What boardsies would you bring back?

wiggle16 · 12-01-2020 12:55AM

Deleted User wrote: »

I can't quite remember the details but Ursus posted something a bit mean or off colour on a thread here. They were told not to post in the thread again and soon after closed their account.

If we're thinking of the same post, I remember it and the reaction in the thread. I honestly don't think their post was meant to be mean at all, that would have been very out of character for Ursus especially on a thread like that, but people went to town on it because of how it was worded, which I thought was very unfair.

I was actually very sad to see they'd closed their account, Ursus was one of those posters I never skimmed reading and one of the first I took notice of when I first started using Boards (this is my first account, I'm a genuine newbie compared to nearly everyone else!).

I hope they're vigorously enjoying life wherever they are.

Church on Tuesday · 12-01-2020 01:43AM

wiggle16 wrote: »

If we're thinking of the same post, I remember it and the reaction in the thread. I honestly don't think their post was meant to be mean at all, that would have been very out of character for Ursus especially on a thread like that, but people went to town on it because of how it was worded, which I thought was very unfair.

I was actually very sad to see they'd closed their account, Ursus was one of those posters I never skimmed reading and one of the first I took notice of when I first started using Boards (this is my first account, I'm a genuine newbie compared to nearly everyone else!).

I hope they're vigorously enjoying life wherever they are.

I'm genuinely saddened to hear about this. Always considered Ursus to be a rock of sense and I remember in a past life getting advice over a ****ty situation in PI and she was, of course, completely right.

Didn't know about that thread business but I hope in time she will come back, Boards needs more common sense posters like her.

Raconteuse · 12-01-2020 01:53AM

The comment was very tactless though, and bizarre for someone who gives good advice to people going through difficult times. Hope they come back however - no need to leave permanently over that.

Hope Alecto opens another account too.

wiggle16 · 12-01-2020 01:53AM

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I'm genuinely saddened to hear about this. Always considered her to be a rock of sense and I remember in a past life getting advice over a ****ty situation in PI and she was, of course, completely right.

Didn't know about that thread business but I hope in time she will come back, Boards needs more common sense posters like her.

I was too, genuinely. I didn't think it was possible to get "attached" to an inanimate username but when I saw her account was closed I actually got that lurch in my chest you get when you hear bad news. I know that's OTT, I'm not a sentimental person but that did get to me.

Her advice was always spot on. And she was well able to be honest about what she really thought without coming down like a tonne of bricks or being unkind. I doubt she realises how many people she really did help over the years. I hope she does.

wiggle16 · 12-01-2020 01:59AM

Raconteuse wrote: »

The comment was very tactless though, and bizarre for someone who gives good advice to people going through difficult times. Hope they come back however - no need to leave permanently over that.

Ah I know. As I say it was unlike her and I think it was the perfect storm - a post that could have been phrased better and got a bad reaction in a very busy thread. It's just a pity.

Arghus · 12-01-2020 02:00AM

The OP hasn't posted in three months now himself.

_Kaiser_ · 12-01-2020 02:05AM

Honestly, I wouldn't "bring back" any.

Many are still around under different names anyway, but I am far more interested in the content of their posts than "boards celebs". I find it a bit cringe-worthy reading posts reminiscing about people whose main contributions were fantasies about their bowel movements or Walter Mitty financier lifestyle etc.

There's some people that I'd agree with more than others, but given how people seem to go through usernames these days it would be a full time job trying to keep up with it (I never seem to recognise a re-reg either unless it's pointed out).

Church on Tuesday · 12-01-2020 02:06AM

Raconteuse wrote: »

The comment was very tactless though, and bizarre for someone who gives good advice to people going through difficult times. Hope they come back however - no need to leave permanently over that.

Hope Alecto opens another account too.

I didn't know anything about that until now and indeed haven't even seen said comment so can't really give an opinion on that.

In fairness we all have our off days. Sometimes communicating online with someone,esp on here, things may come off as snarky or overly cutting when that is not at all the intention.

LaFuton · 12-01-2020 02:13AM

anyone thats not a nodeyspambot stir-agent

more old fashioned humans please.

Better Than Christ · 12-01-2020 02:13AM

wiggle16 wrote: »

If we're thinking of the same post, I remember it and the reaction in the thread. I honestly don't think their post was meant to be mean at all, that would have been very out of character for Ursus especially on a thread like that, but people went to town on it because of how it was worded, which I thought was very unfair.

If it's the post I'm thinking of, it was a very valid point. Albeit one that couldn't possibly have been made in a less appropriate thread.

Purple Mountain · 12-01-2020 02:38AM

Raconteuse wrote: »

Hope Alecto opens another account too.

That reincarnation didn't last long

Princess Calla · 12-01-2020 04:32PM

wiggle16 wrote: »

Ah I know. As I say it was unlike her and I think it was the perfect storm - a post that could have been phrased better and got a bad reaction in a very busy thread. It's just a pity.

Yeah it was a wtf post, moreso because it came from her. Though I will be honest and say I agreed with her sentiment....before I'm lynched unfortunately I've personal experience of that topic but handled with a different approach, so thankfully we have never experienced what that op was experiencing.

