Kid's birthday party gift amount

5 bucks is the going rate here. Big classes so a good few parties a year. Parents took the sensible step of suggesting 5 max in a card and that's continued thankfully.

Ago group 5 to 12 or so.

She only invited the other girls which was about 10 in total. It does indeed add up but the bar has now been set apparently. Not one gift was given just cash and some vouchers. Quite the earner for them.

I don't think so. Mainly because parents know that several people could end up buying the same thing and they don't want to pile the house with clutter.

I find people give between €10 and €20 if it's a small group of friends. If it's bigger class I find people might agree on €5.

Cárta Cúig is the standard in our school. Most parents mention it on the invite. If they don't, I just assume it. Unless it's a very small group invited, or a very good friend: Then I'd give a tenner. (I will note that I have twins, so it's x2)

We had the fiver in the card rule which was fine until mine had theirs and they received 10,15 and 20's absolutely mortified!!! Only a very few kept to the fiver rule!

I tend to go 10 for the average classmate and 15 for the ones I know they play with and talk about alot.

A gift under a tenner is usually just tat . However when they get money it goes into their moneybox never to see the light of day.....I'm a soft touch I can't take their money when I order stuff on line for them.

For my son's birthday recently he got €20 in cash or Smyths/Roblox vouchers from everyone except families with twins/multiple children invited. They gave €25-30 per family.

25 kids at a birthday party? Really???

Back in my day, 30 in a primary class was normal enough so even being selective, if you had any cousins etc at it, 25 was about the norm really.

When the kids are young, a lot of people invite the whole class. Depending on the class size, and if everyone accepts, you could easily end up with 25 at it (our kids' current class is 28). And that's before you get to cousins, friends from the estate or sports teams, etc. As the kids get older (9-10), you tend to be more selective; maybe just invite the boys/girls, or just a handful of close friends. We had 29 at the last party, but that was an exception. From now on, it'll be the close friends, so about 10 in total between the two of them.

What way do you work it with your own kids?

Yeah, but that's a different topic to this thread. Do you invite the whole class to his parties, or just his close friends? What kind of presents do you give to the other kids that invite him to parties?

He invite's his close friends from his class, they come here and they have the craic. Most of them bring absolutely nothing, some might bring food or party treats, but that's about it. Nobody brings money, If some child came here with money to my house I'd send it straight back to his parents. Same as his friends parents. Money amounts, that's not what a friends birthday party is supposed to be about. Especially a child.

The hassle. Card and few quid much the better way. And most parents would prefer. Saves on a lot silly “stuff.”

We found that if you either say nothing on the invite, or expressly say not to give a gift (we've tried both), that people tend to spend/give even more. I think it's human nature to give a gift at a birthday - well, it's certainly pretty common anyway, and then you have people worrying about what the right amount to give is (like the OP, and it's perfectly understandable). We've found that if we put "Cárta Cúig" on the invite, then people stick to that and don't give more - so it's good way to keep it to an absolute minimum. Works well in the real world anyway.