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So are you single? Argos style....

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  • #62
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,444 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Sam Quentin wrote: »
    I think people are more angry that she posted it on fb. All that is about her telling people::look how beautiful I am, can you believe this text I got... Upping her profile,not caring about the damage she is doing to others.

    I don't agree with the FB part myself. It seems unnecessary to me. I'm not sure I'd ascribe those motives to her though. It seems people now feel they need to make everything public. I would definitely have reported him, though. At best it was stupid and at worst it was sinister and creepy.


  • #63
    kenmm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,698 ✭✭✭kenmm


    Strumms wrote: »
    It’s creepy that he used a telephone number which she provided to a company in relation specifically to a business transaction to contact her and ask her out.

    A seriously lack of respect and professionalism both for his employer and the lady... he hadn’t been given her number by her in any social sense or context.

    If say a courier for UPS, get assigned a delivery for yourself, bring you some goods which you ordered, you sign, They drive away... then at 8pm that night, you start getting WhatsApp messages from ‘Diego the driver’.... you’d be a bit creeped out... and you should be... that happened the only thing I’d be sending back would be a photo of some broken teeth and a number of a good implant dentist...

    Ye sounds like it's on the creepy side. Maybe it would have been ok to say something/ask if he can call at the point of interaction and then if it's a no, you can accept the knockback in the normal way. But lifting the number from the package pushes it over the line.


  • #64
    Sam Quentin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,237 ✭✭✭Sam Quentin


    There's only one way to solve this societal change(social media up your profile shíte)and that is......
    It is now up to women to ask men out, make the first move etc etc.



    PS:: that always was the way with me anyhows..
    The handsome uncaring guy that I am.


  • #65
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    Strumms wrote: »
    It’s creepy that he used a telephone number which she provided to a company in relation specifically to a business transaction to contact her and ask her out.

    A seriously lack of respect and professionalism both for his employer and the lady... he hadn’t been given her number by her in any social sense or context.

    If say a courier for UPS, get assigned a delivery for yourself, bring you some goods which you ordered, you sign, They drive away... then at 8pm that night, you start getting WhatsApp messages from ‘Diego the driver’.... you’d be a bit creeped out... and you should be... that happened the only thing I’d be sending back would be a photo of some broken teeth and a number of a good implant dentist...


    We are people not robots.
    It's ok to have human interactions while being at work.

    She could have just said "sorry this is inappropriate" and he would have apologized and ended it there.
    This culture of jumping on anyone who remotely steps out of line is a tragedy of our times.


  • #66
    pgj2015
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,015 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    I got a text one evening saying I cant stop thinking about you, I didn't even have the number saved but I worked out who it was, a customer I met about 3 times in a few days, a man btw, and im not gay. even if it was a stunning woman I would have ran for the hills, that isn't normal behavior. I have had a few customers/women grope me and one tried to kiss me, water off a ducks back though.


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  • #67
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    Sam Quentin wrote: »
    There's only one way to solve this societal change(social media up your profile shíte)and that is......
    It is now up to women to ask men out, make the first move etc etc.



    PS:: that always was the way with me anyhows..
    The handsome uncaring guy that I am.


    next will be men being accused of producing mental breakdown to women for politely declining an offer


  • #68
    noodler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,384 ✭✭✭✭noodler


    hynesie08 wrote: »
    Or it's the most direct way to make a complaint in 2020....

    Nonsense.

    Don't defend the FB route. She clearly wanted it to be public.


  • #69
    hynesie08
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,240 ✭✭✭✭hynesie08


    Deleted User wrote: »
    No. Your opinion is valid. All opinions are.

    We live in a strange age. In many ways there has been huge progress in equality between the sexes and unwanted sexual behaviour gets called out when it wouldn't have in the past.
    That's positive. It has created however a whole host of women who faint with horror at the smallest of approaches from men. Innocent interactions become filled suspicion, smiling at a woman on the street is creepy, asking her out is akin to rape.

    I just find it all a bit mad.

    I agree, sometimes I think "jesus I'd never get away with how I acted in clubs 10 years ago" but maybe I was acting like a dickhead and shouldn't have gotten away with it.

    I see your point about small interactions, but I've just heard too many stories of these small interactions turning nasty because a girl refused a drink or tried to go back to her friends to say the girl in this story is wrong to feel this way.


