Anyone else fed up of dating apps?

kiki_the_third wrote: »

So for those who are sick of the apps, what are the other options?

Would you go to a speed dating event? Must we all join hiking MeetUps?

Just strike up a conversation with someone you fancy and then try to get contact details.

kiki_the_third wrote: »

Yeah, maybe if I lived in NYC. That is quite simply not how things work in Ireland.

How so?

kiki_the_third wrote: »

So for those who are sick of the apps, what are the other options?

You could meet someone through work?

kiki_the_third wrote: »

I'm not exaggerating, I love hearing people's "so how did you meet?" stories and I've never once heard a story along the lines of "well I saw her in the shop/ library/ gym/ cinema and I thought she was cute so I asked for her number and we went out that weekend."

It seems very much like the stuff of an American romcom. In Ireland, that could only happen after *several* hours in the pub, a scene I'm not very involved in.

Apart from the gym, you're not going to strike up conversations at any of those places.

Pub is OK only if you have had a couple of drinks at most, you won't really be taken seriously otherwise.

Gigs are a good place too, that's if you're into live music at all.

Various meetups of whatever you're interested in.

Basically, unless you make some kind of effort in real life, you will forever be scrolling through any amount of dull profiles on dating apps which, although a novelty when they first came on the scene, are more or less a monetized waste of time for most now.

kiki_the_third wrote: »

I've pursued several hobbies over the last few years, some of them male dominated, and it hasn't been the magical path to meeting someone that many on here would like to believe. I still pursue them because I enjoy them, but I've dated exactly one guy I met this way. I've made a much wider circle of friends, which will probably help in the long run, but in my experience Irish people just don't ask each other out as directly as the manner you described above.

Is that common in your friend group?

There's never any guarantee that they will; you do them for the enjoyment of it first and if you happen to meet someone you like along the way then even better. It gives you both a common ground to possibly meet and have something immediate in common. If it happens.


It's true that Irish people are not entirely direct about their intentions and I was the same when I was a younger man in my early twenties; I was afraid of rejection and frankly missed out a bit. Anxiety didn't help either.

You can use that above fact to your advantage; it will make you stand out if you are more direct in a way and trust me, every man would love a woman to walk up to him and start chatting away instead of the usual way around.

My friend group is a mix of different personalities. Most of my friends are settled down or married. Most of them would be fairly confident and def sure of themselves but not cocky lads. In all of their cases they struck up conversations with women they liked at various events and locations.

Also, the wider your friends circle is the greater the opportunity of meeting someone who you may click with who's a friend of a friend.

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

There's never any guarantee that they will; you do them for the enjoyment of it first and if you happen to meet someone you like along the way then even better. It gives you both a common ground to possibly meet and have something immediate in common. If it happens.


It's true that Irish people are not entirely direct about their intentions and I was the same when I was a younger man in my early twenties; I was afraid of rejection and frankly missed out a bit. Anxiety didn't help either.

You can use that above fact to your advantage; it will make you stand out if you are more direct in a way and trust me, every man would love a woman to walk up to him and start chatting away instead of the usual way around.

My friend group is a mix of different personalities. Most of my friends are settled down or married. Most of them would be fairly confident and def sure of themselves but not cocky lads. In all of their cases they struck up conversations with women they liked at various events and locations.

Also, the wider your friends circle is the greater the opportunity of meeting someone who you may click with who's a friend of a friend.

I agree with this. I have a very small circle of freinds and honestly think this is one of the reasons I am still single - no opportunities to perhaps meet someone who is a friend of a friend. It gets very depressing

This is slightly OT but an ex work colleague went on a work trip to the UK a few years back, and on her return journey there was some sort of catastrophic IT issue that caused all flights to be grounded.
She was bored stuck in an airport so started swiping through tinder, and matched with a guy from London who was on his way to Spain for a stag.
They messaged back & forth for a bit and then he suggested meeting up for a coffee in the departure lounge as they were both bored and looking for something to do...4 years later they're happy out and living together in London.

Its the best "how did ye meet" story I've ever heard anyways :pac:

MetzgerMeister wrote: »

I met a girl in a shop before. I worked in Dunnes and she was chatting to a co-worker of mine and I asked her for her number.

Went out with her for a year and half but she turned out to be a pure looper.

Bet she was great in bed though.