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Partner wants to move

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  • #32
    lunamoon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 263 ✭✭lunamoon


    How does she plan on paying for the new house or is she just expecting you to buy it?


  • #33
    MissShihTzu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,080 ✭✭✭MissShihTzu


    Girlfriend knows a sweet deal when she sees one. She's got herself a nice little number, living rent-free, working part-time, only her car to pay for and no bills. If she were still living at home, I'd bet her Mum would ask for FAR more in keeps than she (isn't) paying you!

    13km is only 8 miles. I live 400 miles and another country away from my family and friends. You know how I keep in touch? There's several brilliant inventions, namely, the phone, WhatsApp, Snapchat and the internet to name a few. There's also the possibility of family and friends coming to visit HER. Did she ever consider that?

    I don't know the lady, but she sounds spoiled, self entitled, self indulgent and lazy. All very unattractive traits. A woman should always have her own independence.

    I would be looking to get legal advice and a rent agreement drawn up like yesterday! You need to protect yourself, OP. And DO NOT entertain the idea of moving unless and until she comes to the table with equal cash. If Girlfriend can't do that? Keep it moving - Without her!


  • #34
    bitofabind
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 938 ✭✭✭bitofabind


    Why are you with this woman? What does she bring to the table?


  • #35
    Tork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Tork


    I'm going to jump to a conclusion here so forgive me if I've got this wrong. You saved by yourself for a long time to buy this house and bought it on your own. It implies that you were single for a long time. Did you have many girlfriends before your partner came along? I'm wondering are you tolerating this behaviour from her because you know no better or because you're glad that somebody was willing to be your girlfriend?

    Something else to think about is what life would be like if you were to accede to her wishes and move. What is her family like? Would they be the sort of people who would intrude or cause problems for you? Living that close to someone else's family isn't for everyone.


  • #36
    Dog day
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 201 ✭✭Dog day


    Hi OP, I’m seconding many posters here.

    It’s really time to take a good honest look at the blatant imbalance in this relationship. Granted, there are two sides to every story but at the moment it very much appears that you are being fleeced by this woman. I won’t even get on to the absolute abhorrent cheek of her to be making any complaints whatsoever in terms of the location of your home which she seemingly contributes very little to. The house you presumably worked hard to purchase.

    Why are you putting up with this?

    Please step back, take stock & seriously consider the calibre of this person.


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  • #37
    qwerty13
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,272 ✭✭✭qwerty13


    I’m possibly being harsh here - but you describe her as your partner, which to me means an equality, we’re both in it together kind of thing.

    However, your ‘partner’ does not remotely pay her way, wants you to give up something you worked hard for and are happy with, so that she doesn’t have to drive a short distance to see her family and friends. That’s not partnership. That’s demanding, and feeling that her wishes take priority over yours.

    What is she bringing to the table financially, or relationship-wise?


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