  • #70
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    pgj2015 wrote: »
    I got a text one evening saying I cant stop thinking about you, I didn't even have the number saved but I worked out who it was, a customer I met about 3 times in a few days, a man btw, and im not gay. even if it was a stunning woman I would have ran for the hills, that isn't normal behavior. I have had a few customers/women grope me and one tried to kiss me, water off a ducks back though.


    big difference between customer trying to kiss you against your will and someone politely asking you out


  • #71
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    noodler wrote: »
    Nonsense.

    Don't defend the FB route. She clearly wanted it to be public.


    metoo culture in full swing


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  • #72
    noodler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,384 ✭✭✭✭noodler


    razorblunt wrote: »
    How someone can read that and go “yeah, she’s definitely the one I’m going to direct my ire at” is beyond me. What that guy did was seriously creepy, he knows where she lives, has her phone number. She was dead right to take that as far as possible.
    The fact he even thought that was a good idea.

    The takeaway man knows where you live.

    The postman.

    The couriers.


    I think people are making an enormous leap from an inappropriate text to stalking/home invasion or whatever they have in mind when they bring up the address.


  • #73
    Gretas Gonna Get Ya!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,245 ✭✭✭Gretas Gonna Get Ya!


    Still think he should have went old school and just asked her out in person, rather than being a big pu$$ie and texting her after he leaves!

    And the added bonus, she can't put it on bookface if you choose this option. ;)

    Everyone is so wrapped up in technology these days, people have actually lost the ability to communicate properly face-to-face.


  • #74
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,710 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    noodler wrote: »
    Nonsense.

    Don't defend the FB route. She clearly wanted it to be public.

    Ya, when people post this stuff on Faecbook if they are just to get their picture in the paper and maybe an appearance on This Morning with these kind of stories.


  • #75
    pgj2015
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,015 ✭✭✭✭pgj2015


    Mic 1972 wrote: »
    big difference between customer trying to kiss you against your will and someone politely asking you out



    yes but its the way the guy got her number, it wasn't meant to be used that way. all he could have hoped for is that she text him first and a large percentage will if they fancy you.


  • #76
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,444 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    kenmm wrote: »
    Ye sounds like it's on the creepy side. Maybe it would have been ok to say something/ask if he can call at the point of interaction and then if it's a no, you can accept the knockback in the normal way. But lifting the number from the package pushes it over the line.

    This, 100%


  • #77
    hynesie08
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,240 ✭✭✭✭hynesie08


    Mic 1972 wrote: »
    She could have just said "sorry this is inappropriate" and he would have apologized and ended it there.

    "She could have just said sorry I don't want a drink"
    "she could have just texted him back"
    "she could have just danced with him"

    EVERY woman has a story of telling a guy no and being at the very least abused for it. Why should she text him back? She doesn't owe him a ****ing thing.....


  • #78
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    noodler wrote: »
    The takeaway man knows where you live.

    The postman.

    The couriers.


    I think people are making an enormous leap from an inappropriate text to stalking/home invasion or whatever they have in mind when they bring up the address.


    Neighbors
    Colleagues
    ex-boyfriends


    they all know where you live and statistical they are more likely to be you murderers than some random stranger


  • #79
    Purple Mountain
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,655 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    He was obviously an ugly oaf. If it was a Hugh Jackman lookalike we'd be reading a story about how romantic she found it that her now boyfriend fell in love with her while delivering her Argos order and sought out her number.

    To thine own self be true



  • #80
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    The gas thing about this is that if the genders were reversed, you wouldn't hear anything about this at all.

    Will most likely have the paw out looking for some kind of compo too. I'm not sure complaining to the Government will be of much use :rolleyes:


    Total nonsense like I said before, it's storm in a teacup stuff, he's dumb and misjudged the situation and will prob lose his job now anyways.


  • #81
    kenmm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,698 ✭✭✭kenmm


    The guy knew he was going el creepo anyway. He sent one 'hey' text then what himself (or hopefully realised it was creepy) and then waited to respond.

    That probably made it worse because the girl was like 'who the f is this' for a few hours..

    Either that or he is just really shy, but he still royally messed up the whole thing.