Gynoid · 12-01-2020 05:45PM

I dont know the person Ursus, and I dont know the post, but it is a problem with online anonymous forums that everyone projects and idealises both the positive and negative, the cyber personality is black and white, there is no room for nuance, and people forget that the space is not real life. It is an imaginal liminal space.

In real life we allow people we love to have darkness, to have real fcuked up spaces in their essential goodness, and because we can physically see and touch them we accept the complicated humanity of them. Precisely because we love them. And because we know we are all fcuked up to various degrees.

But an online persona creates an atmosphere around itself where we not only circumscribe our own selves and project what we want, but also others respond with their own projections and build up a completely idealised picture of who the other is. Bad or good.

The idea of being a wonderful, warm, wise, ever benevolent loving being is a total fantasy.

If the person Ursus said something out of character in real life, one who liked them would say ya mad wagon, goway outta that, but in cyber space the projected expectation is ruined, ridiculous idealisations shattered, the fantasy falls to pieces and there is an animus-ridden pile on.

Crazy space really, the ether.

12-01-2020 05:49PM

I know I can be a bit snippy with my posts at times and it can be due to something entirely unrelated to the threa or the person I'm interacting with. I do hope Ursus is doing ok and that the account closure was maybe a "I need to step away for a bit" sort of thing and that she will return l. We are all human at the end of the day.

12-01-2020 05:50PM

Yes Gynoid I absolutely agree with you.

Gynoid · 12-01-2020 06:03PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Yes Gynoid I absolutely agree with you.

Thanks. But that is probably just because I am a wonderful, warm, wise and eternally benevolent person...

Earthhorse · 12-01-2020 06:16PM

A wise post, Gynoid, but it sounds in this case that the poster themselves treated something in a very black and white manner? And I think that’s what causes a lot of problems online in general.

dxhound2005 · 12-01-2020 06:21PM

The poster who started this thread seems to have disappeared off Boards about 3 months ago. I wonder will they make a comeback.

EmmetSpiceland · 12-01-2020 06:33PM

dxhound2005 wrote: »

The poster who started this thread seems to have disappeared off Boards about 3 months ago. I wonder will they make a comeback.

Hopefully. An excellent “contributor” to the site, imo.

Sephiroth_dude · 12-01-2020 06:37PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I know I can be a bit snippy

Only a bit ?

:pac::pac::p

Princess Calla · 12-01-2020 07:07PM

Terry Wogan wrote: »

Link to this controversial post?

It wasn't controversial

It was a delicate subject matter but in "after hours".

What she said was abit blunt, but the phrase "only saying what everyone else is thinking " did spring to mind. Though that would be my own personal view on the matter.

It was a shock as she's an extremely considered poster and takes lots of time giving absolute fantastic advice in personal issues. If the comment came from the majority of after hours posters it wouldn't have registered with me anyway.

retro:electro · 12-01-2020 07:14PM

So.....what did she say? :pac:

12-01-2020 07:18PM

Gynoid wrote: »

Thanks. But that is probably just because I am a wonderful, warm, wise and eternally benevolent person...

Sure I know exactly how it is.

12-01-2020 07:18PM

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

Only a bit ?

:pac::pac::p

Can a mod look at this please.

KiKi III · 12-01-2020 07:55PM

Ah lads, I just came across this thread and was heartened to see my name crop up a few times. It convinced me to sign back up (I've lurked over the last few months even when I haven't been posting.) I thought about picking an entirely new username but I have a rapport with a number of you I'd like to maintain.

Hope everyone is doing well, the latter half of January can be tough for lots of us!

I'm happy to be back, and as a New Year's Boards Resolution I'll be attempting to keep spats to a minimum.

As for the OP, like many I miss the Backwards Man (and sorry to disappoint the other ladies but I too was the recipient of the occasional PM). I'm sorry to see Tyrant's taken a break too, but I'm sure he'll be back.

Earthhorse · 12-01-2020 07:57PM

retro:electro wrote: »

So.....what did she say? :pac:

What everyone was thinking.

Purple Mountain · 12-01-2020 07:57PM

KiKi III wrote: »

Ah lads, I just came across this thread and was heartened to see my name crop up a few times. It convinced me to sign back up (I've lurked over the last few months even when I haven't been posting.) I thought about picking an entirely new username but I have a rapport with a number of you I'd like to maintain.

Hope everyone is doing well, the latter half of January can be tough for lots of us!

I'm happy to be back, and as a New Year's Boards Resolution I'll be attempting to keep spats to a minimum.

As for the OP, like many I miss the Backwards Man (and sorry to disappoint the other ladies but I too was the recipient of the occasional PM). I'm sorry to see Tyrant's taken a break too, but I'm sure he'll be back.

How's the cat?

Trigger Happy · 12-01-2020 08:01PM

Major dose of nostalgia reading this thread.
There are also a rake of former posters that I am glad are gone too. Right doses some of them!

KiKi III · 12-01-2020 08:02PM

Purple Mountain wrote: »

How's the cat?

The pup turned one the other day

I've been working abroad for a few weeks so she's down the country being spoiled rotten by my parents, hope to have her back next week!

Peatys · 12-01-2020 08:09PM

Purple Mountain wrote: »

How's the cat?

**Kiki3 scrambling back thru kikis posts to get a description of the cat

What boardsies would you bring back?

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