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My daughter was dismissed

  • 08-02-2026 11:17AM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36


    My daughter was just shy of 12 months working part time in her job. This weekend she went in to work when 20 minutes later the Boss's second in command called her out the back and handed her a dismissal letter told her the boss asked to give it to her and claimed he had no idea why she was being dismissed. It was a shock because she had received no verbal or written warning leading up to this. She is distraught as a result. Im not concerned about her no longer working there as her boss is a toxic man and reviews online reveal this also. I am worried how this will effect her getting another job especially as she was fired after a year and not say 2 months! She rang him last night after she stopped crying but he didn't ansand text her to email him after the weekend. Im so angry I am trying to contain myself but surely at least morally speaking this is so wong?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,274 ✭✭✭Deeec


    It wont affect her ability to get another job. She can say she left voluntarily. Future employers wont know how the job ended.

    It was only a part time job - move on and forget about it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,272 ✭✭✭lawrencesummers


    what did she do wrong?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    They ask for references especially from your most recent employer usually!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    She has no clue, the letter i attached doesn't really identify an actual reason does it? She wasn't always able to go in due to college but he was aware of this.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    TThat's a good question, he doesn't specify and refuses to speak to her on the phone telling her to email him. She is completely stumped



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,274 ✭✭✭Deeec


    References nowadays just confirm she worked there. Most don't give an opinion on the person. If its a part time job in retail or hospitality references wont even be checked. Honestly you are worrying about nothing. She was let go because she is not needed - she probably done nothing wrong. That's just life starting off in the working world as a young person.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,207 ✭✭✭✭Calahonda52


    forget about it, move on.

    Don't waste your daughter's time or more importantly her headspace with this crap.

    What age is she?

    Is she still in college?

    Am not an expert but would she have got some rights after 12 months:

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,289 ✭✭✭jackboy


    That boss is a coward. I think she should forget about getting an explanation as the coward will probably lie anyway. She should focus on getting a good reference from them and then just move on. Being a coward he will probably agree to the reference no problem.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    I hope he does but he is a horrible man so I have my doubts.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    She's 19 and in college. If he agreed at least to a reference we would leave it. He is a nasty man so I just don't know if he will. If he doesn't Im worried she will find it difficult to get another job.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,422 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    as others have stated, just move on, dont bother wasting time getting answers, as you wont get what you re looking for, also sounds like a blessing in disguise, staying too long long in a toxic work place can have far great longer impacts, she ll find another job



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 6,906 ✭✭✭Buddy Bubs


    She wont have a problem getting a new job.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    Hopefully you are right, but this man should not be allowed to get away with treating young people this way. If he needed to let her go why not just say that? Why get someone to hand her a dismissal letter which doesn't clearly state why she was sacked? That makes me want to go after him even more!



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,207 ✭✭✭✭Calahonda52


    References at the level are not with a damn.

    Any employer will call and read between the lines based on the conversation.

    This area is gone very difficult, interviewers have to ask the candidates exactly the same questions in the same order and the answers are written on pre-printed sheets.

    The private notes made by the panel are shredded and never existed

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,019 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble


    Was she actually fired, or just made redundant?

    With less that 2 yars service, there's no payout for redundancy.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,207 ✭✭✭✭Calahonda52


    Please don't waste your time.

    Devote your energy on your daughter

    Spend more time with her, just listening/no judgemental

    Her headspace at 19 is crucial: I know from personal experience with my daughter.

    My 6 commandments for headspace are as follows

    1: eat well

    2: sleep well

    3: exercise well

    4: be a positive contribution, however small, to herself/family /friends/community/whatever

    5: Only mix with/converse with people WHO HAVE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON HER .

    6: Control social media consumption based on 5 above

    Over and out

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    She's not looking for redundancy...my worry is the mark on her employment record as well as her mental health. She received a letter of dismissal.



  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators Posts: 11,190 Mod ✭✭✭✭Jim2007


    She is a fully time studend, did not have a part-time job last year, move on….



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,422 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    definitely turn it into a positive, shes learning a good lesson, i.e. some employers are just not worth the effort, some simply dont care for their employees, and its best to move on quickly from them, this will be a great experience for her, can be a tough lesson though



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,730 ✭✭✭rolling boh


    Unless there is more to this than we know ,he sounds a right coward to not handle it himself and has no respect whatsoever to your daughter or his staff in general .It was a part time job ,losing that is not going to ruin her life ,I know its a blow at the moment and nobody likes the idea of getting the sack but unfortunately this happens a lot .She will be fine and will look back and think nothing of it in time .



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 325 ✭✭MadeInKerry


    What type of job was it? Most jobs at 19 are irrelevant after college. You dont even have to say you ever worked anywhere before you finished college. So you can leave whatever you like out as if it never happened.

    90% of people you meet have walked out of or been sacked from many jobs in their teens and early 20s. In fact it would be unusual for one of those not to have heppened to most people at least once.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,596 ✭✭✭Kalimah


    That’s dreadful treatment, No warnings, no disciplinary process adhered to from what it seems.
    She’s better off out of that place. Pass the word around to friends and family to give the place a wide berth. Might put manners on the cowardly boss.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,422 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    unfortunately some employers just dont give a sh1t, bad reputations dont seem to phase them, they also tend not to change, no matter what, best to just move on



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭JIdontknow


    honestly they are just cowards, the second in command is just playing stupid but you may be sure he wasn’t just asked to “give her the letter and didn’t know what it was about”. She’s better out of a place like that. You may be sure other companies in the locality are also aware of said company and what it’s like. Its also an unfortunate but good lesson for your daughter but she shouldn’t dwell on it - the handling of this says all there is to know about the company.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,431 ✭✭✭Buffman


    Are there any other part time workers there for over 12 months?

    Unfair dismissal act doesn't apply until employed for minimum 12 months (apart from some very specific circumstances not relevant to this situation (presumably your daughter isn't pregnant)).

    So I'd suspect it was only to do with time and the employer not wanting her to gain any legal right to appeal anything going forward, but proving that is another (nearly impossible) thing.

    A part time college job isn't going to matter going forward in her chosen career, tell her to concentrate on college and getting a good result, which is far more important for future prospects.

    If she wants to follow the appeal procedure laid down in that letter, go for it but personally I'd forget all about it and move on.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    I agree, I wish I could share the online reviews honestly he and his establishment are well known. I would be happy if he had the curtesy of giving her a reference, nasty nasty man that he is.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,422 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    ah leave it be, its negatively impacting you to



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 MaryBB


    She's still in college im just so angry as a parent, the man is so horrible, he deserves to be called out but then again he has been time and time again and doesn't seem to care.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,422 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    you wont be changing such a person, you ll only upset yourself and your daughter by chasing it now



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