Male babysitters

AulWan · 26-12-2019 08:03PM

Mckenna Wet Eyebrow wrote: »

Min wage doesn’t apply to a teenager babysitting.

Pizza and a 10ee, maybe 20 quid if it’s a very late night is about all I’d be paying a teenage relation to watch tv and check in on a child now and again.

Why don't you just get your Mammy to do it for free?

Sardonicat · 26-12-2019 08:04PM

touts wrote: »

Women are all for breaking the glass ceiling and gender equality for traditional male roles. But ask them if they think a male childcare worker should be hired in their child's creche and they become as bigotted as a bunch of old men in suits in a smoke filled boardroom in the 1950s.

Yes, all women think like that. Each and every one of us. It's the hive mind, you see.

anewme · 26-12-2019 08:06PM

BDI wrote: »

You seem to have a problem with the fact I work on a building site.
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No you clearly have a problem with it.

You mention it every thread as a barometer that other people’s career choices and earnings should be judged against.

Recent careers belittled have been IT workers, office workers, teachers and those supporting the frontline homeless. And God forbid if a WOMAN earns more than you!

I’m actually not sure if you are trolling builders, presenting them as Neanderthals on purpose.

Sardonicat · 26-12-2019 08:07PM

LuasSimon wrote: »

Used be a male 18-19 year old baby sitting round our way one time , one couple that used get him , the wife would drop him home when they got back from night out . Apparently the wife used get her piece of the babysitter on this trip home . Everyone happy as the hubby was in a coma from booze back at the ranch .

Apparently? You know this how?

26-12-2019 08:07PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, all women think like that. Each and every one of us. It's the hive mind, you see.

While I don't agree with the other poster.... apparently we now have collective responsibility/guilt for the male gender... Simply being male makes you vulnerable to all manner of claims.

IvySlayer · 26-12-2019 08:07PM

Man up the road used to run a creche with his wife, his wife died but he still runs it on his own! Only male creche worker I know.

anewme · 26-12-2019 08:08PM

BDI wrote: »

People said I must have been molested for having a view on the question asked....

What if I was molested. I’d probably feel terrible. /quote]

Now stop bare faced lying.

Who said you must have been molested?

kowloon · 26-12-2019 08:09PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Yes, all women think like that. Each and every one of us. It's the hive mind, you see.

Actually, if you can take out their Queen the rest of them fall into disarray with no strong opinions universally held by the collective.

Sardonicat · 26-12-2019 08:12PM

kowloon wrote: »

Actually, if you can take out their Queen the rest of them fall into disarray with no strong opinions universally held by the collective.

The Queen must be dead, then. Who was she, by the way?

raxy · 26-12-2019 08:22PM

spurious wrote: »

You appear to have an unhealthy interest in paedophilia. Is it close to home?

Was wondering the same! He obviously thinks all men have the same inclinations that he has!

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 26-12-2019 08:24PM

No children so this is hypothetical but yes, I’d hire a male babysitter. Any babysitter hired is given good consideration for trustworthiness. I see no reason why a teenage boy wouldn’t pass that test just like a girl.

spurious · 26-12-2019 08:27PM

Nobody said BDI had been molested, but he reads it as so. As I said, an unhealthy interest.

26-12-2019 08:31PM

AulWan wrote: »

Why don't you just get your Mammy to do it for free?

Obviously that’s the first choice but maybe it’s an event she was going to also!

ITman88 · 26-12-2019 08:31PM

Read on boards before that TUSLA advise that teenage boys don’t babysit foster kids!
Must find the link

McMurphy · 26-12-2019 08:37PM

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Probably. But who would hire a male babysitter that's black.

hynesie08 · 26-12-2019 08:37PM

Mckenna Wet Eyebrow wrote: »

Obviously that’s the first choice but maybe it’s an event she was going to also!

So you want to leave a teenager alone in the middle of nowhere in charge of your kids and pay them less than €4 an hour....... Good luck with that.....

Larbre34 · 26-12-2019 08:41PM

I recently heard of a female relative of one of my in-laws, I've known the whole family many years, she was going through some mental health difficulties and attended counselling as part of her treatment.

As a result of the counselling, she has of late spoken to all of her family to tell them that her eldest and second eldest brother molested her while she was in their care as a young girl, both of them mid to late teenagers. Needless to say it has caused massive upheaval in the family.

I honestly wouldn't trust a teenage male undergoing sexual development to babysit another child, I'd be too concerned that even the most outwardly normal well adjusted kid might just get inappropriate thoughts and act on them.

Trained male carers in a professional setting? 100% fine. Random teen lads? Its just not worth the risk. I really don't want to label all males, but as a man I would never put myself in a situation where I would be alone with kids not my own or close relatives where questions might be asked.

raxy · 26-12-2019 08:56PM

Larbre34 wrote: »

Trained male carers in a professional setting? 100% fine. Random teen lads? Its just not worth the risk. I really don't want to label all males, but as a man I would never put myself in a situation where I would be alone with kids not my own or close relatives where questions might be asked.

