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Boyfriend spending less time with me because he 'doesn't like apartments'

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  • #32
    Emme
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,051 ✭✭✭Emme


    OP if he doesn't like apartments but is still into you he would ask you to live with him in his castle/mansion/house whatever and you could rent out your apartment. He could even ask you to go live in his cottage (a cottage is a house even though it might be smaller than an apartment :D )

    You've been together for 5 years so if you're not going to move in together now it probably won't happen. It might be time to move on. Tell him your apartment is your home and if he doesn't like apartments why didn't he tell you 5 years ago instead of wasting your time and only telling you now. Most continental Europeans are happy to live in apartments including some royalty. This fella must think he is very special indeed.

    He really needs to come up with better excuses.


  • #33
    osarusan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,972 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    Apartmentgirl wrote: »

    I've felt for a while now our relationship is fizzling out, seeing less of each other etc, and he seems to be spending less time in my place.


    It's fizzling out to the point that he can't be bothered coming up with even a half-decent excuse as to why he isn't spending more time with you.


  • #34
    Thespoofer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,115 ✭✭✭Thespoofer


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Games are stupid.

    In hindsight , yes, games are silly, can cause further problems.

    You live, you learn.


  • #35
    Floppybits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,319 ✭✭✭Floppybits


    Apartmentgirl wrote: »
    Thanks all. I saw him yesterday for the first time since he said this. Even though I'm not sure I'm over-reactjng or making a mountain out of a mole hill, I told him I was shocked by how blunt he'd been saying this. I told him this is my home, that if this is how he feels he should have got a girlfriend who lives in a house. He said this is how he is, blunt, 'but sorry if it upset you'.

    I feel things are a bit awkward now but I felt I had to bring it up again today.

    Is this bluntness a sudden change? If you have been going out with each other 5 years surely if this is the way he has been since you have been together you would be use to it.

    As for not liking apartments, yeah some people don't like them but he is not living there just visiting and it shouldn't matter as he is there to see you not the apartment.


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