Northern Ireland 2125?

Yes we know all of that @downcow

You were not asked that.

I asked a question which was very specific and you won’t give a straight answer.

Then accept that so far the referendum isn't wanted, otherwise it would have happend by now.

Why should a referendum be for something worse?

No NATO? No NHS? No GBP?

Currently the ROI doesn't have much to offer to NI.

"Who would attack Ireland attitude?", exchange the NHS for the HSE? Accept a weaker currency?

Thanks for the offer, but no thanks.

Re-submit the offer if the ROI has a health care system and military and defence capabilities like Switzerland or joins NATO for that matter.

Then it's a good offer which would make sense. But currently, Ulster says NO !

What?

NI will be a 'democratic unit' with regard to a Border Poll. The people there will vote without outside impediment, one person, one vote. Same will happen down here.

If they both Yes - a UI happens.
If either votes NO - it doesn't.

Those are the 'rights' enshrined in the GFA. So your question was:

do you accept that Northern Ireland has the right to be the democratic unit that decides, by referendum, whether it remains in the UK or joins a united Ireland?

'YES' is my answer, which I gave without hesitation as soon as you asked it.

What answer were you looking for?

What I know of what SF have said is that MLMD has accepted that anthem change flag change and joining the Commonwealth will al have to be considered.
The NATO/military alliance issue is an ingoing debate here as it is.

If I were advising Unionism, I'd think it critical that their own unity is the current crisis facing them.

If they cannot unify now as Unionism declines and the eternal in-fighting and jockeying to be the most hard line (probably what is driving people away) continues, then they risk being completely fractured come a BP or UI.

The 'conundrum' I mentioned earlier:

Embrace the new reality or consign themselves to the side-lines?

You'd wonder will the histories you mentioned above have any weight. Learn from it or repeat it. I think Paisley certainly learned from it in his reaction to the new reality after the GFA.

coming under the rule of a government 

This from a poster who just said a few sentences earlier:

 I don’t think there would be a chance of unionist boycotting the Irish parliament, we would use all the influence we had.  

You won't be 'coming under the rule of a government', you will be a part of that government. It will be your own government therefore, which like a normal government in any democracy will have political opponents and political allies depending on how you play it.

You are currently under the rule of a government, you have little or no say in. How more starkly do you need that pointed out to you?

Yes, these points do make sense. I personally always see the SF as a strong threat. First they are on the left, and that's not me. Second, they like high taxes or are the most likely of all parties in Ireland to hike taxes, and Third they and their voters want unification at any cost.

"Any cost attitudes" and the idea to most likely hike taxes would be per se a no go not only for me, but for many in the ROI. And one should bear in mind that the ROI and Dublin would have to foot the bill for what Westminster is paying now to fund public services, from policing to schools to healthcare.

So, purely out of economic reasons, if NI would join the ROI, NI would have to be made economically a lot stronger than it is now. This doesn't happen overnight, same as the ROI didn't make it from a poverty ridden country of the 70ies and 80ies to where it is now, - considerably and noticable better of and in some matters a top player within in the EU.

Anybody considering reunification of Ireland would have to present a very strong economic plan and business case to do so. I doubt that the SF would be capable of that.

What I find so important about NATO membership is that the ROI would be part of something bigger. This doesn't mean that Ireland would have to send soldiers into every conflict. The ROI would most likely also have negotiation options about military spending, similar to Iceland which doesn't spend much either. NATO membership for the ROI would put Ireland on one specific side and any agressor would know, "hands off Ireland" and a possible invasion a hostile force would have to pay a "very high price" to do so.

The "Nobody would attack us?" attitude would have to go and would hold no place in a united Ireland.

This is also why fighter jets and a decent radar system are very important for the Air Corps, - same as the Naval service having ships which can be used at a moment's notice, not sitting in the harbour waiting endlessly for spare parts.

Commonwealth could be described as something oldfashioned or not, it's not that important for the ROI to re join the Commonwealth ( maybe only to appease unionists), but even if it's to re-unite the island one should bear in mind that the role of the Governor General would be chosen by the Irish government, - not in the UK, not in Westminster.

The monarch may visit Hillsborough castle every now and then, same as Rideau Hall in Canada or other palces.

The country would have the same status as Australia, NZ or Canada.