Would you go to a School Reunion?

Mark25 · 20-08-2022 05:24PM #1

Hard to believe but been 20 years since leaving school and there is a year reunion coming up in a few weeks, not sure if I want to go.

I was alright back at school - wasn't the most popular or anything - but afterwards as people say "fell in with a bad crowd" and was a bit of a scumbag for a while and got into plenty of trouble that people local would have heard about

Think I have sorted myself out now (eventually) have an alright job and am doing alright. I still know some of the lads I was in school with and it might be good to catch up but not sure what people might think.

Have you ever gone to a reunion? How did it go? Were people like they used to be or how you expected them to be if you hadn't seen them since school?

BattleCorp · 20-08-2022 05:33PM

I've been to a couple of reunions and they were good craic. Great to catch up because you lose touch with people even if they are still living in the same town as you.

If you've a chance to go, then go. Nobody gives a fcuk if you got in trouble or not.

Strumms · 20-08-2022 05:33PM

I’d say what’s the appeal ?

you don’t know these people anymore… you’d I’d imagine spend time getting drunk and trying to reminisce about a time in your life which was generally challenging, occasional laughs etc… but would it be worth it ? I doubt it.

the people you disliked you will still dislike.

the people you liked but lost touch with… that happened for a reason.

so in all likelihood it’s not worth the hassle and effort.

BattleCorp · 20-08-2022 05:44PM

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Jaysus, who rained on your parade. True, he doesn't know a lot of these people any more but it's a good chance to reconnect with old friends/school mates/acquaintences etc. You are being harsh with regard to losing touch with people. It happens organically as people grow. They move away, have families, generally life gets in the way of hanging out like you did in school.

We aren't the same people that went to school, that was 20ish years ago. Take me for example, I used to be a skinny annoying cnut. Now I'm a fat annoying cnut. 😁

We'd about 50 people turn up to the last school reuinion we had and I don't think anybody had a bad night.

Jonnyc135 · 20-08-2022 05:45PM

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I'd say go chat the people, have a laugh an **** the dry arses

Viscount Aggro · 20-08-2022 05:46PM

The only reason to attend a school reunion, is to stick it to them. Turn up in a flash car etc.

BattleCorp · 20-08-2022 05:47PM

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20 years later. All the women will be single again. 😁

BrianD3 · 20-08-2022 05:52PM

I would go if I could bring an AR15 with me.

Joking aside, no I wouldn't attend. It's nearly 30 years since the LC but thanks to Facebook and linkedin I have a good idea what they have done with their lives. In many cases they have done much better than me and I don't need to be reminded of that fact in person.

Jonnyc135 · 20-08-2022 05:54PM

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Realistically who gives a **** what they have done or what you have done though just go and have a laugh

20-08-2022 06:04PM

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This is a fact.....weird but true....... the " hotties" from back-in-the-day turned out to be " yeah grand ok'ish' but some of the 'wallflowers' from back then turned out to be real stunners!!!! But the OP does raise a fair question....... is there any point to a reunion????

MrMusician18 · 20-08-2022 06:07PM

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Of course there is, is it not usually a shake down opportunity for the alumni association.

AMKC · 20-08-2022 06:21PM

No never been to one. Never invited if there ever was one and that's OK with me. Its over 20 years now since I finished school too and I am a totally different person to that person now anyway. I liked school but very few of my classmates. Class of 99 we were :)

I know what a few of them are at but very rearly see or talk to them these days and now since this year they would not regonise me now anyway :)

Larbre34 · 20-08-2022 06:24PM

Each to their own. I went to a couple over the years and enjoyed them. I certainly wouldn't be considering them a dick swinging contest. If you had a reasonable time at school and wouldn't mind a beer with some lads you don't usually see, then go for it. Otherwise, give it a swerve.

Mark25 · 20-08-2022 06:24PM

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That's what I'm thinking that would the people who turn up being the ones who have done well and want to tell you all about it. I know how some are doing but therea are some I think it would be good to catch up with again.

I went to an all boys school so wouldnt be there to check out the women!!

BattleCorp · 20-08-2022 06:24PM

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*BrianD3 added to FBI/NSA watchlist. 😁

20-08-2022 06:29PM

Are they a thing in Ireland? I wouldnt go. I didnt like 95 percent of the people i went to school with.

