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Seeking clarification on what qualifies as 'personal abuse'

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,856 ✭✭✭standardg60


    Who posted a definition of intellectual dishonesty?

    The 'someone' who mentioned obtuse or deliberately obtuse earlier was me, and that was the definition posted. Thanks for clarifying that it is indeed correct.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    Easy to wind up ≠ personally abusive.

    You're just arguing semantics here, you've implied by your words that you believe the other poster is an unserious one.

    This entire thread is about the semantics of what does/does not constitute abuse. I didn't imply any such thing, if someone inferred it, that's on them. I don't believe they are unserious, I am telling them that posting in the manner they do portrays them as unserious. There is a small, but significant difference.

    The whole point of the thread in the first place is whether 'you are not being serious' is personal abuse.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 16,394 ✭✭✭✭Arghus


    I think the quote you referred to towards the end of your reply is, yes, a personal remark and could be considered abuse...

    But that doesn't mean that you weren't guilty of it too, way back in the first instance that got this whole debate started. Well before that comment.

    Also, a person can provide reasoning for their point of view - and still overstep the mark with a personal remark. Those things aren't mutually exclusive.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    You posted the definition of deliberately obtuse and said that I would be better off using that. I'm not, because being slow to understand, whether doing so deliberately or not, has nothing to do with what I was saying. It's completely irrelevant. You advised me to use a words that don't fit the definition of what I'm trying to say.

    Since then, I have been speaking exclusively about the definition of intellectually dishonest. I've no idea why you are still clinging to the definition of a word which doesn't fit the bill.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,856 ✭✭✭standardg60




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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    I think the quote you referred to towards the end of your reply is, yes, a personal remark and could be considered abuse...

    I disagree vehemently. Not all remarks about a person are personal remarks. And not all personal remarks warrant action. If anyone were to get a warning for such a comment, I'd gladly fight their corner, even if it was directed at me. Where is the line drawn? Any remark about a poster could be construed as abusive? I mean……

    But that doesn't mean that you weren't guilty of it too, way back in the first instance that got this whole debate started.

    This is you calling me guilty of something….by your own definition, this could be called personal and, therefore, abusive? Really?

    Also, a person can provide reasoning for their point of view - and still overstep the mark with a personal remark. Those things aren't mutually exclusive.

    Agreed. I wouldn't dare claim otherwise, so apologies if it came across that way. That's not what I was doing, however, not what I intended on doing and certainly not what the mod who issued the warning said. I was told that saying 'these (cited examples) are not the actions of a serious poster' was straight up personal abuse.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,513 ✭✭✭Rocket_GD


    No they are not the same but it will lead you to having further issues as your posting style is quite confrontational and you could have people targeting you knowing you'll give these paragraph upon paragraph responses where you like to seem to throw in phrases like the one's I pasted Easy for these to be seen as argumentative.

    Saying these aren't the posts of a serious poster is basically the exact same as saying you're not a serious poster as is telling them that posting in the manner they do makes them look unserious. Just because you cannot see that doesn't make it untrue.

    I'd really suggest you take a look at your own posting style, accept the 0 point warning and just move on from it.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    Nothing has dropped.

    The definition you're using is not applicable to the meaning I'm trying to convey.

    The definition your AI came up with is not correct for the words I used, so your advice to use it is misguided.

    I'm not trying to say anyone is slow to understand.

    I'm not saying they're being deliberately slow to understand.

    I'm not saying they're slow to do anything.

    You are. Incorrectly.

    And you are advising me to do the same, also incorrectly.

    That's not what I want to say, so I won't be taking your advice.

    I don't think you've fully grasped that yet.

    Maybe.

    At the risk of repeating myself, though, being confrontational and/or using paragraphs and/or being argumentative does not fit the 'personal abuse' charge. Not even nearly. Plenty of posters do all three without reprimand.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 16,394 ✭✭✭✭Arghus


    Oh, I don't know mate.

    I disagree with almost everything you've said there for numerous reasons, but I haven't the strength to go into a sentence by sentence rebuttal.

