Where would I live if ?

lashofeye · 03-12-2022 03:08PM #1

My self and my partner are living with his parent since 2014, on housing list, but I've been falling out of love with him since the pandemic., and living with two elderly people is so very tough.

We have two kids together and I am really looking for advice as to what I should do . If we split and he moves out , I don't want to live with the 'inlaws" with out him but then we could be put into emergency shelter?

Any advice would be appreciated ,

Thanks

RichardAnd · 03-12-2022 03:26PM

I don't think that this is really a question for an accommodation board. There is a dedicated forum for these matters that you ought to look at as you'll get better advice:

https://www.boards.ie/categories/personal-issues

That said, my own parents broke up after the lockdown after 33 years of marriage, so I can understand the tensions that it caused. I believe that if you leave, you face the possibility of being homeless or, at best, accommodated in a hotel, which may be far worse than your current situation.

Living Off The Splash · 03-12-2022 03:28PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058274407/where-would-i-live-if

What makes you think that he would move out? Would you be agreeable to move out and leave the children with him?

herbalplants · 03-12-2022 05:46PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119952600#Comment_119952600

I thought exactly the same! Why would he move out? You are living with "his" parents! Why would his parents keep you under their roof without him. You are lucky to have somewhere to live because of his parents.

Even the fact that you think that could be the scenario, it shows you are a bit arrogant.

Mrs OBumble · 03-12-2022 05:58PM

Contact Women's Aid for advice.

FishOnABike · 03-12-2022 07:10PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119953033#Comment_119953033

Women's Aid is not a "I don't fancy my partner as much as I used to , what should I do" organisation. Don't waste the time of valuable support services when there are people with a genuine need of their help.

Donald Trump · 03-12-2022 07:26PM

Would you be hoping that the parents pass away so that you can then kick him out and take the house?

DownByTheGarden · 05-12-2022 12:52PM

Cant see someones parents kicking out their son in order for the woman who just booted him to live with them.

The fact their are children involved here makes it complicated too. Im sure they would be happy for them to stay, but likely they will hate the sight of the OP, especially if she suggests their son move out.

Dial Hard · 05-12-2022 12:58PM

The most obvious solution to me would be for you to move in with your own family. Is that an option? Cause as others have pointed out, I really can't see why you'd think staying with his parents while he moves out would be.

Mrs OBumble · 05-12-2022 01:55PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119953225#Comment_119953225

What exact behaviour do you think causes someone to feel the way the OP does,?

What kind of man provides for his family by moving them in with his elderly parents, and keeping his partner so ignorant of the world that she's here making posts like this?

If Women's Aid believe that she's not a subject of domestic abuse, they're well able to say so.

Dial Hard · 05-12-2022 01:59PM

This is absolute scutter even by your standards, Mrs. OB. Try harder.

Thargor · 05-12-2022 02:09PM

Wow boards is gone so nasty.

DownByTheGarden · 05-12-2022 02:13PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119959059#Comment_119959059

Jesus Christ!! I have no words...

kowloonkev · 05-12-2022 02:14PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119959059#Comment_119959059

If the man is still the breadwinner, then shouldn't you be in the kitchen?

herbalplants · 05-12-2022 02:36PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119959130#Comment_119959130

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Honestly no words 🤭🙏

herbalplants · 05-12-2022 02:48PM

@lashofeye. If you were my son's partner, who fell out of love with him and living in my house, I would open wide the front door and help you on your way out with your bags. There would be no doubt.

Him and the kids would be welcome to stay.

Hope this answers your question.

RichardAnd · 05-12-2022 03:05PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119959059#Comment_119959059

This brings me back to the good old days of the boards.ie economy forum back in 2009 :)

05-12-2022 09:12PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058274407/where-would-i-live-if

Your living conditions at the moment are difficult, not easy living with elderly people and all the stresses associated with it. 8 years on the Social Housing list is just awful too. Would you consider going on HAP, and try and source your own accommodation. Sounds you both need a break to try rekindle your relationship, theres two little kids involved here. You might both benefit from relationship counselling, its worth a shot. Wishing you well.

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