Age Gaps

Kidchameleon · 18-02-2020 12:52PM

redfox123 wrote: »

I think the OP knows it would just be a fling, but feels weird about it understandably. So is asking strangers on the internet to make him feel a little less like a bit of a perv. Go do your thing, it probably won’t last, but I doubt you want a long term thing with her. Many decades ago people got married very young and sometimes to older men and it was a little more socially acceptable. But now a woman that age will want to travel, date around, live her twenties out freely like she should.
Go ahead and date her for a while, you will feel young again and she will enjoy the novelty of someone (presumably) more emotionally mature and experienced.

But then you will start to get tired of being the ‘how do you do fellow kids’ cringy older guy holding the skateboard and pretending to listen to Billie ‘Eyelash’...

Why would the OP feel like a perv? His GF is a grown woman.

TheBoyConor · 18-02-2020 12:55PM

she is 20 years old. She is an adult, fair enough, but she is still very very young and it is just creepy and pervy and wrong.

redfox123 · 18-02-2020 01:09PM

Kidchameleon wrote: »

Why would the OP feel like a perv? His GF is a grown woman.

Because they’re at completely different life stages and levels of maturity. Everyone knows teenage women even at 15 ‘appear’ very mature. I’m saying he is obviously seeking validation here that he is not a perv, otherwise he wouldn’t be here. I’m not saying he is one.

Sardonicat · 18-02-2020 01:20PM

redfox123 wrote: »

Because they’re at completely different life stages and levels of maturity. Everyone knows teenage women even at 15 ‘appear’ very mature. I’m saying he is obviously seeking validation here that he is not a perv, otherwise he wouldn’t be here. I’m not saying he is one.

We arent talking about a 15 year old, though.

redfox123 · 18-02-2020 01:29PM

I’m using that as example as women in teens and early twenties always seem mature.

Sardonicat · 18-02-2020 01:39PM

redfox123 wrote: »

I’m using that as example as women in teens and early twenties always seem mature.

But a 15 year old isn't 20, so it doesn't make sense. And no, they don't all seem mature. Some don't seem it because they're not. Some (I would say most) are every bit as mature as is required to make an adult decision as to who to embark on a romantic liason with.

redfox123 · 18-02-2020 01:48PM

Well I’m saying to go ahead and have a fling. They’re at different life stages and all that so chances are t won’t last. If it does great. If that’s what he actually wants.
Most will agree they thought they were mature at 20 before living through their actual twenties and thirties.
His and her decision. He is on here though because he feels weird. Where that comes from is a lot of factors.

TheBoyConor · 18-02-2020 02:50PM

She can go into this and come out the other side fine and unscathed. No problem, as she is the younger and the one seen to be in the more vulnerable position.

However, he can go into this and come out the other side apparently without any obvious wrongdoing but his character will be marked - he will be looked upon by others as that guy who does be sniffing around any very young women who might entertain him. He might have people talking about it and warning their daughters and friends about him and his fixation on much younger women. And you know how gossip goes, it could escalate and be embellished.

I don't know about the OP, but I certainly wouldn't want that kind of talk going on behind my back.

woodchuck · 18-02-2020 03:22PM

Mod note:

As this has spiraled into general discussion (yet again!) I think it's time to close this one.

OP if you feel there is any benefit reopening the thread, let us know and the mod team will consider the request.

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