EOQRTL · 20-08-2022 06:35PM

Not a chance. Got picked on and bullied in school which to this day i know had a lasting negative effect on me at times. They are mostly organised on Facebook according to my wife which im not on anyway thankfully. The thoughts of going and listening to the same pricks who made my life a misery for years pretending they give a hoot now is nauseating.

20-08-2022 06:39PM

Got on quite well in school,no bullying problem and had a few friends generally got on well with all in my year,still meet an odd person from my year in likes of Lidl,at matches etc and chat away to em

But personally speaking,I wouldn't be interested in going to a reunion,that part of my life is over,why reopen it?

EmmetSpiceland · 20-08-2022 06:48PM

I see the guys fairly regularly throughly the year and most of the rest at Christmas.

Have attended both the 10 and 20 year out “events” and will, certainly, be at the 30th if I’m still here. Always good to catch up with the old school gang.

20-08-2022 06:52PM

Id imagine most of the time they are a dick measuring event. "Oh im not drinking im in the merc tonight". All that shite.

20-08-2022 07:09PM

No desire to ever attend, had a pretty **** time in school and seeing people would bring **** crashing back tbh.

walterking · 20-08-2022 07:17PM

The big reunions are very much a part of the fee paying schools and are quite good fun. - I was president of one about 10 years ago and enjoyed being part of the "chain gang" and being invited to other schools dinners.

Very little of the "look what I have" and very much a slagging of the school days and a good laugh at what you got up to. It's a good networking opportunity too.

If it's a one off year reunion and 20 years gone, it will be a great night.

freshpopcorn · 20-08-2022 07:40PM

I got bullied at times during school and had good times as well.

I've bumped into people who I considered bullies at school and I find them grand now in general.

I often wonder did teenager me over think or over hype things and I didn't have the skills to deal with things I could now. Persoanlly I found moving on and not dwelling on things to better for me.

They'd be the odd person I mightn't like meeting and I'd deal with them a lot better now.

When I got my Covid vaccine I met a lot of my class. It was like our school reunion. Most of us chatted away. Talked about then and now. There was just one guy who stared as us blankly.

cezanne · 20-08-2022 08:20PM

A lot of the girls about 5 i went to school with are dead mostly from breast cancer & all died young. i wouldnt go to a reunion as i am sure i wouldnt recognize anyone with all the botox & fillers. Was at the horse show on thursday the plastic surgery on young women is just crazy anad as for the old ones OMG freak show so obvious. No dont want to meet any vacuous wind tunnel women i went to school with i am happy in my own little bubble in the sticks !!:)

HBC08 · 20-08-2022 08:26PM

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Jesus that's a terrible way to look at stuff.

I could understand it if someone was bullied or didn't have a good time in school.

pgj2015 · 20-08-2022 08:43PM

I find a lot of people cant help themselves but boast about "how great they are doing" not that great in my opinion. I have had people do it when I know im doing far better than them but I couldnt care less about talking about boring jobs or money, so pointless and cringy.

id run a mile from a reunion.

Hellrazer · 20-08-2022 08:52PM

I wouldnt go - I was bullied for 5 years in secondary school and honestly Id probably not be able to hold back letting a few of the fuckers know what I still think of them.

It would be probably best if I never saw a few of them again.

cuttingtimber22 · 20-08-2022 08:54PM

No urge to be honest aside from the expense. Best years of your life me hole. Will randomly meet some of the ok people in school but thankfully have managed not to meet up with many of the dicks.

Nigel Fairservice · 20-08-2022 09:07PM

I finished secondary school 20 years ago this year. l wouldn't be too interested in a secondary school reunion. I kept in touch with who I wanted to keep in touch with. I have some friendly words with others I bump into around the place. I ran into a guy in Istanbul airport this year who I hadn't seen since 2002. We both still recognised each other and grabbed a tea while waiting for our connecting flights. I went to my 10 year college reunion a few years ago. Most people just spoke to people they spoke to in college.

NiceFella · 20-08-2022 09:24PM

Had an ok schooling experience. Was'nt too popular but was'nt bullied either really.

I'd probably go to a primary school over a secondary reunion because the secondary ones were mostly fools that were very into themselves.

Aglomerado · 20-08-2022 09:53PM

I went to mine a few years ago. Had a great night catching up and reestablished contacts. No boasting that I could distinguish, just a lot of craic and reliving funny stories. I'd been bullied badly in school but in general my year were a decent group, bar one or two.

Many of our now retired teachers came to see us as well which was lovely.

Would you go to a School Reunion?

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