Bumped into ex, unsure next step

ElizaBennett · 08-07-2022 06:06PM

He does still like you as he wouldn't have gone for coffee and chatted with you when you met otherwise. If he had fully moved on and wanted nothing more it would have been a quick hello in passing on the street and he'd have wanted to get out of there asap. Why hang about unless interested?

Ninjafan12 · 12-07-2022 10:36AM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119299222#Comment_119299222

Hi there,

What I have said in original post and subsequent replies is correct. I ended it, he tried to make contact with me but I told him I wanted nothing to do with anyone and blocked him on phone and social media etc so the only way he could contact me really was to turn up at my work place, which he hadn't.

I was in a tough place and pushed him and friends out so I could deal with my issues and am now much better for it, but I am not exactly proud of what I did in a way.

So yes this was the first time we met since all of that.

I haven't decided on contacting him again, have I thought about it, yes of course, maybe its guilt / shame that is stopping me.

Anyway thats my story, believe it or not, I just posted here for some help.

Ninjafan12 · 12-07-2022 10:38AM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119310219#Comment_119310219

Hi :)

Unless it was politeness. It was nice to see him all the same.

Thanks for reply

swiwi_ · 12-07-2022 10:38AM

Apologise for your clumsiness and promise to look where you're going next time.

Furze99 · 12-07-2022 11:53AM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119325533#Comment_119325533

I wouldn't pay too much attention to what people say here, including myself.

Life is short enough. If you still like the guy and you think he still has a bit of a grá for you, then take up your courage and see if you can give it a whirl again. What's to lose? He's due a bit of an explanation/ apology but you wouldn't want or need to dwell on that, once done.

Ninjafan12 · 12-07-2022 03:03PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119325954#Comment_119325954

Thanks :)

Floppybits · 18-07-2022 04:05PM

I just don't understand the sealed envelope of receipts. I can understand finding random receipts in a wallet or something but carrying them around on the off chance that maybe somewhere, someday, somehow you'd bump into the ex to give them the envelope seems a bit quirky. I do wonder did the lad get some therapy or something after the break up and this was a suggestion?

BTW OP your sister sounds like a smart lady. 😀

Ninjafan12 · 23-08-2022 12:26PM

Hi All :)

Thought I should share update. I took some time to think about what to do, I unblocked him first and did nothing for few days. The date that we first met was coming up so I texted him saying it was lovely to see him and that I was surprised and touched by the small gift (the envelope). There was no reply for a few days, guess he wasn't ready / wanting to reply so I left it.

roughly a week later he replies, saying that it was nice to see me too. Not straight away but some time later I asked him if we could meet up for another coffee and talk. he replied later next day saying ok and suggested a place and time.

so we met for the coffee, first few minutes were slightly awkward, he was very guarded and I didn't want to get right into it straight away but once I said I was sorry for hurting him and ghosting him, he did relax and it was almost like a normal date.

I wont go into much detail, I apologised and again reiterated that I was really taken aback in a nice way that he showed me that our dating mattered to him. He laughed and I saw that smile that first attracted me to him. We did talk about things, again not going into much detail. did we talk it all out? No but it wasnt going to be a deep deep talk. I wanted to look at him and see something there.

We left, he walked me to my bus stop and waited with me till the bus arrived.

We have texted and met up again since.

Thats all for now :)

tmh106 · 23-08-2022 01:04PM

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119510051#Comment_119510051

Good luck to both of you, hope it works out for you both but even if it doesn't at least you have apologised for the way you handled the breakup. I'm sure that brings some relief for you both.

standardg60 · 23-08-2022 01:13PM

Ah you've brightened up my Tuesday OP, keep us posted!

HildaOgdenx · 31-08-2022 05:06PM

Mod Note - As the OP is no longer seeking advice we will close the thread at this point. Posters are reminded that asking for updates, even if well intentioned is against the PI Charter.

All the best OP.

Hilda

Bumped into ex, unsure next step

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