who disagrees - but so far on the other forum, it's generally just been "Evil transphobe, here's a ban for you!" That's not a discussion.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 2,894 ✭✭✭aero2k


    Well, this forum seems to be on life support given the low traffic of late, so any topic that might stimulate discussion should be welcomed. We'll see.

    The first think to say about women's rights is that in order to define and protect them, you have to be able to say unambiguously what a woman is. (BTW I'm uncomfortable with the idea of women's rights - there are a few things like pregnancy leave etc which are exclusive to women but everything else amounts to not being discriminated against on the grounds of sex, so they apply equally well to men). To do that, you need an objective, biological definition - gender is too subjective, and these days too nebulous, to form a basis for such definition.

    I could never understand the prohibition on mis-gendering. Sure, if some people wanted to believe in an ideology, then they were entitled to do so as long as they didn't infringe on anyone else's rights, however in practice they infringed on the right to believe in science, and to publicly express that belief. Like you and others when all this first came to prominence I thiought the pronouns were harmless and indeed polite, but I came around to Helen Joyce's way of thinking. As Stella O'Malley has said, social transitioning is not a neutral act.

    Many of the societal/political problems we have today can be traced back to a lack of intellectual honesty and/or moral backbone. Telling people who are struggling that they can change sex and all will be well is a monstrous lie. Many people have been harmed, expecially kids.

    The other harms you've outlined regarding women's private spaces and sports are well rehearsed on the WPATH and Men in Women's Sports threads on CA, but they bear repeating here. I can't imagine the moral injury suffered by women on the receiving end of the gaslighting - being told to get counselling to help them deal with their bigotry, or coming to terms for example with missing out on podium places or sports scholarships because of men.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Yes I mean this is really the crux of it: "you have to be able to say unambiguously what a woman is". The problem is that most people didn't measure the significance of "be kind" and "inclusion" for a long time. Including myself. We assumed (well we were told) that nobody would ever abuse that and it was just about making a few people happy. But the truth is that when you have people riding electric bikes to hold Strava cycling records - yes, seriously! - it's inevitable that some men would choose to participate in the female category because that way they have a better chance of winning.

    And when you're not ever supposed to say "Hey that's a man!" because it's "not kind", there's no way to identify those who are genuine from those who are in bad faith.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    The other harms you've outlined regarding women's private spaces and sports are well rehearsed on the WPATH and Men in Women's Sports threads on CA, but they bear repeating here.

    I repeated them on here to explain where I'm coming from on this - to make it into an OP if you like.

    As I'm currently banned for being a Bold Girl in the Other Place, and this forum was suggested to me by a mod as being more appropriate for these discussions, I decided to give it a go here.

    But as you say, it's not a forum with much traffic. Which may have been the idea LOL.

    (Be funny if this thread increased traffic to this forum wouldn't it!)



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 2,894 ✭✭✭aero2k


    Hopefully it will get a bit of traffic - it would be a shame to think that women don't care about these issues, and much more sinister if they do care but are afraid to air their views for fear of disapproval.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    I do think that women's rights are most definitely under attack but the real threat the rise of extremist conservative thinking. Particularly in the younger generation.

    Things like a rise in fundamentalist Christianity, the 'manosphere' / the likes of Andrew Tate, 'trad wives', there's a huge push in certain cohorts to roll back on women's freedoms. And they're gaining traction.

    I really do see the trans thing as a massive red herring that has been used by the above cohorts to push through their right wing conservative agendas, and a lot of people fell for it - hook, line and sinker.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Oh look!

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    And a more serious reply is that it's not a left/right divide. There are violent men on all sides of the politicial ideology.

    A man who wants women to believe that men on his side of politics are inherently better for women is not being honest. He's just promoting his own political agenda.

    But if you want to discuss the subject, what's your opinion of the 16 year old being put in a wrestling match against a biological male without being informed of that, and then being sexually assaulted by him during the match?

    What has that to do with right or left wing politics?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,501 ✭✭✭✭drunkmonkey


    That’s some stretch, being a stay at home mom is oppression, identifying men as women is empowering people who think it’s nonsense to push their far right things like God while the left are cutting off their 3 piece sweet and fun bags.
    Women with children being forced to go out and work every day is not freedom. Hungary gives them tax breaks to have kids, what to do we do to encourage them out of the daily grind.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    Oh woops! I didn't realise this was the ladies lounge, I'll leave you to your female only space, seeing as us men are trying to invade your toilets and all the rest.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Yes I pretty much agree with this too: women used to be at the mercy of men because they had no other way of providing a decent living for themselves, so a woman who was badly treated by her husband had little choice but to put up with it in all but the most extreme circumstances.

    But now, while claiming that women are being given a choice because they can go out to work, in practice they're just becoming another working unit, expected to be as productive as men while often still doing much of the work of looking after children and indeed the household generally.

