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Mixed messages, guy takes hours to reply to me?

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  • #32
    Porklife
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,681 ✭✭✭Porklife


    skallywag wrote: »
    Seems we are going to disagree again.

    Skallywag...love that username btw...I'm not saying the definitive reason he did it is because he's narcissistic, I'm saying the only time I've done it I definitely wanted praise moreso than thinking of my audience's enjoyment. I know that sounds weird but I'm being honest. Playing a gig is one thing but for me personally, I've never been the one to whip out a guitar at a session and start singing and I find it cringe when others do. That's just me.
    I also hate when people say ah go on Porklife give us a song. I'm shy and find it really difficult.
    I don't want to argue with you. The guy could be different to me and doing it with lovely intentions. This was merely my initial take on it.


  • #33
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    OP here, wow what a rollercoaster of responses! Haha.

    I take no offence from anyone calling me obsessive or whatever other negative comments I received, I'm very well aware of my flaws and why I have them. I am working on them, and sometimes that includes reaching out for advice to check whether I am justified in my feelings or am in fact being my ole neurotic self.

    Turns out this guy was fairly narcissistic, it became obvious the more we chatted. So I've stopped chatting to him. Being in separate countries, it was fairly unrealistic anyway.

    I have to say though, while his guitar playing was showy and narcissistic in retrospect, I disagree with the person who said only narcissistic people play music for others. What a ridiculous statement. Music is an art form. Is an artist who paints a picture and shows people their work a narcissist too?

    Anyway, I digress.

    Cheers for the advice all!


  • #34
    skallywag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,035 ✭✭✭skallywag


    Deleted User wrote: »
    I have to say though, while his guitar playing was showy and narcissistic in retrospect, I disagree with the person who said only narcissistic people play music for others. What a ridiculous statement. Music is an art form. Is an artist who paints a picture and shows people their work a narcissist too?

    A big shout out to you OP for saying that, from someone who just loves playin' his guitar.

    All the best.


  • #35
    Dog day
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 198 ✭✭Dog day


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    OP here, wow what a rollercoaster of responses! Haha.

    I take no offence from anyone calling me obsessive or whatever other negative comments I received, I'm very well aware of my flaws and why I have them. I am working on them, and sometimes that includes reaching out for advice to check whether I am justified in my feelings or am in fact being my ole neurotic self.

    Turns out this guy was fairly narcissistic, it became obvious the more we chatted. So I've stopped chatting to him. Being in separate countries, it was fairly unrealistic anyway.

    I have to say though, while his guitar playing was showy and narcissistic in retrospect, I disagree with the person who said only narcissistic people play music for others. What a ridiculous statement. Music is an art form. Is an artist who paints a picture and shows people their work a narcissist too?

    Anyway, I digress.

    Cheers for the advice all!

    Hi OP, glad you got some good advice here but nobody said only narcissistic people play music for others.

    It’s incredibly disappointing when kind people take the time to help others out with advice here that comments are then misread & taken entirely out of context, not to mention others derailing the thread.

    All the best.


  • #36
    Porklife
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,681 ✭✭✭Porklife


    Dog day wrote: »
    Hi OP, glad you got some good advice here but nobody said only narcissistic people play music for others.

    It’s incredibly disappointing when kind people take the time to help others out with advice here that comments are then misread & taken entirely out of context, not to mention others derailing the thread.

    All the best.

    Thank you dude:)


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