What makes some interesting/boring?

completedit · 20-07-2019 04:42PM #1

Some of the most entertaining people I know to be around are not particularly interested in the world around them, while some of the most boring are well versed on a number of topics. What to you is an interesting person? And what makes someone boring? Who is the most interesting and/or most boring person you know?

Leg End Reject · 20-07-2019 04:47PM

I think a lot of it boils down to having compatible personalities. Someone who knows a lot can be boring if they try to shoehorn their knowledge into every interaction. Likewise, someone with nothing to add to a conversation can be boring.

The most boring have to be those who constantly talk about their children.

Upforthematch · 20-07-2019 04:48PM

What's boring to some is interesting to others. All depends on the company and whether you like the person or not if you ask me.

Fighting Tao · 20-07-2019 04:50PM

Most boring are those that obsess over scripted reality shows and the so called celebrities they churn out. Or anyone into celebrity culture.

20-07-2019 04:50PM

When they talk "at" you rather than to you it's a major turn-off. I love when someone actually engages you in a conversation and doesn't just want someone to vomit their own words at, with little to no interest in what you're actually saying back to them.

wally1990 · 20-07-2019 04:54PM

My brother in law is only 21 but his best buddy (22) who I have nothing in common at all is one of the most entertaining people to be around

He is very outgoing and whitty. He never has an opinion on something really or any obvious interests but can chat and hold a convo about anything ,

He can also instantly cheer up a room and is always in good form

People love being around him !

I admire that in him

On the other hand

I'd be quite Introverted and have my own interests (finance /business /heavy metal music / bit of sports ) but overall I'm very boring to others I would say

So based on that alone people don't have to have common interests to get along but it does help

However , I find some academic people who are well versed on certain subjects very interesting

Sadly for me it's far and few between so I end up listening to podcasts

I can see your point OP how people are boring but then you need 2 people who have the very same interest to connect and find each other interesting

wally1990 · 20-07-2019 04:55PM

Fighting Tao wrote: »

Most boring are those that obsess over scripted reality shows and the so called celebrities they churn out. Or anyone into celebrity culture.

Which is so many people in the geenral public

My workplace floor (about 30 people) are nearly all watching love island

I just don't get it

But each to their own

Brain dead TV for me

Ten of Swords · 20-07-2019 05:06PM

If someone is knowledgeable about something I am interested in and they want to talk about it I'm all ears, what makes them boring or interesting is how they talk to me about it. Talking down to me about it or being condescending, forget about it I'll switch off completely. Enthusiastic and passionate about it, that's what makes it interesting.

Plumbthedepths · 20-07-2019 05:06PM

It's a matter of opinion. Some people that I find deplorable pr*cks others think are interesting. Eg Ryan Tubridy, oxygen thief.

Collie D · 20-07-2019 05:08PM

Anyone who owns a Coldplay or Snow Patrol album

ToddyDoody · 20-07-2019 05:09PM

Collie D wrote: »

Anyone who owns a Coldplay or Snow Patrol album

Makes someone interesting.

completedit · 20-07-2019 05:09PM

Love Island is a bit **** but it's not that bad either, it's just funny to hate it I find. In a way I actually find it better than watching some series because least there's an element to watching something in real time with real people engaging in this artificial scenario and watch the social dynamics develop. Most of them in it are bland as **** but it's not the worst. But, when hardcore viewers of it, talk about the show like it's the most important **** ever, that's retarded. My sister watches it as if these peoples problems actually matter.

Plumbthedepths · 20-07-2019 05:11PM

Redsky121 wrote:

Why is it brain dead tv, what makes a tv show brain dead? It can be interesting to observe social dynamics at play and I suspect people who have strong negative emotions towards it deep down are resentful that they were never one of the cool kids in school. They never really knew how to gel with people and to be respected socially.

Do you understand the concept of personal opinion?

20-07-2019 05:21PM

People I find boring: Negative people with nothing good to say about anything or anyone. Monomaths who assume everyone is as interested in their field as they are and can't pick up on the boredom cues. People who live a particular narrow lifestyle and treat anyone who lives a little differently as strange and suspicious. Anyone who writes off people for their taste in music, movies/tv or books or feels superior to anyone who enjoys popular culture. People who constantly use put-downs to describe others or who criticise more than they praise.

People I find interesting: People who have a talent for expressing themselves and who can tell a story without you glazing over, who can laugh and like to learn and do new things. Curious people and people who might not agree with you but don't see that as an opportunity to convert you to their way of thinking but as an opportunity to explore different viewpoints. People who see the good in others before the bad. People who laugh a lot and have smiley faces and twinkly eyes and happy dispositions are nice to be around in general.

Most people have something interesting about them.

Plumbthedepths · 20-07-2019 05:25PM

Redsky121 wrote:

Even a personal opinion usually has a basis behind it, opinions don't come from thin air.

Everyone has a opinion based on morals/ belief and opinion.

Redsky121 wrote:

Some people in life are just not good socially, they wonder why nobody really listens when they speak the way they listen to more popular people. They come to resent people who are good socially, or are seen as "cool" or confident.

You dissected another posters opinion even though they conceded 'each to their own'. That's acceptance of the opinion of others. You on the other hand are basically seeking to be a d**k. Why?

