Broke up with guy, heartbroken

zapper55 wrote: »

Yup my worst dating advice has definitely been from friends. I recently rewatched 'He's not that into you'll. That's the type of excellent advice I wish I'd gotten over the years.

YES. Do this OP. I also recently watched this while struggling with a similar issue to you and it really helped me see the wood from the trees.

If he wanted to be with you he would have no qualms about comitting to you.
If there was any issue causing a setback with that, he would be working towards resolving that issue so he could be with you.
He hasn't done that, and the "why's" or "how's" are irrelevant.
You could spend all day analysing whether he's too laid back or maybe not that interested, or even just scared of the label. The answer doesn't matter, because the facts are the same - if he really, really wanted to be your boyfriend, nothing would stop him.

All you need to know is that nothing has changed and that while you're gushing over his sweet texts, you can't give your attention to making a meangingful connection with someone else. You're wasting your own time.

Don't doubt that if he did a 180 and decided he actually did want a relationship with you, he'd make that very clear. He'd be bursting to let you know about his change of heart, for fear of losing you.
He hasn't done that. Instead he's dangled some carrotts to keep you interested while not offering you anything more than he was before. He wants to have his cake and eat it.

You're better than this OP, don't fall for it. If he wanted to, he would, and he hasn't. Keep repeating that to yourself.

well done OP