Would you burn the bridge after an interview?

Problem Of Motivation · 27-07-2019 12:26AM #1

This is something that happened quite a while ago, but I've been forced to think about it again recently. It's about a time I once traveled half the length of the country for an interview and I heard nothing back from them. The two who interviewed me acted all nice in the interview telling that I could email them if I'd any questions. After hearing nothing for two weeks, I was pretty sure by now that I hadn't got the job. I sent an email to the HR lady I dealt with to see what the situation was and I got no reply. I think this is really unprofessional of them, especially seeing as they were the ones suggesting that I could get in touch with them.

At the time I took the view that it was nasty of them, but that sound like a butt hurt loser ringing them up when I'd know they would be trying to avoid me. Something similar to this has happens to me twice now after interviews. I simply cannot pretend that it doesn't annoy anymore. If this ever happens to me again, once I have figured out for myself (the hard way) that I don't have the job (or don't second round interview), I will contact them. And when I do contact them, they will probably think I'm a bit stupid that I haven't figured out by now that I didn't get the job. They will also probably think that if there's any chance of me still being hired by them that I am going about it the wrong way.

And that's where they'll be so very wrong. Because I will make it my personal hobby to keep ringing up and annoying the sh1t out of them. The more they'd do the run around with me, the more I'd play dumb and keep ringing sending letters and emails, getting onto their superiors, etc. I will use them as my punch bag even if it means they think I'm some sort of a weirdo. And you might say there's no point but whatever would happen, you can be bloody sure that they'd remember it for ever more.

What would you do. First of all, it's going to piss you off, you cannot pretend it doesn't. And there's no point in saying it's nothing personal. I know a guy who this happened to who had actually traveled further than I did, and stayed overnight in a hotel. He made the point to stand up to them and they're actually changing their policy now. In his case the company he had the interview with, tried to blame it on the recruitment company as a miscommunication. The recruitment company was then forced to call a spade a spade.

So yeah, unlike my father's advice, I would burn that bridge to the ground.

Irishphotodesk · 27-07-2019 12:31AM

Yeah, personal issues forum is erm.... Somewhere else

27-07-2019 12:31AM

Welcome to the real world. Take your soup and move on.

ILoveYourVibes · 27-07-2019 12:41AM

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

So yeah, unlike my father's advice, I would burn that bridge to the ground.

Fair play.

Abba987 · 27-07-2019 12:45AM

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

This is something that happened quite a while ago, but I've been forced to think about it again recently. It's about a time I once traveled half the length of the country for an interview and I heard nothing back from them. The two who interviewed me acted all nice in the interview telling that I could email them if I'd any questions. After hearing nothing for two weeks, I was pretty sure by now that I hadn't got the job. I sent an email to the HR lady I dealt with to see what the situation was and I got no reply. I think this is really unprofessional of them, especially seeing as they were the ones suggesting that I could get in touch with them.

At the time I took the view that it was nasty of them, but that sound like a butt hurt loser ringing them up when I'd know they would be trying to avoid me. Something similar to this has happens to me twice now after interviews. I simply cannot pretend that it doesn't annoy anymore. If this ever happens to me again, once I have figured out for myself (the hard way) that I don't have the job (or don't second round interview), I will contact them. And when I do contact them, they will probably think I'm a bit stupid that I haven't figured out by now that I didn't get the job. They will also probably think that if there's any chance of me still being hired by them that I am going about it the wrong way.

And that's where they'll be so very wrong. Because I will make it my personal hobby to keep ringing up and annoying the sh1t out of them. The more they'd do the run around with me, the more I'd play dumb and keep ringing sending letters and emails, getting onto their superiors, etc. I will use them as my punch bag even if it means they think I'm some sort of a weirdo. And you might say there's no point but whatever would happen, you can be bloody sure that they'd remember it for ever more.

What would you do. First of all, it's going to piss you off, you cannot pretend it doesn't. And there's no point in saying it's nothing personal. I know a guy who this happened to who had actually traveled further than I did, and stayed overnight in a hotel. He made the point to stand up to them and they're actually changing their policy now. In his case the company he had the interview with, tried to blame it on the recruitment company as a miscommunication. The recruitment company was then forced to call a spade a spade.

So yeah, unlike my father's advice, I would burn that bridge to the ground.

No

Sharp MZ700 · 27-07-2019 12:47AM

Did they call him a spade to his face?

27-07-2019 12:48AM

Why don't you spend that time and energy improving your interview technique.

Ubbquittious · 27-07-2019 12:50AM

I personally wouldn't have the time but I'm glad that someone is taking a stance against ghosting employers. It is a lousy thing to do after someone taking the time and the bother to attend an interview

Feisar · 27-07-2019 01:05AM

Dude/Man you've opened a can of worms here...

For some reason you didn't garner their respect. Now the whys of this is a big question and I'm not equipped to answer. However a place to start is why some people get bullied and others don't. The victim types blame the bully however they are not the reason. It's all about attitude and your persona.

Dublinandy2 · 27-07-2019 01:05AM

What would be the point, it’s the way the world works, don’t take it personally. Get a dog to talk to.