Collie D · 20-07-2019 05:25PM

ToddyDoody wrote: »

Makes someone interesting.

I only read one of the options. That wasn’t the one I read

Mad_maxx · 20-07-2019 05:30PM

Depends on compatibility as someone else already said, I grew up in a rural parish so you had to take what was there, guys I went to school with still think stimulating conversation is chatting about what kind of tyres Jimmy has on his new John deere

Fourier · 20-07-2019 05:32PM

Hard to say, but I like people who can be jokey and serious especially mixing the two. My favourite conversations are joke filled ones about serious topics.

The most boring are axe grinders I think.

Also depends on the situation. I've often had long chats with people one-to-one about something they know well, which is great. However if you're on a night out unsuited to it or in a group and somebody launches into it that'd be very boring.

Graces7 · 20-07-2019 05:41PM

completedit wrote: »

Some of the most entertaining people I know to be around are not particularly interested in the world around them, while some of the most boring are well versed on a number of topics. What to you is an interesting person? And what makes someone boring? Who is the most interesting and/or most boring person you know?

are you equating interesting with entertaining? hmmmm. All people are interesting if you take them as they are .

all individuals

completedit · 20-07-2019 05:42PM

Yeh but entertaining people can make everyday scenarios interesting and boring people could make amazing things seem bland. Hard to put a finger on it, probably depends on energy, delivery, confidence etc.

Church on Tuesday · 20-07-2019 05:45PM

I find people who are poor listeners to be pretty boring. That and reality TV/celeb culture fans.

You and I can have all the similar interests in the world, but if you can't or won't take in what I or others have to say and listen then I'll lose interest and politely take my leave.

Always Tired · 20-07-2019 05:49PM

Redsky121 wrote: »

Even a personal opinion usually has a basis behind it, opinions don't come from thin air.

Some people in life are just not good socially, they wonder why nobody really listens when they speak the way they listen to more popular people. They come to resent people who are good socially, or are seen as "cool" or confident.

Have to say that is definitely not why I dislike Love Island. They don't seem that cool to me, cool to me is someone who is real and everything about those ones is fake from their eyelashes to their tan. Cool to me is someone witty and intelligent and last time I saw a glimpse of it was a fella saying to a girl, 'I think your a bit damaged. I might fancy ya but dunno if I like ya."

What a cool guy. And I honestly think the women are vastly overrated in terms of their looks I just don't like that overly done up wannabe glamour model look at all, everything is painted on it looks silly. Though a big part of it is the personality that comes with that look is usually a shallow self obsessed dope. And that's why I don't see them as cool at all I actually see people with massive insecurities who are desperate to cover them up with physical attractiveness by frequenting the gym or beauty salon, since that's all they can improve, their brains have been non runners since birth.

wally1990 · 20-07-2019 05:50PM

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I find people who are poor listeners to be pretty boring. That and reality TV/celeb culture fans.

You and I can have all the similar interests in the world, but if you can't or won't take in what I or others have to say and listen then I'll lose interest and politely take my leave.

Valid point
To find someone likeable and therefore interesting then conversation is a two way thing street otherwise as an above poster mentioned, your being talked at

Plumbthedepths · 20-07-2019 05:53PM

Redsky121 wrote:

I'm not looking to be a dick, I'm interested in people's true motivations, I find it fascinating to dig dipper and see what really makes people say what they say and do what they. A lot of people carry emotional wounds from their past, and you can usually detect it when they show overly strong negative emotions towards something fairly benign such as love island.

So if someone thinks love island is brain dead nonsense you assume they have under lying issues. Sometimes people just have their opinion on somethings that doesn't require an analysis and are entitled to it without someone being a d**k. Live and let live.

20-07-2019 05:56PM

It's just a tv show. It's not a diagnosis.

Plumbthedepths · 20-07-2019 06:06PM

Redsky121 wrote:

No, it depends on the emotions it stirs in them. If it was a casual quip of brian dead nonsense then no, but if they actually seemed bothered by a show that they don't have to watch then I'd suspect something deeper could be at play.

Whatever.........

freshpopcorn · 20-07-2019 06:08PM

I find people into poetry very boring.
You'd be there and they'd be rambling on for ages and crowd/group would nearly be asleep and then they'll start on another poem.
I guess I'm not intellectual enough for them.

ToddyDoody · 20-07-2019 06:26PM

Candie wrote: »

It's just a tv show. It's not a diagnosis.

More MENSA members watch Love Island than any other show.

20-07-2019 06:29PM

ToddyDoody wrote: »

More MENSA members watch Love Island than any other show.

I'd be more put off someone telling me they're a member of MENSA than I would someone telling me they watch Love Island. I don't watch LI but I'd put money on it being less boring than intellectual snobbery.

Bobblehats · 20-07-2019 06:45PM

Boring can be interesting? Interesting can be certifiable

I don’t know I like a woman with thick rims. Lot of nerdcore in my history and I don’t mean the music

completedit · 20-07-2019 07:08PM

The problem with good listeners is they are usually not talkative. You need to add something to the mix, I’m a good listener but have nothing to say, I’m opinionated but just don’t have fresh thoughts

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