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Why do men far outweigh women on dating sites?

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  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 98,142 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Pissy Missy




  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,037 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    That’s not representative of a normal dating site!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,052 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    So you said men on these sites are shallow bastards looking to take advantage of the innocent ladies who will fall for their lies and be heartbroken when he shags them and then vanishes.

    And then you say you know nothing about online dating.

    Oh and FYI most women like a shag now and again as well and quite a few of them are on the sites looking for some no strings fun same as the lads.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,184 ✭✭✭riclad


    Maybe because if a woman is attractive she can get a dare without using dating apps. What a shock a man who is tall and handsome is popular with women. Boho type women are looking for writers, singers, intellectual type men



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 RoxanneMathis


    Man's bravery😁😁



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,956 ✭✭✭✭Potential-Monke


    What the hell is boho...

    Edit: I googled, and I hate it, because it changes the 4th letter for no damn reason!

    Whats boho means?

    bohemian

    The definition of boho is a shortened form of bohemian, meaning someone who doesn't conform to society and is often focused on art. An example of boho is someone who wears unique clothes and holds art as their focus above all else.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015




  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 98,142 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight


    If it was two million percent better there would still be more men than women.

    And that's before you include the scammers and fraudsters. And some of the genuine women were pressurised by work into doing it. But for a brief time it created shareholder value.


    Plenty of other dating sites have had data breaches.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,831 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


    Kind of sounds better don't you think? Bit like calling the Mandalorian 'Mando'

    If 'bohe' suddenly appeared as a slang term people mightn't be sure how to pronounce it...



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 8,472 ✭✭✭MrMusician18


    Would that be because those women have not put themselves out there rather than be endlessly rejected - which is a life some men have lead.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,228 ✭✭✭✭bnt


    How many Hollywood romcoms have been made that start off with the guy just wanting the ride … but then realising that there is more going on? It’s practically a cliché. Look at Pretty Woman, which features a very rich man (Richard Gere) hiring a prostitute (Julia Roberts), but then what happens? He’s immediately impressed by her ability to drive a stick shift sports car (America, eh?) and then by her attitude and how well she “cleans up”. This is a guy who can literally buy any ride he wants, so how does he end up wanting more from her? Because she has more to offer and refuses to take any crap from him.

    Two Weeks Notice? Rich guy (Hugh Grant) doesn’t impress an activist lawyer (Sandra Bullock). Sandra came at it from the other direction in Miss Congeniality, where the guy already liked her for her abilities but she had to lighten up and be open to the possibility. Maid In Manhattan? Jennifer Lopez as a hotel maid who wins over Ralph Fiennes. When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless In Seattle, and all those Nora Ephron scripts. There’s a pattern here, whether the scripts were written by men or women.

    But no, all we hear is “guys just want the ride”, even when wanting more is a staple theme in both male and female fantasies.

    In its pure form, fascism is the sum total of all irrational reactions of the average human character.

    ― Wilhelm Reich



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,956 ✭✭✭✭Potential-Monke


    I also disagree with calling it Mando... sounds juvenile. Manda would have made more sense. Bohe would have made me jump to bohemian a lot quicker!

    Also, using Pretty Woman, a show where the man literally buys love, is not a great example.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,831 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


    That's the fantasy. It makes a better story than mundane reality just like Tolkien or Star Trek or whatever.

    What you need to contrast the experience of the guy out there screwing round with is that of long-term monogamous commitment. How would Richard and Julia have been getting on after 10, 20 years of 'wedded bliss'? Would he have been up to his old kerb crawling tricks again, hunting fresh meat?

    I'd like to see just once the movie that shows the womaniser having a more fulfilled life than the 'domestic drudge'. But I guess any screenwriter who told that story would be accused of misogyny...



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,311 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    On the likes of Tinder and Bumble how do you know men outweigh women in numbers? I would have thought it's an even split. Anyone I talk to now in their 30s or 40s have met their other half on a dating app.

    I found it quite easy to get dates and matches, always felt from age about 35+ that I was in the driving seat regarding dates rather than women, but then I've got my sh*t together and look after myself physically. I can imagine it must be rather frustrating for men who just never match.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 15,716 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    I would imagine it's a fairly even split in Ireland alright. I can't see it skewing anywhere near the numbers suggested in this thread, given there are actually more single women than men in Ireland, iirc.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 938 ✭✭✭bitofabind


    My experience of dating apps in Ireland at 35+ albeit limited was that the same 20 men were single and were simultaneously on hinge, tinder, match.com, plentyoffish and I indirectly 'knew' about 1/3 of them. And most were looking for a relationship.

    I think there's general global stats for these things and then there's the local experience which can vary wildly from that.



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