online dating

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I had a guy once berate me for telling two trangers in a bar we met online, he was 51. It was the 5th date. And the last! So some people are funny about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can't wait 😊

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This sounds frustrating. You have a great time when you’re together. It’s when you’re apart the doubt creeps in. There could be many reasons she doesn’t communicate the way you would like her to. Maybe she doesn’t want to get 100% invested too soon. Some folks are genuinely not big on messaging and don’t realise that it’s important to others. Do you do phone calls between dates ? She could be trying to play it cool, I hate this expression personally. The whole notion that you shouldn’t appear interested or too keen or scare them off etc. The road to happiness is probably littered with the remains of fledging relationships that withered because of silly game playing.

Wouldn’t hurt you to communicate how you feel. If she runs a mile, at least you know for sure. You sound like you’ve one foot out the door anyway.

Like Pwin said:

"The whole notion that you shouldn’t appear interested or too keen or scare them off etc. The road to happiness is probably littered with the remains of fledging relationships that withered because of silly game playing.

Wouldn’t hurt you to communicate how you feel. If she runs a mile, at least you know for sure."

Would be foolish not to ask before letting her go.

If you're really into her I think it would be worth saying it to her before you call it off. At least then you're giving her a chance to work on it if she wants to.

The thing you said about her not paying attention reminded me of something though. An ex of mine was sh1t at texting in between meetups but so attentive in person and I felt like that a bit at the start. But it turned out he had ADHD and literally couldn't focus his attention on more than one thing at a time. Like he'd have to drop everything at work to text and then he'd forget what he was doing at work and mess something up. That's an outlier situation but I'm just saying that there could be a reason for it that you're not aware of.

When did you last hear from her? You had contact on Weds and Thurs. none Friday though ? It doesn't seem that sporadic to me. I’d definitely not be messaging someone every single day in the early stages either.

You say on Weds you felt her interest and excitement and on Thurs she said she can’t wait for the date. Are you perhaps focusing on the amount of contact rather than the content ? Sounds like you just need to know how she feels about you in more certain terms.

I think you’re going to have to show some vulnerability here. But I also think you can initiate it without being specific about the messaging thing. Lots of “I” statements. I’m really enjoying spending time with you. I’d like this to be the start of something long term. I’d like to build on our connection etc.

Assuming she’s a decent person, she’ll either reciprocate by telling you how she feels or let you down gently. If she sits on the fence or glosses over it, let the date end and leave the ball in her court.