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  • #82
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    hynesie08 wrote: »
    "She could have just said sorry I don't want a drink"
    "she could have just texted him back"
    "she could have just danced with him"

    EVERY woman has a story of telling a guy no and being at the very least abused for it. Why should she text him back? She doesn't owe him a ****ing thing.....


    then don't text him back, no need to overreact


    I say, like him for avoiding a date with a psychopath


  • #83
    Sam Quentin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,237 ✭✭✭Sam Quentin


    hynesie08 wrote: »
    "She could have just said sorry I don't want a drink"
    "she could have just texted him back"
    "she could have just danced with him"

    EVERY woman has a story of telling a guy no and being at the very least abused for it. Why should she text him back? She doesn't owe him a ****ing thing.....

    He should have just said.. a parcel for a kiss a parcel for a kiss 😘


  • #84
    Strumms
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,770 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    Mic 1972 wrote: »
    We are people not robots.
    It's ok to have human interactions while being at work.

    She could have just said "sorry this is inappropriate" and he would have apologized and ended it there.
    This culture of jumping on anyone who remotely steps out of line is a tragedy of our times.

    I agree, no problem with say a bit of flirting however this was definitely more than ‘remotely stepping out of line’... this was sprinting over the line... pulling her number from company documents and calling her that night ? Hmmm nahhh that’s pretty creeptastic.


  • #85
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    kenmm wrote: »
    The guy knew he was going el creepo anyway. He sent one 'hey' text then what himself (or hopefully realised it was creepy) and then waited to respond.

    That probably made it worse because the girl was like 'who the f is this' for a few hours..

    Either that or he is just really shy, but he still royally messed up the whole thing.


    The guy sent hey then he was busy probably doing other deliveries, he explained that later on. Normal guy
    She on the other hand


  • #86
    FintanMcluskey
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    Purple Mountain wrote: »
    He was obviously an ugly oaf. If it was a Hugh Jackman lookalike we'd be reading a story about how romantic she found it that her now boyfriend fell in love with her while delivering her Argos order and sought out her number.

    He obviously had a head like a boiled onion.

    If that guy was 6'4 with a cleft chin he would be in her apartment at the minute having wine and netflix.

    Usually only ugly guys are creeps, cute guys are "gas craic"


  • #87
    Gretas Gonna Get Ya!
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    Purple Mountain wrote: »
    He was obviously an ugly oaf. If it was a Hugh Jackman lookalike we'd be reading a story about how romantic she found it that her now boyfriend fell in love with her while delivering her Argos order and sought out her number.

    Possibly... but then the Hugh Jackman types don't wait until they drive away and then text you with a number you didn't give them!

    They have the confidence to say what want to say in person! ;)


  • #88
    kenmm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,698 ✭✭✭kenmm


    Church on Tuesday wrote: »
    The gas thing about this is that if the genders were reversed, you wouldn't hear anything about this at all.

    It is, but I don't think you can make the comparison.

    Because really by saying 'if the genders were reversed' you would really need to reverse this going back decades/centuries in a non existent world where men had been sexually harassed by women.


  • #89
    Sam Quentin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,237 ✭✭✭Sam Quentin


    What if her ex takes full advantage of the situation and goes around to her house and chops her up for firewood.
    Then the delivery guy will be put in the slammer for it...
    Omg omg this social media has me thinking all sorts. Like and share like and share..help help. Amazeballs


  • #90
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    Strumms wrote: »
    I agree, no problem with say a bit of flirting however this was definitely more than ‘remotely stepping out of line’... this was sprinting over the line... pulling her number from company documents and calling her that night ? Hmmm nahhh that’s pretty creeptastic.


    He didn't pull her number from company documents

    have you ever had anything delivered to you?
    You give your number, the carrier calls you up, you speak with the currier and then you meet for delivery
    her number was in his phone by then


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  • #91
    freshpopcorn
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    Gretas Gonna Get Ya! wrote: »
    Still think he should have went old school and just asked her out in person, rather than being a big pu$$ie and texting her after he leaves!

    And the added bonus, she can't put it on bookface if you choose this option. ;)

    Everyone is so wrapped up in technology these days, people have actually lost the ability to communicate properly face-to-face.

    Years ago he’d have sent her a love note instead of a text message!


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