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Should I tell her?

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  • #92
    Geminigal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37 ✭Geminigal


    Super attitude!! You could have driven yourself mad for the next few months wondering if she liked ya and falling deeper for her.. You took a chance and either way you will be fine!


  • #93
    Red Lightning
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Red Lightning


    She just replied! Sadly no luck.
    She said that she appreciated the offer but that she was just out of a long term relationship so wasn't ready for anything. She also said she really valued our friendship and didn't want to lose me as a friend.
    I don't know if I'll stay as close a friend because I have to protect myself but I'm glad I went for it.
    A sincere thank you to everyone who offered advice. Much appreciated.


  • #94
    Geminigal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37 ✭Geminigal


    Ah well that's that then!!! Try not to make any decisions about friendship etc just yet. Sounds like she does value your friendship so maybe in time if it's right for you ye can remain friends.

    How are ya feeling now? Knowing it will sting and it actually stinging are different emotions. Be very proud is my advice!


  • #95
    Bythefire
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 69 ✭✭Bythefire


    Really sorry to hear that op.

    Only you can know if you can still be friends going forward, maybe keep a distance for a few weeks and see how you feel then.

    Well done for asking her, it wasn't to be this time but who knows what will happen in time.


  • #96
    akelly02
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭akelly02


    Red Lightning wrote: »
    She just replied! Sadly no luck.
    She said that she appreciated the offer but that she was just out of a long term relationship so wasn't ready for anything. She also said she really valued our friendship and didn't want to lose me as a friend.
    I don't know if I'll stay as close a friend because I have to protect myself but I'm glad I went for it.
    A sincere thank you to everyone who offered advice. Much appreciated.



    Just followed the thread . Was really rooting for you. Chin up , fella .


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  • #97
    PHG
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 475 ✭✭PHG


    Well done OP!

    Great of you to have the guts to go for it and see. It may sting but at least you know now. No regrets.

    The right one will come along at some stage.


  • #98
    Red Lightning
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Red Lightning


    Geminigal wrote:
    How are ya feeling now? Knowing it will sting and it actually stinging are different emotions. Be very proud is my advice!

    I'm not feeling too bad because it does suck but I couldn't have done much differently. Had she been single for months then maybe it wud be a different story.
    I think I may be able to stay friends with her because I know where I stand but it cud be tough for example if I saw her with another guy on a night out. That would be really tough to take ATM.


  • #99
    Red Lightning
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Red Lightning


    Seriously folks, the support here has been something else. Thanks a million.


  • #100
    Macdarack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 816 ✭✭✭Macdarack


    Fair play to you lad, now you know, no more mulling over the maybe or maybe nots.


  • #101
    trick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 80 ✭✭trick


    Red Lightning wrote: »
    She just replied! Sadly no luck.
    She said that she appreciated the offer but that she was just out of a long term relationship so wasn't ready for anything. She also said she really valued our friendship and didn't want to lose me as a friend.
    I don't know if I'll stay as close a friend because I have to protect myself but I'm glad I went for it.
    A sincere thank you to everyone who offered advice. Much appreciated.

    Well done for giving it a shot!! Takes guts. At least you aren’t leaving it months down the line and overthinking and fantasising about what could be. You know the score & you can protect yourself and move on.
    See how you go as friends. It might not be as weird as you think but if you are feeling like you can’t just be friends then you know what to do.
    Hope you find someone lovely, you seem like a lovely person <3


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  • #102
    acer911
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 569 ✭✭✭acer911


    Well done OP! Not the desired outcome but nothing ventured nothing gained..

    Great attitude! Onwards and upwards...


  • #103
    woodchuck
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,411 ✭✭✭✭woodchuck


    Mod note:

    OP, as your issue has reached a conclusion, I'll close this thread now.


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