online dating

Nearly every second profile has "make me laugh" in their bio.

Whenever I see it it's an instant left swipe even if they are good looking.

The "make me laugh" wouldn't really bother me, its the vague hippy dippy terms like "must have emotional intelligence" that grinds my gears.

Love this update too @Pwindedd 🤩

Happy to report a positive outcome from OLD too 😀 Almost 2 years with the lovely farmer I met on Bumble.

Came on here about 6 months ago complaining about dating on Bumble. So now it's a year and I still haven't been on a single date. Think I had about 12 matches in that time and the closest I got was arranging a date, then having the person flake on the day of the date and dissappear. The rest were a mix of not even messaging, not responding to my initial message, and people just dropping out of the conversation. Distance was also an issue, of the people I matched with, I would say only 2-3 were within a 2 hour drive away.

I had been on the apps before, but found them depressing so quit until I was convinced to give it another go. If anything, it's even worse now. I guess I could try a different app, but cannot see how it would go any better.

I guess that would be the conclusion alright. Time to pack it in methinks. Based on how many people I swiped right on, my match rate would be under 1% so the odds of then meeting someone are incredibly slim.

Hey everyone, I wanted to check in with some gratitude and a good news story from this thread. I know people have updated after meeting someone on apps (I did too and it can be done!) but I also found something else on this thread - a poster who's become one of my best friends IRL. 🙂

I hope everyone who used to post here is doing well and I'd encourage any lurkers to revive the thread with your stories about OD, you'd be surprised at how many people will understand and relate. And you might make a new friend too, if not more 🙂. This particular thread got a bit negative towards the end because of the echo chambery stuff but we had some good conversations and genuine support and camaraderie here, and it would be great to see that kick off again!

Still single here. But I only use OD every now and then. As in I might check in once a week. No one wants me. Haha!

Love this!!!

The reality is very few people will meet anyone from dating apps, especially people like me who are in their fifties.

I've never used a dating app, they sound horrific and terrible for men's mental health. I'm late 40s, look younger, willing to commit, multi millionaire, have been weight training for 23 years and am in super shape - and I reckon I'd do even worse on those apps than I do in real life. The BS of dating and social media apps generally has seeped into real life. Women's standards are insane. One of the things that would scupper me on apps is no social proof, no "cool" pics of me at the Pyramids or on Bondi Beach. Or clubbing, or playing rugby or with a bunch of women around me while I smoke a cigar.

Most of the things you think impress women would be off-putting for most women I know (I don't think someone playing rugby would put someone off, but the rest for sure). You'd be surprised. But it's not for everyone either!

Being a low tier millionaire/multi millionaire in 2026 is boring for women and barely registers even though you could be in the top 5% in terms of household wealth (90th percentile household wealth which includes the PPR is 1.024 million)

Women say they want stability, well having 1 million+ investable, a half decent job and a reasonably sensible lifestyle puts a person in a tremendous position to provide that.

Borrring. You're not deemed wealthy unless you have massive reserves well into 8 figures and flaunt it, you might have a yacht and private jet. Better again if you earned your money through criminality and have you pic taken smoking cigars like Tony Soprano. Don't even have to be rich for that though, regardless of money they love gangsters, thugs, bullies, arseholes, cheats, drug dealers, drunk drivers etc.