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Kid's birthday party gift amount

  • 16-11-2022 11:15pm
    Registered Users Posts: 60 ✭✭thepogues

    What's the going rate nowadays to gift a child when your kid's been invited to their birthday party? They're classmates.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2 gkb144

    Hi My daughter recently had a 10th birthday mostly she received between 15-20 euro in cards.

  • Registered Users Posts: 14,956 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject

    That'll add up quickly if there's 25 in a class! Do people not buy a present for kids anymore?

  • Registered Users Posts: 2 gkb144

    She only invited the other girls which was about 10 in total. It does indeed add up but the bar has now been set apparently. Not one gift was given just cash and some vouchers. Quite the earner for them.

  • Registered Users Posts: 13,551 ✭✭✭✭Potential-Monke

    Why does everything require a present or gift? Presence is no longer enough for anything.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 29,352 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn

    I don't think so. Mainly because parents know that several people could end up buying the same thing and they don't want to pile the house with clutter.

    I find people give between €10 and €20 if it's a small group of friends. If it's bigger class I find people might agree on €5.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,275 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

    Cárta Cúig is the standard in our school. Most parents mention it on the invite. If they don't, I just assume it. Unless it's a very small group invited, or a very good friend: Then I'd give a tenner. (I will note that I have twins, so it's x2)

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,243 ✭✭✭Princess Calla

    We had the fiver in the card rule which was fine until mine had theirs and they received 10,15 and 20's absolutely mortified!!! Only a very few kept to the fiver rule!

    I tend to go 10 for the average classmate and 15 for the ones I know they play with and talk about alot.

    A gift under a tenner is usually just tat . However when they get money it goes into their moneybox never to see the light of day.....I'm a soft touch I can't take their money when I order stuff on line for them.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 75 ✭✭b v

    I have the same question. My twin nieces are having their joint 18th bday tomorrow. Is €200 each in a card stingy or too much?

  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 12,909 Mod ✭✭✭✭iguana

    For my son's birthday recently he got €20 in cash or Smyths/Roblox vouchers from everyone except families with twins/multiple children invited. They gave €25-30 per family.

  • Registered Users Posts: 19,055 ✭✭✭✭Cyrus

    i would echo this,

    ideally its great if people stick to the 5er in a card thing, its cleaner, not expensive and the child can go buy one thing they actually want. Kids have so much these days there generally isnt a whole lot they want anyway.

    But getting 25 pieces of heavily packaged plastic is awful all round.

  • Registered Users Posts: 25,248 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble

    25 kids at a birthday party? Really???

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,176 ✭✭✭Boscoirl

    too much imo, get them a bottle of vodka each. Job done.

  • Registered Users Posts: 42,752 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989

    two crisp Irish punt notes in a card

  • Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Motoring & Transport Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 64,865 Mod ✭✭✭✭L1011

    Back in my day, 30 in a primary class was normal enough so even being selective, if you had any cousins etc at it, 25 was about the norm really.

  • Registered Users Posts: 78,082 ✭✭✭✭Victor

    Take them to a nice lunch / dinner next week. Give them €100 then. The meal will be remembered and at least the money doesn't get blown on drink this week.

    When my eldest nieces turned 18 and 16 around the same time, I gave the eldest €50, explaining it was a special birthday. This was at a time she would have expected that a €50 gift would be shared with her sisters. When I reached into my wallet again for niece #2, her keys were at cartoon-level $$KERCHING$$, only to then only get €20.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,275 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

    When the kids are young, a lot of people invite the whole class. Depending on the class size, and if everyone accepts, you could easily end up with 25 at it (our kids' current class is 28). And that's before you get to cousins, friends from the estate or sports teams, etc. As the kids get older (9-10), you tend to be more selective; maybe just invite the boys/girls, or just a handful of close friends. We had 29 at the last party, but that was an exception. From now on, it'll be the close friends, so about 10 in total between the two of them.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,275 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,453 ✭✭✭buried

    I let him know what he can have and what he can't. And I've let him know that if there is some make of product that he really wants, he is going to have to earn it.

    "You have disgraced yourselves again" - W. B. Yeats

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,275 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

    Yeah, but that's a different topic to this thread. Do you invite the whole class to his parties, or just his close friends? What kind of presents do you give to the other kids that invite him to parties?

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,020 ✭✭✭Ms2011

    My 7 year old is going to a party tomorrow, I've stuck €15 in a card. So much easier than shopping for a present especially when the invite comes in at the last minute.

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,453 ✭✭✭buried

    He invite's his close friends from his class, they come here and they have the craic. Most of them bring absolutely nothing, some might bring food or party treats, but that's about it. Nobody brings money, If some child came here with money to my house I'd send it straight back to his parents. Same as his friends parents. Money amounts, that's not what a friends birthday party is supposed to be about. Especially a child.

    "You have disgraced yourselves again" - W. B. Yeats

  • Registered Users Posts: 53,773 ✭✭✭✭walshb

    15-20 seems about right!

  • Registered Users Posts: 53,773 ✭✭✭✭walshb

    The hassle. Card and few quid much the better way. And most parents would prefer. Saves on a lot silly “stuff.”

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,039 ✭✭✭stargazer 68

    When my son was younger the whole class was invited however one of the mums, different each time, would contact all the other mums and collect 10 off each and buy the birthday child a gift from the whole group..bought my son a bike one year, helmet etc.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,275 ✭✭✭Gregor Samsa

    We found that if you either say nothing on the invite, or expressly say not to give a gift (we've tried both), that people tend to spend/give even more. I think it's human nature to give a gift at a birthday - well, it's certainly pretty common anyway, and then you have people worrying about what the right amount to give is (like the OP, and it's perfectly understandable). We've found that if we put "Cárta Cúig" on the invite, then people stick to that and don't give more - so it's good way to keep it to an absolute minimum. Works well in the real world anyway.