    It's true she can now leave an abusive husband - and that's a really important gain. But the downside of both parents needing to work just to keep things going is real too. There was a lot of poverty in the past, and both parents working has pretty much ended that. But I think we need to find ways of making life easier for young families, whether one or two of them are working. The housing crisis, which is one of the biggest problems, is not a right/left issue either: our supposedly left wing president has a work record of defending the banks against ordinary people in repossession cases - and it didn't even stop her getting elected. Because the claim that she had no choice because the taxi rank principle applied is untrue - that's only an issue for criminal cases, not the banking repossessions.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,089 ✭✭✭nachouser


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    It's a rounding error in terms of the population of Ireland.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    And yet that's all it takes to negatively affect all the women in Limerick prison forced to put up with the hateful behavour of three violent men put in the female estate because they claimed to be women.

    One violent man affects dozens of women. And men who claim to be women are no different in that respect.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    LOL so you're stalking me then? Like, how else did you find yourself in here? Should I be flattered? Or unsettled by it, like a stalker in real life?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,089 ✭✭✭nachouser


    Outliers are never good reasons to dictate policy. And you know this.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Absolutely. Impact assessments exist though -in fact that's what they're for before changing a long standing rule. But oddly enough they rarely seem to be done to assess the impact on women of men invading their spaces. Why is that?

    The prison guard threatened with rape by Barbie Kardashian should surely be entitled to have the effects of having to control violent men in a female prison considered too? It's not what she signed up for, after all.

    (I thought I'd already posted this but I can't see it above):



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,501 ✭✭✭✭drunkmonkey


    That’s the way I read it. Apologies if you meant the opposite.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,031 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    Don't be so quick to judge. I too came to the thread and only realised on reading through it that it was the Ladies Lounge. It came up on the recent active threads and I thought it may be a discussion worth having. But, I'll leave my agreement with you for another forum.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Currently, a pre-operative, pre-hormone therapy, male-to-female transgender prisoner is being held in Limerick women’s prison. (…) When before the court last July, the prisoner was in possession of a gender recognition certificate.

    It is understood that the prisoner was assigned a high level of monitoring after being convicted of ten counts of sexual assault and one count of cruelty against a child. The prisoner is accompanied by two officers at all times while in the common areas of the detention facility.

    Robert Purcell is chair of the Law Society Criminal Law Committee: “The law that was enacted in 2015 did not envisage this situation, and it puts the Prison Service and the courts in a difficult position because, obviously, if somebody is self-declaring that they have to be recognised, then they have to be dealt with on that basis, even though physically, they have not have made the [physical] transformation.

    I don’t think the legislation envisaged the ability of transgender people to be able to self-declare; and it didn’t foresee the problems it would cause if a transgender, self-declared person was held in a mixed prison,” he said.

    It's an example of what I described in the OP - the TDs didn't think the legislation through. It was no doubt well-meaning but is turning out to be ill-advised. Well, for anyone who cares about women's safety. For TDs and people in the media who wanted to score political points "See how modern and prgressive we are in Ireland now?" it looked great, and they're finding it hard to admit any failings now.

    They had the same problem in Scotland with rapists being put in a women's prison just on the rapist's say-so. And in Australia:

    Secret payout after transgender murderer’s sexual assault at Tarrengower female prison


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    You'd think someone who spends so much time on here spouting trans nonsense would know how the front page of the website works.

    Put down the sherry and go to bed.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    You didn't make a comment about this being for the ladies, though did you?

    As far as I know, men are entitled to join in here, so why would it being in the Ladies Lounge be so off putting? I didn't tell him not to post here. Anyway, I know he stalks me, I've seen him do it before.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    So replying to your posts is 'stalking' you now? Don't flatter yourself.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    Here's the thing though - I don't follow people I don't like around the place just to disagree with them.

    I do know how the front page works: you saw my name and hastened over to disagree. It's sad but kind of funny at the same time.

    And the sherry comment is abusive and pathetic.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    You're free to scroll on by. Please don't let me detain you where you say you don't want to be.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    Your thread appeared on the main landing page for all to see, I clicked on it as I genuinely found it interesting and posted. It's how the website works, Deal with it.

    If you don't want to see my replies to your posts when I feel like replying to you then put me on ignore. Otherwise quit moaning.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,345 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    As far as I know, men are entitled to join in here, so why would it being in the Ladies Lounge be so off putting?

    Do you think posts like this could be considered off putting?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,031 ✭✭✭✭Jim_Hodge


    Your

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    said it all, I'm afraid. So best I don't give my views either way.

    AND, why not put him on Ignore?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    Thanks. Genuinely my first post was completely in good faith just replying honestly to a thread and I got that in response.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    LOL you're the one who complained. Typical DARVO mind.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,016 ✭✭✭✭volchitsa


    There's rather more to that post than just the meme though, so no - and anyway I'd post that anywhere where a man comes to instruct me that my opinion about the risks to women's rights is wrong. In fact I may well have posted it on the CA forum in the past.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,706 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    what are you on about? I simply replied to a thread and you immediately had a go at a me for being male and having an opinion.

    I see you still haven't put me on ignore. You'd think if someone thought a person was stalking them this would be the first thing they would do. More over the top nonsense I see.



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