Revenue risk assessment letter

Hi guys this is going to be long winded so I appreciate if you read it all! :)

I started an onlyfans during the pandemic as a faceless model and made quite a bit of money from 2020-2022. I had a baby in 2021 so in 2022 my earnings were a lot lower than the previous years.

I had an idea about tax, but to be honest I was just ignorant and thought because I wasn’t earning as much as others I’d be fine.

But I am not fine lol. I got a letter from revenue in February level 2 risk review saying they were aware of an online income. So straight off I went and googled an accountant and rang the first one with good reviews.

My accountant since has been feeding off my anxiety and has been taunting me a bit. Also asking really inappropriate stuff about my money, what I bought, asking what customers wanted from me etc. also texts late into evenings and weekends “what’s the craic” as if I’m just a friend. Not professional AT ALL

so anyway, it came all in all to 12k I owed back. I had 11k in savings so cleared the most of it. Revenue then went and whacked me with a 6k late fee. That’s totally fair, it is my own fault after all.

So for 2023 - I actually made a substantial amount of profit from paypigs on Twitter. I also claimed 1 parent family during 2023 but never even crossed my mind about tax - didn’t really realise you had to pay tax on gifts, which is what paypigs do.

So my accountant kept saying 2023 won’t be a problem as all I made on onlyfans in 2023 was €1100. The rest came off a different site and into my Revolut. So he said he would definitely help me with that. Now he’s saying no, my income was too much and he won’t help me? Then agreed to do it for 5k. I obviously said no.

I don’t do the work anymore, and I’ve spent all the savings I have on previous years taxes. Is there anything I can do? Will revenue know my earnings for 2023 if they came into Revolut and my pps is not linked ? I’m honestly on the brink of unaliving myself I’m so so so stressed so please no lectures. I know I f’d up.

I am a single parent and really rely on my one parent payment now, so I’m terrified of losing it :( any advice / recommendations for a good accountant welcome!