That is labelling all males!
Why does a few years of training mean it's 100% fine? Have you never heard of institutional abuse?

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:04PM

Horrible that people here would accuse me of either being a molester or molested because I don’t want to hire a male babysitter.

One of them even calling me a barefaced liar when it’s there in black and white.

Very few people will hire a male babysitter.

We had a male babysitting service called the Catholic Church. Look what happened there. I have no interest in equal opportunities for the sexes in childcare.

I don’t want even ten kids in the world molested to prove a point that most men arnt peedos. It is a job that would attract peedos. Most men wouldn’t want to do that for a job. Why were there so many peedo priests? Because that’s a job they gravitate towards. Access to children.

If you can’t factor that in to your reasoning you live in a vacuum and not the real world.

Again I see no Benifit in a male minding my kids. Why would I change the industry to one where males mind the kids?

Why are people willing to say that I must fancy kids if I don’t want this? That’s horrible and the action of a person who’s methods you’d have to question whether they should even mind their own kids.

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:06PM

raxy wrote: »

Was wondering the same! He obviously thinks all men have the same inclinations that he has!

That’s horrible. Why do you care so much about men having close supervision of other people’s children that you would be willing to throw such abuse.

26-12-2019 09:07PM

ITman88 wrote:

Read on boards before that TUSLA advise that teenage boys donâ€™t babysit foster kids! Must find the link

I don't believe this to be true. Not that someone posted it on another thread but that TUSLA give this advice. The last time my sister fostered was about two years ago but she has just told me that she has never had any advice like that from TUSLA

anewme · 26-12-2019 09:16PM

BDI wrote: »

Horrible that people here would accuse me of either being a molester or molested because I don’t want to hire a male babysitter.

One of them even calling me a barefaced liar when it’s there in black and white.

Again I see no Benifit in a male minding my kids. Why would I change the industry to one where males mind the kids

Yep I’m calling you a liar. It’s me. I am Spartacus.

Tell me where anyone called you a molester or were molested.? Not one person said that.

Again, you being everything back to MALE and FEMALE outdated stereotypes and job roles. The men must work and the women must clean up after them and bear their children, as you said on another thread.

Clearly living in the past.

26-12-2019 09:16PM

BDI wrote: »

Horrible that people here would accuse me of either being a molester or molested because I don’t want to hire a male babysitter.

No one accused you of molesting anyone or of being molested.
The Catholic Church was not a babysitting service.
No-one has said you must get a male babysitter, but you would never allow a male to babysit. There is a difference. No-one will force you to get one, but there is nothing wrong with any male wanting to babysit as a young lad for extra money, or even as an adult to make a career working with children.

You have an extremely bad attitude towards men, & given that you are male, it's strange & maybe you need to get some help with it?

anewme · 26-12-2019 09:19PM

bubblypop wrote: »

You have an extremely bad attitude towards men, & given that you are male, it's strange & maybe you need to get some help with it?

Bad attitude against anyone who does not work on a building site.

Maybe had a bad experience with a jumbo breakfast roll?

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:24PM

raxy wrote: »

Was wondering the same! He obviously thinks all men have the same inclinations that he has!

Nobody accused me of what?

Anewme and bubbly pop I can’t double quote in this phone but you both say nobody accused me of something. I will quote spurious post next

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:25PM

spurious wrote: »

You appear to have an unhealthy interest in paedophilia. Is it close to home?

Anewme bubblypop.

Anewme I think you should apologise to me especially. I will go away from this thread and give you time to calm down.

I shall keep my account until I get my apology then probably leave this place. It was a category mod who posted one of them posts.

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:29PM

spurious wrote: »

Nobody said BDI had been molested, but he reads it as so. As I said, an unhealthy interest.

Anewme you thanked this then called me a liar?

Ted_YNWA · 26-12-2019 09:35PM

BDI I think it is you who needs time to calm down. You are reading a lot more into posts here than I believe users mean.

Let's not equate Male babysitter = paedophile, this is not helping anything.

BDI · 26-12-2019 09:38PM

Ted_YNWA wrote: »

BDI I think it is you who needs time to calm down. You are reading a lot more into posts here than I believe users mean.

Let's not equate Male babysitter = paedophile, this is not helping anything.

Never said it was, just I wouldn’t hire one.

I am out of this thread though can I ask not to be quoted and any questions pm me.

Thanks guys.

Hercule Poirot · 26-12-2019 09:42PM

I used to babysit for my neighbours when they went for a night out when I was about 15/16 - three girls between the ages of 2 and 8.

A handy 20/30 quid every few weeks wasn't too be sniffed at - I remember at the turn the Millennium they gave me 70 quid to babysit that night

It was relatively easy money - if any of them woke up usually an episode of Barney or My Little Pony (depending on which one it was) would have them back to sleep again

Not that I have kids myself but if I did I'd have no problem with a male sitter as long as I knew them, no more than you would a female sitter I suppose

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