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Doireann, I knew this was going to be your thread as soon as I saw the title. As already mentioned you've had very similar threads before.

Now I'm going to put my hand up and say, I'm a good friend but I can very easily forget occasions, significant or otherwise in my friends' lives. Friends don't always remember what I'm doing. We all have busy, full lives. If you haven't spoken to them since the end of July, maybe they forgot you had surgery. I had a procedure recently. It was a day case. I had mentioned it in passing to a couple of friends but did not hear from any of them on the day. Nor did I expect to. The only ones who contacted me were my work colleagues. Who remembered purely because I wasn't in work. My own mother didn't remember or contact me! I was speaking to her a few days later and mentioned that the doctor said everything was clear. Then she said "Oh, yeah.. how did you get on". I honestly don't expect people to contact me, and I don't get upset when they don't.

I'm not sure if your friends are inconsiderate or if you expect too much. There is a pattern of you getting upset at perceived slights from your friends. But yet not wanting to address it with them. Upset you haven't spoken to them for a while but not wanting to contact them either. The incident of ignoring your text about your birthday in isolation could be considered very rude. But going by your history with these friends and getting upset and annoyed at them for the smallest of non-issues, maybe they are in fact tiring if you. Maybe they find you too intense and needy.

I honestly don't know. Nobody here does. The only people who do know are your friends. But if you don't want to be honest with them and talk to them about it and how you feel you'll never find out.