He cancelled our date last minute

I did say that I was disappointed, but then went on to say more unfortunately. What would you say to claw back from what seems to be a mistake by me?

I think I should just explain where my thoughts came from. Maybe he'll understand, maybe he won't. But at least he'll get a better understanding of who I am and he can decide from there.

I wouldn't do anything. I wouldn't raise it again, or try to explain it, or revisit it at all. Just continue as if it's completely in the past, and wasn't a big thing for you at all.

If he does bring it up (likely in the 'Sorry we couldn't meet, and I want you to know that I do want to see you, I just wasn't feeling well' way), then just say not to worry about it, you know you read too much into it, and to forget about it.

Naturally, liars want to convey to you that they’re telling the truth. One simple way to do that, they think, is by talking about honesty. If someone says, “Let me be honest with you,” “Honestly,” or even “I was brought up to always be honest,” for me it's a red flag.

Nothing to say he messaged. Maybe he was having a few with his mates, and what with him being the cowardly type, they messed about on his phone. Or, there was an easy ride that night, maybe not as suitable a type to bring home to mammy and daddy as you. Who the fck knows?

This bllx can't be the be all and end all surely? Lighten up, have a rip if he treats you wrong and move on if his behavior is unacceptable.

Is that not just admitting that I was wrong to be disappointed and upset at being cancelled on?

No it isn't. There's nothing wrong with being disappointed or upset that he cancelled. I don't see how you can interpret what I'm saying that way.

It's just acknowledging that wondering if he was still interested in you, and that you'd rather not have things drag on if he's not interested, was taking things a bit too far.

Oh for god sake !! " drinking with the boys " " lining up easy sex" Maybe the guy just had a bad day it does happen !

he was helping his father maybe things got complicated , and maybe yes he had a slight headache all day, maybe it got worse maybe he has migraine or maybe he was felling worse. He did say sorry , just move on ,BTW did the OP even ask how he was later ?, said he would not be good company, maybe he should have came over and got sick all over the place.

Did I read 8 dates in a month and no sex?

Sounds like he's incredibly keen to have gone on 8 dry dates

I'd cancel a date at the drop of a hat tbh

Don't do any of this. Seriously.

Take a chill pill :) See what he says when he comes back. Don't message him again and get on with your life lovely. Enough hassles out there without looking for or courting one.

There's a bit too much "should have, could have " beating around the bush here. At the end of the day everyone has different expectations and red lines when dating. If your bothered by him cancelling that's fine, your allowed to be annoyed even if others wouldn't be. If for you it's annoying enough to end it, then that's a reasonable thing to do. He's equally entitled to be annoyed at your annoyance.

Dating is meant to be about figuring out whether there's a spark and compatibility. If one of you decides your not compatible for whatever reason, then you consider whether it's something you can overlook or not and decide where to go from there.

For the record both things would annoy me. Last minute cancellations and giving out texts from someone I don't really know yet. Whether it would be enough to walk would depend on a lot of other factors.

Also meeting 8 times in a month is fine if both of you are happy with it. Who cares what other people think is an acceptable pace.

OP What advice would you give a teenager in your situation?

I have been quite clear I don't think she should have sent that reply. In fact I don't think she should be worrying if he's into her or not. I simply think she should weigh up if she's into him given he's the type to cancel at short notice without a decent (or truthful) reason.