Ubbquittious · 27-07-2019 01:08AM

Dublinandy2 wrote: »

What would be the point, it’s the way the world works, don’t take it personally. Get a dog to talk to.

One could always torch the place. That would learn em

Leg End Reject · 27-07-2019 01:10AM

Your time might be better spent working on your issues.

For some bizarre reason you feel the need to write an essay on the most mundane of issues that the majority of us write off as sh*t happens.

Feisar · 27-07-2019 01:11AM

Ubbquittious wrote: »

One could always torch the place. That would learn em

No, OP needs to improve themselves.

Dublinandy2 · 27-07-2019 01:11AM

Ubbquittious wrote: »

One could always torch the place. That would learn em

Lol , that deserved a written lol to match my actual one.

Purple Mountain · 27-07-2019 01:11AM

Wonder why you didn't get the job...

Leg End Reject · 27-07-2019 01:16AM

Purple Mountain wrote: »

Wonder why you didn't get the job...

I can't think of a single reason ...

Your Face · 27-07-2019 01:46AM

If you made the effort to travel across country to interview for their job then the least they could do is let you know you didn't get it. Its basic manners.

Don't take it personally OP and look at it as dodging a bullet.

Fr_Dougal · 27-07-2019 02:22AM

Bring petrol to the next interview.

garyskeepers · 27-07-2019 02:23AM

I had my first "interview" in 15 years yesterday. Instead of thinking of it like an interview, I thought of it like 'selling myself'

completely different mindset. Got 15k more than my last salary

Never underestimate your own worth

pgj2015 · 27-07-2019 04:17AM

i once did an interview, didnt get that job but they emailed me saying they didnt usually email interviewees after interviews and although i didnt get the job they were impressed with some of my knowledge on certain areas.

i didnt email them back, fcuk them, like i was going to be so happy they emailed me when they usually dont.

pgj2015 · 27-07-2019 04:22AM

you should do exactly what Eminem does in this video below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqaoyvPu-Xs

27-07-2019 04:27AM

Watch YouTube videos on handling interviews.

Either way No one owes you a job.

mickoneill31 · 27-07-2019 04:41AM

I'd pop my experience onto glass door and move on. No point being emotional. Maybe they monitor that and give a crap. Maybe not.
I always review companies on glass door prior to an interview for a rough idea of what other interviewees and employees think.

tcawley29 · 27-07-2019 05:27AM

Problem Of Motivation wrote: »

This is something that happened quite a while ago, but I've been forced to think about it again recently. It's about a time I once traveled half the length of the country for an interview and I heard nothing back from them.

Maybe they didn't like the radio, did you have it with you that day?

Pinch Flat · 27-07-2019 05:57AM

i think you should get a sleeping bag and camp out in front of their building until you get some feedback.

Oink · 27-07-2019 06:24AM

I actually agree with OP that it’s poor manners. It wouldn’t be so hard to setup a system where you only have to tick a box and an email gets sent to everyone saying thanks but no thanks and no correspondence will be entered into.
Or else take 30 seconds to copy and paste all the addresses from an excel sheet.

But for that you’d have to give a sh!t.

mikemac2 · 27-07-2019 06:28AM

HR, the home of failed middle managers

Pineapple1 · 27-07-2019 06:40AM

Your post seems a bit much, but I will agree it is annoying. And its even worse when you do an unpaid trial and dont even hear anything back. It was only yesterday I sat down in a cafe and realised the woman at the very next table to me was the woman who gave me the trial. She didnt say boo to me and vice versa. I just rolled my eyes to myself as it was such a typical thing to happen in a small town. But how can you burn a bridge when there is no "bridge" there yet in the first place? All you have to do is forget about them the same way they have about you.

Greyfox · 27-07-2019 09:13AM

Oink wrote: »

I actually agree with OP that it’s poor manners. It wouldn’t be so hard to setup a system where you only have to tick a box and an email gets sent to everyone saying thanks but no thanks and no correspondence will be entered into.

I think everyone would agree it's very bad manners and it's an incredibly frustrating experience but what the op did was a little silly, just wasting his time, company's don't care about the people they dont hire or people they dont want as a backup plan.

Akrasia · 27-07-2019 09:24AM

Greyfox wrote: »

I think everyone would agree it's very bad manners and it's an incredibly frustrating experience but what the op did was a little silly, just wasting his time, company's don't care about the people they dont hire or people they dont want as a backup plan.

If you get pissy after you don’t get a job, all you’re doing is validating their decision to not hire you.

Also they’re going to put a big red flag against your name on their Talent Acquisition system so that you never have a hope of being hired by that company ever again.

27-07-2019 09:26AM

Send them a bullet in the post with a note... I know where you live work!

Don't do it half arsed, if you're going to invest time in being a menace go all out.

In fact it's likely that you came across as half hearted in the interview and this is the reason that you didn't get the job. So, you show them what they're missing!

Or, and here's a thought, you could realise these people are dicks, you were one of many people they met during the process and while they were nice at the interview you really didn't make an impression, and move on.

Would you burn the bridge after an interview?

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