    You seem to be going to excessive length to justify and redefine things to suit your argument, to the point now where you won't even accept that someone was making a personal remark about you - because it undermines your own argument!

    You've conflated a remark I made about your behaviour, with a personal remark about a person's character, again, for a second time. Those aren't the same things?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    I disagree with this also.

    I'm not trying to redefine anything, I'm wondering about a mod's very, very loose definition of something which has long been established on this site, and asking if this is the new norm. It is they who are redefining 'personal abuse' in my mind.

    You seem to be going to excessive length to justify and redefine things to suit your argument, to the point now where you won't even accept that someone was making a personal remark about you - because it undermines your own argument!

    That isn't a personal remark, though? At least, not in the 'he deserves a warning' way, it isn't.

    You've conflated a remark I made about your behaviour, with a personal remark about a person's character, again, for a second time. Those aren't the same things?

    Yes, my entire point is that they're two separate things. I commented on the poster's behaviour, not their character, and cited the posts where the behaviour was exhibited, and said that wasn't the behaviour of a serious poster. This is 1 million miles away from dismissing someone or saying 'don't mind him, he's not a serious poster'. IMO, anyway.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,513 ✭✭✭Rocket_GD


    If someone was being unnecessarily confrontational or argumentative with another poster I can fully understand why a mod may see it as personally abusive.

    Maybe just take a few minutes before diving into your paragraphs replies or read over them and take out the little snipes that you seem prone to make as I've highlighted previously. It'll save yourself all this unnecessary hassle.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 16,394 ✭✭✭✭Arghus


    I'll put it to you this way.

    A simple question:

    Can you see how it's possible - in any way - that the sentence "these are not the actions of a serious poster" could be interpreted as negative personal remark?

    Post edited by Arghus on


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    No, not when I provided examples of their actions that showed they were not being serous, I can't. If I invented the reasons out of thin air, then maybe I could, at a stretch.

    If someone was being a hypocrite and I called it out, showing why I thought as much, using their posts as 'evidence', I also wouldn't expect that to be interpreted as a negative personal remark (on their character). And again, just because something is a negative personal remark, that doesn't mean it's abuse.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 16,394 ✭✭✭✭Arghus


    Thanks.

    Well, IMO, if you can't even concede how that could even be interpreted as a negative personal remark then I feel like this is probably going nowhere.

    Best of luck.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 386 ✭✭CardF


    they never use the cycle lane.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 386 ✭✭CardF


    Your style is to derail conversations with long pedantic impertinent digressions, its a form of aggression, and when coupled with passive aggressive language constitutes personal abuse. Its very transparent and not clever.

    It hasn't worked thus far, you might get away with it for a while but I don't think its going to be sustainable. You'll end up back here again digging to get out.
    See the responses in this thread, nobody has time for these games. And the fact that you're here is a reminder that these tactics aren't unique or clever.

    People are perceptive.

    You should stop digging.

    they never use the cycle lane.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    So……..what was the point of asking for examples, then?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 386 ✭✭CardF


    to show you how you forgot why you even started this thread. did you get what you originally wanted?

    or are you now in a hole?

    they never use the cycle lane.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,632 ✭✭✭Yeah Right


    You're not making any sense I'm afraid, I've no idea what you're talking about.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,057 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    Tbh, comments such as "these are not the actions of a serious poster" and "you are not a serious poster" are pretty much the same thing in my opinion.

    You might think that you've found a way to avoid directly attacking the poster, but I think anybody reading the former would interpret it as the latter.

    Whether it's abusive or not is another thing, but I'd find it hard to believe you don't see that your comment is, in effect, a comment on the poster, rather than the post.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,979 ✭✭✭For Petes Sake


    Poster calls me autistic after I take them to task over their throwaway use of the term to excuse bad behaviour.

    Mod gives said poster a 'heads up'.

    That's f*cking disgraceful. Utter madness.



  • Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,343 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    The moderator warned the poster and told them to stop. I'm not sure what else you want done.

    Moderators have various tools at their disposal from PM discussion, on thread warnings up to and including bans.

    You are clearly unhappy about the interaction, but the moderator has dealt with it.



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